girl broke up with me

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  1. outlaws

    outlaws C.R.E.A.M.

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    i'm so sad right now :crying:
    girl told me i annoy her because of the stupid questions i ask her all the time. that's just how i am and since she doesn't even talk 1/2 the time, i'm trying to find shit to say and she finds that annoying.
    she finally snapped at night when i thought we were having a good time and told me we're just not compatible, etc etc etc.
    she stopped talking to me and was ignoring me all night and when i would look at her in the eyes she would give me this :ugh: look like why am i staring at her even though i'm just trying to see why shes still mad.
    we had a two hour talk when she dropped me off and she said she just 'doesn't know what she wants anymore'
    i think deep down she met some other guy in her class and wants to go out with other guys and found that as an excuse.
    i told her to hit me up when she decides what she wants
    i know i suck at relationships but i know i couldn't change myself for her and i thought i was already giving it 100% in the relationship.
    i need to meet a new girl who will like me for who i am and get her outta my mind
    /rant
     
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  3. Gogoplata

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    this.



    You sound annoying as fuck dude. Chill out and be single for a while.
     
  4. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    I have a good feeling just based on your posts you have nothing interesting to say...
     
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  6. Gogoplata

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    :h5:

    tag team
     
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    Nuhlinga Whaa gwaaan papcaann?

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    thought I was in the main forum for a second there.
     
  10. Aronomy

    Aronomy Get your COME ON!

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    Find a girl who can hold the conversation. There are PLENTY out there, lol ;).
     
  11. blackbirdbeatle

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    If you were interesting to her and she liked you, your stupid questions would be cute to her and certainly not a deal breaker. As it turns out none of the above was true.
     
  12. TopDawg

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    I can't really give you a soothing answer but this:

    work towards improving yourself to be more interesting

    Pick up hobbies, learn some skills. Talents are very attractive. Shit, read a dang book if you have nothing interesting to say. Or else, find an equally boring and empty-minded girl. You decide.
     
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    sorry to hear :hug:

    work on yourself, like iwywb said, you don't sound real interesting but it should be okay because you also sound pretty young so you'll have lots of time to get yourself together :)
     
  14. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    Well he trolls, so you're on the right track...
     
  15. outlaws

    outlaws C.R.E.A.M.

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    thanks for this. i'm too open minded for her liking i guess. i try to get her to try new hobbies with me but she won't do any of it. she's not open to try new things and she says shes too girly of a girl. she actually even said she's too scared to leave her comfort zone and she likes to be in her little perfect world. i've been trying to get her to leave her comfort zone.

    i mountain bike on the side but it's winter time and since it's raining i can't go bike so i have lots of time to spend with her. i'm just about open to try anything new. i tried asking her if she would go hike with me for a little bit and she doesn't like to hike and she said that's just boring. i'm at the stage in life where health is very important to me and just eating everyday without exercise is not doing very well for me. she also says shes very lazy and loves to take naps in the afternoon. i guess that's college life right there because i did the same thing when i was her age. we actually stopped by a park after the zoo and she said she was tired and she took a nap in my car while i tried reading my book... :ugh:

    as for hobbies i am reading this book, 'the lightning thief' and also i'm starting to pick up guitar and want to learn some songs this year. i'm also trying to go back to school for my masters. there are way more things she complained to me about that i dont think you all want to read so i kept it really brief and short.

    i guess she's too immature for me in terms of our mentality and our stages in life. i really wanted to see this girl grow with me but i think it's best i let her go now. i guess the truth hurts sometimes. i thought i was ready for a relationship but all points she pointed out turns to no. i guess i dont know girls at all. :o

    to the rest of you with unconstructive views, i lurk and read all your posts. i have learned a lot and i want to thank you all for the insight to a relationship. i never thought i'd create a thread like this. i guess i like to listen more than i like to speak, so to speak. sorry this came off as a troll thread but it's just the internet, so relax. i already stated before this is my first serious relationship and i want this to work, but i guess i'm just trying too hard.

    i dont think i even have a point, i think i'm just ranting.
     
