gf keeps bringing up threesomes

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  1. craigl33

    craigl33 New Member

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    she always asks me if it's something i'd like and i always ask her "is that what you want? i think it'd make our relationship weaker, etc etc." and she's like "no. i just think you'd really enjoy it". it's ok if she brought it up once, but she brings it up quite frequently. does this mean she wants to have one? she even said "i have the perfect girl in mind".
     
  2. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    Umm, it seems pretty apparent she wants one.
     
  3. razi

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    yeah, she seems pretty hell-bent for it and for herself, more than you. you're the excuse that makes it 'ok'. let her have her fun and enjoy the ride.
     
  4. Paintballer

    Paintballer Choo Choooo....

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    If you dont wanna join in tell her you wanna watch her and her friend play with each other......
     
  5. JustaMeThang

    JustaMeThang New Member

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    How long have you been with this girl?
     
  6. fray

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    Either wants one or has heard that "every guys fantasizes about a three way" and is insecure about this and uncomfortable with the fact that you might and is trying to get you to admit you do.
     
  7. Daddy O

    Daddy O Active Member

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    Are you nuts? Jump on it.....literally.

    Many women are both AC and DC, sounds like she's one of them. If your ego can take another woman going down on her, then go for it.....it can be a lot of fun, assuming the other lady's photo isn't hanging in the post office.
     
  8. fray

    fray New Member

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    usps employee of the month?
     
  9. HuskiRuski

    HuskiRuski Cardinal Fan

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    um, this will lead to the end of a relationship. she's trying to sabotage it.
     
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    huntz0r New Member

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    Have you SEEN the women who work at the Post Office?
     
  11. fray

    fray New Member

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    those were women?
     
  12. Got_Milf?

    Got_Milf? Custom User Title:

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    my husband and i had one, and i was the same as her...in the beginning, it was all based on insecurity on my part. now that it's done and over, i'd probably have another one, but only after realizing that he still wanted me more than the other girl, that he liked what he did with me more than her, etc. etc.
    before we did though, i had it set in my mind that no matter what, it would be a one time thing!!
     
  13. Daddy O

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    I was talking about the "Ten Most Wanted" photographs that are posted on every post office in America.
     
  14. Daddy O

    Daddy O Active Member

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    There you have it - the voice of experience...and a MILF too.:)

    Your husband is a very lucky person.
     
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    huntz0r New Member

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    I knew that. You killed teh funny :(
     
  16. Yail Bloor

    Yail Bloor OT Supporter

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    Well, I will say that if she does want it, she is not going to answer you truthfully when you say "Is that what you want?"

    If she wants a threesome, she wants for you to make it happen so she can get swept away in the moment and not accept responsiblity for it, so that way she won't have to worry about the slut factor (thinking she's a slut, or other people thinking she's a slut - classic ASD - anti-slut defense).

    If she is bringing it up, she's interested on some level. But don't expect her to verbalize is directly by saying "Yes, thats what I want."

    And she may just want to fantasize about it so definitely talk about how much fun it would be etc. (if you are into it).

    This is another example of how women communicate covertly. She brings it up, but when directly questioned, denies it.
     
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    So long as you do NOT communicate in ANY way that you like the other woman more than your woman, you'll probably be fine. As soon as you say something complimentary to/about the other woman, you're dead.

    As I always say: Every woman that I've had a threesome with, I've broken up with. However, every woman that I've NOT had a threesome with, I've broken up with. (Exception: Current SO).

    Go for it, you've got nothing to lose in my opinion.
     
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    wtf spam?!??!
     
  19. Falconer

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    Maybe he means you should send your gf and her gf to whatever that site he's spamming is.
     
  20. Got_Milf?

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    maybe someone should let him know that :rolleyes:
     
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    go for it. she wants one, why not it is the american dream
     
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    Not for all of us. I personally have no desire for a 3some. I prefer to put all of my energy into the one woman I'm with.
     
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    KuntryFresh Midwest

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    how old are you two?

    how long have you been dating?
     
  24. razi

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    agreed. threesomes are nice (good ones are hella fun. anything less is a little awkward) but one-on-one allows you to focus. It's also more fulfilling.
     
  25. GreyRS

    GreyRS Your ignorance cramps my conversation.

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    I am surprised that no one has suggested that your girlfirend may be bi and wants to share her girlfriend with you rather than cheat on you. I have no clue if that is true or not because I do not know you but, if she is pushing the issue as much as you say, it could be a reason.
    More seriously though, the next time she brings it up, just tell her the truth. IF you really are interested, tell her. If you are not, tell her that. Don't play that stupid little game where you go back and forth with the "well, is that what you want?" Just answer her question. After you have done so, then you can ask her why she continues to bring it up. Some times to get answer you have to ask the question in a different manner. By turning it back on her when she asks you, it puts her in a defensive position, wondering what is the answer you want to hear. By answering her, honeslty, first you ease the tension a bit and then can ask her what her intentions are.
     

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