not really a vent, but i'll write it as a story: i have been with my gf for almost a year now. one day, she told me she has a cyst in her stomach and it needed to be removed. i didn't think much of it because as long as it wasn't canercous, i didn't think it was life threatening. so, like always, i call her and email her constantly (blindly, i'm not clingy, its just what i know she likes and i do it). she doesn't pick up the phone calls or reply to the emails, but i know she appreciates them because the first thing she does every morning is to read the emails (i check her ip login, its a private email account i set up for her). so she basically just ignores me a lot of the time, but really... i don't care too much. i call once at night, once in the morning, and once in the afternoon (just ringing her phone, not actually wanting to talk to her). i try to email once a day, its usually short, maybe 2-3 sentences. she had the sugery and mind you, i am still calling her regularly and emailing her regularly (but she doesn't have email now, only phone). she doesn't pick up like always and replies that she's too weak to talk and she can barely take 10 steps. i say it's ok, not a problem. she stays with her aunt now some where across the country from me. so i can't visit her right now. i'll be driving over to see her soon across te country. and i'll be staying around the area she's at. (i'll be sitting with her family, and i'm uncomfortable around them). she calls me this morning and is sad\angry at me because i dont' care for her "what???" i say she responds "i'm sick and you don't even care" me "... i asked if you were ok, what did you think that meant?" her "[fumes]" me "..." her "*hangs up" i don't call her back because i don't like talking to her when she's angry, but she calls me back and tells me how i'm not showing enough care and that she might die and i won't even flinch i tried to reassure her by telling her i'm not going to leave you even if you are sick, but she replies with "yes, you will" here's my question... why is she acting that way? i think it's because she might be scared that i will leave her, but honestly i don't have any intentions to... i haven't changed my behavior before or after the sugery either. cliffs: gf thinks i don't care. i call her 2-3 times a day (she doesn't answer) and email her once every other day. why is she upset? if i wrote mistakes, i will clear them up.