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    lol your ex would def hate me. i ask my gf retarded questions all the time.

    she either answers them to entertain me or calls me a retard for asking them.
     
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    you're definitely one of "those" guys. stop being "that" buy and you'll be much better off. in another words, stop being an annoying prick. frick, your post makes me want to punch you in the face just from reading it.

    that being said, cause it's not main, you will seriously be much better off if you learn to control yourself and keep your mouth shut every once in a while.
     
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    BlazinBlazer Guy Witness to The De-Evolution of Mankind.

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    From reading your first post I thought you are in HS... Seriously, I am trying to be constructive here: there's a difference between being engaged in a meaningful conversation, and just badgering a person with random questions like a child.

    It seems that it is the girl that lacks substance, not you. If you try to engage her in an intellectual conversation and she shoots blank, she ain't on your level. That could be a reason why you guys can't seem to communicate. It is also pretty obvious that you guys don't have much in common. So why not try to hit up a girl that's more in your domain (major, social groups, music taste, etc)? Find girls that hike, that do other things with you.

    With that said, I am gona leave you with one last advice:

    Never bend over backward to please a girl; be yourself and attract the right girl.
     
  21. outlaws

    outlaws C.R.E.A.M.

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    honestly i ask questions that i like to know more about. i'm driving 50 miles to go see her and since she's living in LA and i'm from OC i just ask her random shit i see and see if she knows more about it. i know shes not from there but i dont know where she has been to or not. i think they are just innocent questions trying to get to her know? i'm also just a curious person in general. that's why i'm an engineer. i like to find problems and solve them. one way for me to solve problems is to ask questions. thats just how i am and how i think. i can't change that. maybe the problem is i'm mixing work and real life :hs:

    ie: when we drove by echo park, i would ask her if she knew whats at echo park? obv this is a park and i know this but i only ask this because i looked up there are concerts held there. then she would just say, 'why did you ask me this question... you know i dont know the answer to these questions...' if she had just said , 'i dont know, whats there?' then i would have told her what i found out about that place. obviously if i knew she dont know whats at echo park, i wouldn't have asked her the question. for a normal person i would think she would be interested just as i am to find out more about that place since we're driving around that area but that's just how i see things.

    however there are times i just ask random questions to see how she would respond in the situation such as 'what ifs' or 'what she thinks of something' and she would still get pissed off. i would like to think these are innocent as well in the process of getting to know someone.

    it was brought to my attention during our talk that she was upset at me from the getgo when she mentioned to me that her mother had lost her job and that i didn't care about the fact that her mother had lost her job. she said i didn't acknowledge it and just changed the subject on her. at the time, i was really shocked and speechless to hear that because i know her mother knew everything to her. she hadn't told me that her mom wouldn't be able to look for a new job because she has a tumor that prevented her from writing. also that her mom had to sell their home in CO and move to their aunt's house in Seattle. i was just really speechless to what to say to something that big. i told her i changed the subject because i knew it would make her really sad to keep thinking about it. obviously this was on her mind throughout the date and it just built up towards the end where she just got really used that as a reason to get mad at me.

    i texted her today 'asking if everything is ok and that we'll talk soon' and she replied back with a ':)'

    i really dont know what to do at this point. i dont want to hit her up and seem like i'm needy but i do sincerely care about this girl and the trouble shes going through right now and i want to be there for her. i want to give her some time to cool off, however at the same time i dont want to let this go for too long where she feels i'm not there for her.

    i think what we lack is communication right now. i heard that is the most important part of a relationship. correct me if i'm wrong.
     
  22. XaPU!M

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    So this dragged on for months without you making a move...

    You FINALLY made a move and she ended it a few days later...

    Time to work on them moves...
     
  23. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    You think? That's what you've lacked all along.

    She broke up with you man. Live and learn; you weren't that great for one another.
     
  24. TopDawg

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    My friend, learn to be a conversationist.

    A good conversationist gets the other person to talk

    I will let you chew on that for a while, engineer.
     
  25. black jesus

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    sounds like a good thing to me.
     
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