GF hasn't said she loves me...

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    -With girl for 4 months basically. I know I'll get flamed for that.
    -I told her I loved her at a special moment.
    ---She admittedly was taken back, but closed her eyes and passionately kissed me. So she didn't say it.
    -Fast forward some time, she told me that she had it at the tip of her lips, but couldn't say it because she's never told anyone that other than her parents. She told me she feels the exact same way with me, just needed time to work things out within herself that had nothing to do with us.
    -I say it to her again, she says, "me too".
    -She randomly said "te amo" (Spanish for "I love you"). I told her I loved her back a little later, I ask why in spanish, she says "i feel it, it's just easier for me to say it in spanish". After a short talk, she tells me when I say it she likes it, she's not disturbed by it, etc.

    But so now it's like a week later, still hasn't said it in English. I know she feels it, she also acts like it. She's an amazing girlfriend.

    My questions for the vag; Am I in the wrong for wanting to hear it in English? And, what reason may she have within her that she hasn't said it yet/

    For the 2nd question, I'm thinking she was hurt before somehow, or is really preserving it for the right moment and thinks it is a marriage type of thing for her, which I respect. She knows I respect that she hasn't and knows I am not forcing her into it and knows she has all the space she needs with it.
     
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    Some people throw the L word around too easily. You will get a lot of flac in here for droppin the L-bomb at only 4 months.

    Its good that youve talked about it and that she isnt freaked out. Id just recommend saying it less often. Dont pressure her into it. Dont expect her to say it in english until shes ready. if shes comfortable saying it in spanish, rock on. she'll say it in english one day soon :wiggle:

    good luck broseph
     
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    1. how old are you?

    you're not wrong for wanting to hear it, but you need to understand that people express themselves differently.
     
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    You're right on that. I think I'll say it less. I have a great trip for her over our winter break, it's going to be great. I hope she says it then, but if not, I'm not going to push it, I am going to enjoy the ride so far and hope nothing but positively for the future.
     
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    just keep SHOWING your love, keep the L-word pressure to a minimum :wiggle:
     
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    Cool, appreciate it :)
     
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    Good luck with the lil trip :bowdown:
     
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    How does it have WAY more meaning in spanish? Not saying it doesn't (I don't speak spanish) but that just seems kind of weird to me.
     
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    love is just a four letter word, its what her actions say not what her mouth says.
     
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    Amo esa explicación.

    :o
     
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    read all of these responses over and over again, they are golden.
     
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    while I understand what you are saying, its honestly just a word describing how you are feeling, obviously for this girl "te amo" doesnt mean as much as saying "I love you" but you can say either one and be lying, or you can say either one and have these immense feelings, either way they are both just words.
     
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    Did, and noted. Thanks!

    PS - She's actually white, not Latina at all.
     
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    good work with the sub n00b :love:
     
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    i understand that the greatest thing is to love and be loved in return, but would you rather her say it and not mean it?

    also what if she never said it, what if she treated you great, was this perfect girlfriend and showed you all these signs of love but never said it.


    edit: the questions were directed toward the OP..
     
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    for what its worth... I've been with my girlfriend for about a year now... loved her after 2 months...

    I've only told her I loved her once even though I pretty much always have


    Then again, love is just a chemical addiction.... maybe thats why I never say it,... seems quite silly to me.
     
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    That's awkward.

    At the end of EVERY phone convo between me and the gf, we always say we love each other. What if something happens and you never get to see that person again?

    I have a friend you MUST end a phone call with "I love you", she WILL NOT say bye after I love you haha it's just something that she does
     
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    I told my boyfriend I loved him first, his response was "I think i'm there too"
    It kind of made me sad, but I kept in mind he had never said that to anyone before (and that culturally you don't love any woman romantically besides your wife, so it DID mean more for him)
    A bit later he said it to me, and everything was fine.
     
  19. iwishyouwerebeer

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    I can't understand why people expect to be told their partner is in love with them in a few months :uh:
     
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    Oh you "i love you" pressure people make me mad.

    how can you ask/demand/pressure/guilt someone about something like that? :ugh:

    she will say it when she is good and ready
     
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    stop being a girl.

    your emotional insecurity is a huge turnoff for women.
     
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    This means the same thing as "I love you too" and is much more fun.

    Your problem here is semantic. Stop worrying about it.
     
  23. Falconer

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    It's always been less than 2 months for me. You usually know right away... it just takes a bit of time to confirm.

    I've said "I love you" to 3 girls, all of whom ended up being LTRs.

    I don't get why it takes some people so long... you know almost instantly if you *click* with that person or not. I can't imagine casually dating for 6 months and then realizing "zomg, I'm in love!"

    I'm just sharing my experience, not saying it's right or wrong.
     
  24. iwishyouwerebeer

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    :hsugh: More like you usually know that quick when it's not actual love but infatuation and deep like. You are a rare Falconer.
     
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