SRS Girl Advice

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  1. silverspade14

    silverspade14 New Member

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    Met a girl, hooked up with her a few times and made her my girlfriend. Just started dating yesterday and she knows I'm leaving for college in 15 days. Today I was at her house and was being told by her parents that I should leave. Stayed around for a bit anyways and she calls up her ex boyfriend to pick up his phone charger that he had left at her house while they were still dating. Ex BF comes over, she doesn't even acknowledge that I'm dating her and she walks us both out of the house. Gives me a hug and heads back inside with ex-bf to "hang out".

    She told me that she has no desire for him anymore but the way they acted when he got there and the fact that she talks about him constantly tells me that she isn't actually over him. Do I end contact immediately or should I attempt to trust her? She seemed to like me a lot but I could tell she still had some feelings for her ex-bf and I'm wondering what they are doing right now.

    Tell me what you would do, I'm not going to blindly follow whatever is posted but I want to see how people with more relationship experience would deal with this, technically she is my first girlfriend and I have no clue how to go about this.
     
  2. Nite_Lilly

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    Listen to your gut...she is probably using you to make her ex jealous. You are right in thinking that she's not over her ex. Since you are leaving for college so soon, why not just take the experience you've gained from this situation and apply it to any possible relationships at school. When you go home over winter break, if you still like this girl, see how things are at that time. If she's really done with the other guy, you might have something going with her.
     
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    fuck her one last time, bust a load on her face, then bail.
     
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    you were the rebound...hit it one more time and quit it
     
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    Yea, I call Bullshit on what she did. If she was really sincere about being your GF, she would have told both of you guys to leave, but the fact that she just hugged you and went back inside with her ex is all the more reason to leave that bitch. I know that if my "girlfriend" pulled that shit on me, I'd call her out on that immediatly and say fuck it.
     
  6. Midgetized

    Midgetized Don't mess with Douche Cat

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    Why did her parents say you should leave? And why didn't they want the ex to leave?

    I wouldn't put up with it though. Not introducing you as the bf and then making you leave while she stays alone with him is pretty fucked up.
     
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    have fun for the next 15 days and get your rocks off hopefully, do NOT GET ATTACHED!
     
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    just_another_on New Member

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    Sounds like she didnt really break up with the ex.

    Keep it as casual as possible, enjoy yourself, but dont even remember her name come the 16th day.
     
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    You've gotten good advice here.
    Learn from this episode... just shrug and chalk it up to....life.
     
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    Hit it and quit it. This is a lose situation otherwise.
     
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  12. teo

    teo . => ? => !

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    This.

    Definitely hit it then quit it. Don't give in to her tears at the end, either - if she's gonna play that game then she should be able to take the heat.
     
  13. jeffswain

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    learn from me. dont get attached. you are suffering from the effects of not being on the same page together
     
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    yes.
     
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    sorry

    this!
     
  16. Spats

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    college? 15 days? Why do you WANT a girlfriend?
     
  17. gandhibrokemyskates

    gandhibrokemyskates slangin beer

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    First off, why would you want a g/f before you leave to college? Second, that was bullshit to what she did.

    end it.
     

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