I've been dating this girl, we'll call her Ali, for about 2 months now, and we seriously have fallen deeply in love with one another. We've known each other for about 3 years now, and just started dating early February. Before we started dating, I was a douche bag...the fucking guy your mother warned you about. I drank alot, fucked around, and basically used girls for sex. What they wanted to hear, I had for them, and they heard it. Then after I used them, i never talked to them again. I wanted nothing to do with a relationship at all. The girl i'm dating now was one of my victims. I "used her" for sex 2 years ago and after a few years of us not talking, something happened, both of us are unsure of what, but we started talking again (now before we started talking again, I had decided that at 23, i was done being a douchebag and wanted to start settleing down). From talking led into the two of us hanging out constantly over our winter break, which led to us leaving for our seperate schools, i'm in FL and shes home in NY, and then it led into a long distance relationship, which i'm actually going to her school tomorrow to visit her for spring break. Now durring our stint when we first had sex, she had just taken a break with her then boyfriend. This boyfriend, we'll call him Ben, was with her on and off for 2 years. During the two year time span, she took a break from him, and had sex with me. Aparently she liked me back when we first had sex, and like all the others, i completely blew her off, because i just didn't care. So after devestating her, and ruining what i thought was ever a chance for a relationship, she got back together with him. During this time, Ben gave her a ring on her birthday, that is of her favorite color, and birthstone. Now this ring apparently doesnt fit on any other finger then her left ring finger. Fast forward until last month since nothing else really happened. I'm talking with Ali on Skype video chat, and notice that she is wearing a ring on her left ring finger. Being the inquisitive type, and old fashion, expecially with a "wedding ring finger," I asked why she had a ring on there. Her inital response was, because I like it. So then I asked, where did you get it from...to which she replied, dont worry about it. So of course i pressed the issue, and finally she said Ben gave it to her on her birthday a while back. Now I dont know about you, but I think that a ring, that fits only on your left middle finger, that was given as a gift of your long time bf, has alot of meaning behind it. Ali, does not agree. I asked her why she would wear something like that expecially after we've started dating. She says that the ring has no meaning behind it, and she just likes the way it looks. She wears other rings from time to time, but mostly this one. I've expressed my disliking towards the ring, and today we got in a fight about it. She still refuses to not wear it. Then we got into the fact that she still is really close with Ben, and that she still goes to him for help with some small stuff (she says after shes already talked to me about it). Am i way out of line for arguing over this ring, or does she still have feelings for this Ben guy? I am losing my mind over this.