gf's male best friend is complaining about me. help?

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  1. biggie03

    biggie03 Active Member

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    she doesnt hang out with him like they used to. he tells her to tell me that i am ruining their friendship. thats because she never sees him anymore, she started to work and pretty much spends all her free time with.

    what can i tell him? i want him to understand
     
  2. Gregsaidthat

    Gregsaidthat "Individuality is the new conformity"

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    Just tell him flat out.

    Hey look here, "Her and I are dating if she chooses to spend her time with me then that's her decision. I told her it was ok if you two hung out and did whatever." (dont know if thats true but could be)

    Then...

    ..."Well, I'm sorry that she doesnt hang out with you but that is not something that I have control over. If your going to be all jealous that she is hanging out with me then you are insecure and need to fix your problem."

    /Discussion.

    My opinion. Had to use it myself before. They didn't take it to well right off the bat but down the road when they think about it a little bit everything seemed to be ok.
     
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    i dont want to be confrontational or anything because he used to bad mouth me but then i met him in person and didnt say much lol. but he seemed nice in person, so i wanna let him down easy.
     
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    i told her its okay if they hang out but i did tell her if she cannot do it as much
     
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    we are a new couple, been going out for like 3 months
     
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    Gregsaidthat "Individuality is the new conformity"

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    HOLD ON WITH ALL OF THOSE POSTS!

    Damn chill out... just hit the return button and type!

    Tell her it's ok for them to hang out. She might of took it like you didn't care but were frowning it big time. In which the reason why he is mad, because she doesn't hang out with him that much anymore

    He might have feelings for her too!

    Besides that and more less back to the topic I think you should just talk to him about it. Nothing I said was confrontational, you just have to watch how you word things when you talk to him.

    Plain and simple.
     
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    biggie03 Active Member

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    he does or he used to

    she told me he liked her but told him that she doesnt see him that way
     
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    Gregsaidthat "Individuality is the new conformity"

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    I'm talking about now. If he is acting this way he is probably jealous as I stated in my first post I believe.

    To be honest i wouldn't even worry about him. If she wants to hang out with him then she will otherwise she is hanging out with you.

    Oh well. I wouldn't waste my time talking to him anyways if he talked shit about you!
     
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    biggie you suck dude you make a thread about your gf every da
     
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    Gregsaidthat "Individuality is the new conformity"

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    he told me in person he was jk
     
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    Gregsaidthat "Individuality is the new conformity"

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    How gehy!:greddy::greddy:
     
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    man i miss the tater tots at lunch from junior high
     
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    translation: he is jealous and wants to try to steal her away from you.

    It's really none of your concern. Who she spends her time with, and how much of her time she spends with them is completely up to her.

    I hate to sound like someone from the main forum...but he's just pussyhurt. You get most of her time now, and he's thinking "how am I going to get her to want me now that she never sees me?? I have to complain and try to get her to dump him blah blah blah".

    Nothing you need to worry about.
     
  15. purebad

    purebad I don't need your approval, right?

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    he is pretty much friendzoned, and will be pissed off at whoever she is dating...
     
  16. Ford4Life

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    We don't know enough details to say if he's friendzoned, but he's in love with her no doubt.
     
  17. I've been there and done that. Hell I made her best male friend turn gay, because he couldn't have her and the girl turn lesbian. That's beside the point. Move on with the dude, let her see him when she wants, and don't complain. Let him make a fool of himself. I'm a very agressive person when it comes to things like this. Just move on and ignore his shit. He's jealous she's with you instead of with him. Don't take it personal. It's all how AFC guys act. He's the emotional tampon and will always act as such.

    Beast
     
  18. purebad

    purebad I don't need your approval, right?

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    I don't think she would consider him a best male friend unless: he is gay, or she has completely ruled out the possibility of a romantic relationship(friend zoned). Other wise, is he was that good of a friend, they would be dating...
     
  19. Ford4Life

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    Not if he doesn't have the balls to ask and she won't make the first move.
     
  20. purebad

    purebad I don't need your approval, right?

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    I'll admit its a possibility, just seems unlikely
     

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