GF wants me to delete pics of Ex on my computer

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  1. 1200mk

    1200mk Still same OG

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    I haven't spoken to the Ex in a year and don't have any feelings for her at all, but my current gf seems to be extremely adamant on wanting me to delete them.

    I feel like she is invading my personal space and does not have the right to ask for that.

    Thoughts?
     
  2. Pseudonym

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    I would say she has the right to ask. You also have the right to say no.
     
  3. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    It's rude of her to demand it. It's none of her business. She's insecure and whether it's all her or you've said things about your ex that made her insecure I do not know...What I do know is you need to communicate they are your pictures, and as long as none of them are like nude pics or sexy pics you have a right to keep them.
     
  4. 04JETTA

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    thats a bit rude and invasive
     
  5. 1200mk

    1200mk Still same OG

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    I am willing to get rid of them, that's not the issue. The issue I have is that she is pretty much forcing me to. I don't like anyone forcing me to do anything I don't agree on.
     
  6. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    Then tell her that.
     
  7. 1200mk

    1200mk Still same OG

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    I have... she doesn't take it well.
     
  8. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    How does she take it?
     
  9. Deborah

    Deborah Seeing is believing, but I don't want to know.

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    how are these photos? normal or bikini , nude or in anyway suggestive?
    how long have you been dating?

    I think the answer to these questions is really important. If the pictures are just some normal pictures and you two are not that serious with each other now then she does not have the right to ask you to do that. But if they are like nude or very sexy pictures I would definitely get irritated and ask you to delete the pics just to see you have no feelings(sexual and emotional) for them and that you respect my wishes.
     
  10. 1200mk

    1200mk Still same OG

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    she hasn't seen any of the pictures... but I would say 90% of them are just random innocent pictures and the other 10% bikini model pictures.

    I've been dating her for close to a year.
     
  11. 1200mk

    1200mk Still same OG

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    she gets upset and leaves saying that I am not taking her seriously.
     
  12. antihero

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    nudes, ok, she has some sort of point.

    If any girl tried to make me delete a every snapshot with another women I would flat out refuse and tell her not to bring it up again.
     
  13. DvBoard

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    Not going to work. She demands instead of asks. Might tell her to kiss your ass your going to keep 'em ONLY because she wouldn't ask you nicely. Giving into demands will just promote them to keep demanding...
     
  14. Deborah

    Deborah Seeing is believing, but I don't want to know.

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    hmm, well, I dunno, I would ask you to delete the bikini pics probably, but then maybe it is because I am insecure.

    how would you feel if she had pics of her exes, rather suggestive ones?
     
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    exes are people that were once very important. why delete memories unless it's something bad?:dunno:
     
  16. MattThom01

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    I would say, they are your pics on your computer. As long as they aren't interfering with your daily life or your relationship (ie masturbating to them nightly instead of sleeping with her), she has no real right to FORCE you to delete them.

    As far as how to handle the issue...just drop it. It's your computer..she's not looking through it without permission, correct.

    Don't do anything. You are your own person, not her person. I mean, really, what's she going to do?

    EDIT: I'm referring to non-sexual pics. If you have nudes of an ex, that is a bit disrespectful, but other stuff is fine,
     
  17. antihero

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    just because you have moved on, why should you have to forget?

    you never had any times worth remembering with an ex? I feel bad for you then. Anyone who can't see why you would ever want a picture that has an ex in it is likely the one that needs to "move on". Those of us that have moved on can see that it might be a picture of a good time that happened, that while the relationship didnt work out, is a good memory that can be cherished like any other memory of people who aren't in your life anymore.
     
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    say "fine, you delete them yourself because you're a bitch" :hsugh:
     
  19. Drifter87

    Drifter87 Yippi-kay-ay, Motherfucker

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    If you are over her, deleting the pictures should be easy. If my GF asked me to I would, but I would expect her to delete all pictures of her exs in return.
     
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    grow up and delete them.
     
  21. Ideotique

    Ideotique Drinking on monday nights does not make me an alco

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    Fuck, I'm still friends with a couple of my ex's.

    What would that psycho possessive bitch say about that?
     
  22. antihero

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    Out of curiousity, is there anyone who thinks you should delete innocent fully clothed pictures of an ex, that does not consider themselves very insecure and/or very jealous?
     
  23. Ideotique

    Ideotique Drinking on monday nights does not make me an alco

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    I don't keep pictures of many things because I'm not a picture person

    However, I have pictures of me and an ex I'm still on good terms with at things like a friends leaving party - me, her, and bunch of friends some of whom have moved away. To demand to delete them is pretty controlling.

    Nudes etc yeah, a fair point. But things like that? That's insecurity.
     
  24. Ideotique

    Ideotique Drinking on monday nights does not make me an alco

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    But that's what I'm saying - we don't know what these pics are.

    If it's pics like the ones I have kept it is more because it shows a bunch of friends together for the last time. Real sentimental value - some of them I've known since I was 4 and will not see again in all liklihood

    If a gf demanded that I delete that picture because it included an ex then I would refuse. Not because it showed the ex, but because it showed a bunch of friends.
     
  25. antihero

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    dead serious question: why? I can't come up with any reason why I would care if I didn't have anything personally against the guy.
     

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