Yea im sure some of you have seen my other posts about my now ex-gf, and i finally took the advice and walked away, i had to go back to my parents house and im trying to get my life and finances back in order. we are still in contact pretty regularly , as a lot of the bills she has are in my name and stuff like that, tryin to keep it civil. What i am seeing from her is a very bad downward spiral that she is going through , starting about a week before i left we spent a lil time together on Sat night, ( i didnt give her money or anything) and it pretty much confirmed what she had been telling me, she is now heavily drinking just about every night and smokin weed again . as far as i know , from what she told me ,she is either at the bar with her friends drinkin pretty heavy on the weekends ( thurs - sun nites) , or at home drinkin pretty heavy, this is somthin new for her as she never used to drink this much when we were together for about a year and a half the other problem is once again the weed smoking , not even 4 days after her last visit to CODAC ( state ordered due to DCF invoved with her daughter) she is again smokin weed. like she just totally doesnt care what happens to herself or her kids its pretty scary , what i have seen her turn into in the past couple weeks, what it looks like to me is she is trying to escape the reality of her life right now , she has a lot going on ( her daughter not living with her due to mental issues/losing me/ not being able to provide for her kids/ cant pay her bills.. etc) and is using the bar and drinking as a place to escape from the reality of her life.. it sucks , of course i still care about her and love her.. and to just see her throwing away any chance of making it and surviving, im also worred she is gonna end up in jail or in an accident due to drunk driving any ideas? should i try to help her.. or just let her follow her course and hope it doesnt end up behind bars or in the morgue?