GF won't give BJ's.

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  1. machaf

    machaf Guest

    So my current girlfriend won't give blowjobs. I dunno. I've asked her if she would do it with a flavored condom and she still won't.

    I dunno what to do.

    We have been dating for 7 months or so. She is totally awesome and everything.

    It may seem kinda shallow and what not, but I almost wanna dump her cuz she won't give me a BJ.

    I dunno what to do. I guess this is more of letting myself vent post.
     
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  2. lauren

    lauren Active Member

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    each to their own. i know several girls who dont like giving head, and theyve never been dumped bc of it. seems to me, if shes a great girl and you want to break up with her bc of that, its for the best...she deserves better.

    what is she really wanted you to lick her ass. would you do that? or go down on her on her period? same deal. get over it. everybody has their own deffinition of 'too gross.' to qualify one action as grosser than another is inappropriet; it is an individual deffintion and should not be trivialized or critisized by others.
     
  3. firedancer

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    first of all, have you tried talking with her about it in a neutral environment when neither of you were planning on getting any? this is an important practice in any relationship when it comes to communication and sex...

    second, have you given, or are you just expecting to be on the receiving end... if it's the later, be sure to make yourself open to giving too - let her know how much you would enjoy pleasuring her, and maybe she'll come around...
     
  4. Master Shake

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    :ugh: @you toolsheds that see that is grounds for breaking up
     
  5. Ractoon

    Ractoon Shibumi in progress...

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    It would probably be very good for you to figure out if a blowjob is important enough to you in a relationship to break it off.

    Also on your side of things, do you keep it nice and neat down there? Do you wash thoroughly everyday, trim, etc. Like others have said, ask her specifically what she doesn't like about it and go from there, communication will make things easier. Good luck.
     
  6. ZZex

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    Assuming you're always cleaned there, just eat her out every chance you can. Then one day, ask her to suck you and she'll be like, okay!
    :love:
     
  7. Master Shake

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    As most people already said, it's all about communication. My girl wouldn't give me BJ's at first, but when she tied me down last week she gave me one, and omg was it hot. But yea we discussed it several times and eventually agreed that's it is just best that I let her work into it and not force her. But now it's a common thing and I go down on her so she gives me something in return for going down on her. But yes FOCUS on communication esp what goes on in the sheets. That's seriously a MAJOR thing to be discussed when in ANY relationship.
     
  8. chlywly

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    Most women who refuse to give blowjobs do it because they are insecure with their ability to perform the task... they simply don't know what they are doing or how to even begin......... Other women who refuse to do it, do so because of a mental block; some sort of Taboo they have developed through their life time from something that either happened to them during child-hood, or something they have made up within confines of their own minds....

    Both scenerios are curable with time and patience.

    You have to begin by talking about it, bringing it up once in a while, telling her how good it feels; showing her porno, showing her websites where blowjobs are explained etc... You have to show her information on importance of oral-sex....

    Some women are just affraid its NOT clean......... but as long as you let her know you are clean that you will wash or shower before hand etc, it should make it better...

    Most importantly discuss it, dont be affraid; state the importance, also GO down on her...
     
  9. Master Shake

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    QFT :bowdown:
     
  10. Marla

    Marla New Member

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    Boys Boys Boys!!! Just because a girl doesn't like giving blowjobs, WHY would you even think of breaking up with her? So what if she doesn't like to do that, or thinks it is "gross!' If you truely cared about her, and enjoyed her company...the fact that she didn't like to give BJ's should be so minor.

    I was going to suggest flavored condoms too, but if she doesn't want to, don't force her.
     
  11. Ghostaz0r

    Ghostaz0r With my ego, I can stand there in a Speedo, and be

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    The difference between Girls and Boys was just explained. :hsd:
     
  12. Master Shake

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    :werd: Truth!
     
  13. chica&buddies

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  15. Marla

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    Haha! It SOOOO is! I blame it all on males! :mamoru:
     
  16. nikkostarr5

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    Well i agree with most of what was said, but also I think if two people aren't compatible sexually then it can affect the rest of the relationship. If you don't work together, neither one of you will enjoy it and it will feel too pressured. However, it sounds to be me like you are both probably young, and she's probably inexperienced and is afraid of doing it wrong. Thats how I was. I didnt want to do it cuz i didnt want to do it badly. But once I found I guy I was comfortable with, and felt comfortable taking suggestions from, I really enjoy doing it :wiggle:
     
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    I agree 100%

    If the relationship IS a sexual one, then it is another aspect that will effect the way the two of you interact. Sex is not a seperate part from an intimate relationship, but a very important ingrediant, that will help bring the couple closer together, or farther apart, been on both sides.
     
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    You know, I wouldn't give my man head for the first 6 months of our relationship...because I just had never done it before and it seemed icky to me. Also because I knew that I wouldn't do it right. Knowing how much he wanted it...I took steps to educate myself on how to do it and do it good. It turned out that I loved it once I tried it and it wasn't icky at all. My man was very patient with me and didn't push the subject. He brought it up every once in a while and waited til I felt comfortable enough to do it. Just be patient with her.
     
  19. SquiGee

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    Good stuff:bowdown:
     
  20. BoypussY

    BoypussY game over.

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    i wouldnt dump a girl over BJ's. pussy feels better anyways.
     
  21. naughtie

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    I never gave BJ's before... I used to think the male penis looked like a friekin, nasty piece of deformed flesh...

    But I found an amazing man who is very generous when it comes to sex. He's also clean and shaven, too... that helps A TON! So now I am desperate to please him and actually crave his cock in my mouth!

    What was the point of that whole post, you ask? Be more generous with her, and make be clean, like everyone else said.
     
  22. Shahrum

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    Nah, I blame it on both. Guys, put it this way, if she won't go down on you, you don't go down on her!! Give it right back to her!!
     
  23. Carpet Liquor

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    I have no problem going down on my women, I love to do so. :lick: But I had had some women who refuse or are very reserved to go down on me, everytime it was a mental block.
     
  24. RedVsBlue

    RedVsBlue Penguins > *

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  25. limitless

    limitless You didnt hurt me, nothing can hurt me, nothing ca

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    i'd be patient for a while -- but life is too short to be with a girl who is selfish enough not to give blowjobs when there are so many girls out there who want nothing more than to wrap their lips around it and swallow every drop
     

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