ok so here goes a long one.... dont really know where to start.. me and my GF have been going out for about a year and a half.. and in Feburary of this year , we decided to get a place together . BTW im 27 , she is 28 and has 3 kids ( im cool with the kids and all that). Her 2 boys ( 10 and 7) split time between our place and their fathers places, her 4 year old girl has some mental issues and is currently living with my GF's friend who can provide the kind of 24/7 care she needs ( this was all based on dr's reccomedations) the original plan for us was to split things 50/50 in the house, and things should have been ok..i paid the 1st month rent of $750 when we signed the lease, and she paid the rest of the month, about 350 for the partial month rent... all the bills are in my name ( gas , electric, cable). now the way i told her i would do this , is that i had to see that she could do it on her own with out me helping her.. she agreed to this ( i was living at home , she had her own place) she had a ok job making enough money to get by , and she should have been able to pay the bills. long as i saw her trying i was fine with it.. when it came time to pay however ,she tells me she is 200 short on rent .. so i put up the 200 and rent was paid. And i moved my stuff in about a month later around march of this year, my GF's old car is dying , she needs somthing new but doesnt have the credit for it.. i agree to help her out.. we end up deciding on a 04 chrysler pacifica ( good mommy car for her. and somthing better than my 04 GTO for me in the snow) i gave her 2000 for the down payment , and the car is under my name. she agrees to give me the car payment every month , and 50 toward the insurance ( insured under me and my insurance went up 50 a month) shortly after we get the car , an issue comes up with my GF's friend who is watching her daughter , and it turns out to be a custody battle between her friend , My GF , and the Dept. of children and families here, after this extremely stressful time.. everything calms down , but my GF lost her job , due to having to take all this time off to fight the custody battle, so now im paying everything.. rent , my bills, my car, her car, and the house bills, its tough but im trying to make it work. putting me in debt but we are getting by she gets another job..but its hard physical work at a dog kennel making just over minimum wage and working weekends 7-11AM then back 2:30-4:30PM. barely leaving her anything to live on, but it fits the hours she needs due to DCF getting involved she needs to attend consuling with her daughter to get it all resolved.. now i feel she should still be looking for a better higher paying job..that fits the hours she needs so she can contribute to the house ( she hasnt paid anything since March) fast forward to last week.. what is just a small disagreement turns into a huge issue.. 1 tv in the house , we want to watch different things.. we comprimised , id watch the replay of my show the next night, monday night comes.. my show is going to come on. she is getting mad cause again she wants to watch what she wants... she ends up throwing the remote at me , and storms off to the kids room and sleeps there ( kids werent home) so im just like WTF was that all about .. we kinda make up.. go see a concert on wed night ..she has the next day off , im tired and have to work at 7.. she wants to go drive around and go to breakfast.. im tired and want to go home.. she decided we'll go home and she will go back out with her friend and do what she wanted anyway... im a lil upset but decide to just go to bed and get ready for work.. as for yesterday.. we had tickets to another show.. she was working , and i was getting my car dyno'd .. she stopped by and saw me on lunch said she needed gas and lunch , i gave her my credit card , so she could eat and get gas.. and went back to the shop... about 3 pm she calls me says she is tired and doesnt want to go to the concert tonight.. again im mad.. i try to get somone else to go , but with the short notice i couldnt.. she says go with her friend doug ( her lil 15 year old part time babysitter) i really dont want to .. as i planned somthing nice for us to do and am not interested in bringing him with me , we argue a bit , and end up not going.. i went out for a ride to cool off a lil bit.. when i get home. she is sleeping again in the kids room.. wont talk to me. and just kinda ignores me.. so here is my dilemma.. what do i do now.. im mad.. she doesnt think she has done anything wrong... i think that i dont ask for too much and provide a lot for her, when i ask for lil things it shouldnt be a big deal... i try my best to provide for her and make sure she is happy and has what she needs .. and this is the thanks i get for it ???? its just really frustrating when i try so hard . but in the end im sleeping alone.. things that should be enjoyable arent because , i feel she cant make those " comprimises" in the relationship.. i give give give.. but i dont see any give from her at all.. its take take take i dont know..i feel like just giving up on the relationship at times.. because this isnt what i feel its supposed to be like.. i know she is going through a hard time.. but she needs to comprimise more and work harder to provide for herself and her kids and not totally depend on me ,when im putting myself in debt every month just to pay her bills. so should i just walk on this.. cut my ties to her ( which i have been considering) or try to work it out with her???