GF - doesnt seem intereted in pleasing

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  1. pocketkings

    pocketkings New Member

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    I have my own place. My GF stays over a mostly throughout the week, not full time though. Her sex drive is no where near mine. Even when she doesnt want to do it, she isnt interested in pleasing me at all. She would rather watch TV or sleep.
    She has been with more people than I have in the past, and I know she use to be more sexually active.
    I have told her how I feel, that I want to do it more. And I want her to please me, and me to please her more. It changed for a couple days and
    then stopped again. I know she isn't into any other guys.
    What can I do? :sadwavey:

    we are in our mid 20's
     
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    the more enjoyable it is for her, the more she'll want to do it. something is keeping her from having a good time, and sex is now a chore for her.
     
  3. pocketkings

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    She enjoys me going down on her. I do it everytime and she loves it. I dont think thats it.
    During sex she does get dry sometimes and it hurts, but i stop and go down then. I dont know what to do.

    Im use to getting head all the time in the past, and she hardly ever gives unless i ask. and when she does its for maybe 2 mins.
     
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    been together over a year and are happy otherwise. I want to fix this, not end it.
     
  5. pocketkings

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    maybe im not normal. I get satisfaction in just getting her off.

    I dont think she feels the same towards me.
     
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    so, she doesnt like giving head. not everyone does... even if you make her do it now, unless she enjoys it, shes not going to keep it up.
     
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    thats fine. id be good with just a handjob while she is on the rag or not interested in intercourse. But even that i have to ask for. she would rather sit on the couch or sleep. :hsd:
     
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    feel like im married and 40. WTF
     
  9. Tiny pecker syndrome or TPS?
     
  10. pocketkings

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    explain..
     
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    You are not alone. I have the exact same problem. About a year into our relationship the sex slowed.. a lot. (it was about 4-5 times a week, now its maybe once a month) I too focused on her needs more than mine, but nothing changed. I would talk to her about it, and even broke up with her once over it. Things would get better for a week or 2 then go back to the way it was. We have been together for over 4 years now and I have come to the conclusion that in my case, its simply a difference in sexual drive. It's up to you now to figure out if she is worth sticking around for. However, dont stay around thinking "i hope it gets better" because if you do that and nothing changes, you end up just wasting time. Good luck man, i wish you the best..
     
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    interesting. thanks for your reply. good to know I am not alone.

    It sucks thought, because I know we both enjoy when we do have it.

    Not sure what i will do. I'll try another talk. :rolleyes:
     
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    maybe she was like this in the past. All her ex's did cheat on her.
     
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    Archer Sterling Vroom Vroom Moderator

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    btw..Sex is not the #1 important thing in a relationship, yeesh! Stop complaining and if she still loves you then thats all that matters.
     
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    if she loves me she should want to please me.
     
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    Archer Sterling Vroom Vroom Moderator

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    I want to ask you a serious question. In a relationship, is your expectation is to have lots of sex? If so, your never going to have a successfull relationship.

    Cliff notes on my last relationship: 2.5 years, last 6 months of the relationship the sex was declining, bugged her about it like crazy, she dumps me out of nowhere due to that and moves on.

    I learned my lesson that the relationship should not be all about sex and never ever pressure your SO into more sex. My new relationship of 1.5 years now, I am more happy and more mature and I love her. If sex doesn't happen sometimes, then so be it. But I am never ever going to make a mistake with pressuing my girl into pleaseing me when she already does with her love.
     
  17. pocketkings

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    ummm ok. I just look at it as why comprimise. In the back of my mind, ill know i could get it elsewhere and be happy like most other relationships.
     
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    is she taking birth control? get her on that asap, i know my last gf when she was on it she was horny all the time.
     
  19. pocketkings

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    has been since she was 17
     
  20. RedVsBlue

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    age and length of longest relationship?

    Sex may not be number 1, but if you dont think its a big deal then you are delusional and good luck finding someone that agrees.

    Edit: Noticed your length of relationships above...
     
  21. pocketkings

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    thank you.

    you know what else drives me nuts. her fav show is sex and the city. :hsugh:
     
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    I know my wife and I go through periods where are sex drives will be off. Because we love each other we make it a point to get ourselves in the mood, even when we may not want too. There are times when she is really horny and I just want to sit around and watch tv, but if I take the time and really just look at her and make it about love, ill eventually get horny enough to fulfill her needs. She is the same way.

    Love is about doing things you sometimes dont want to do, and sex has alot to do with love. Sex doesnt just give you the pleasure, but it also effects many other parts of your body and life...sometimes people NEED that release. Nothing wrong with needing that release, thats why you find someone who loves you enough to do what needs to be done.
     
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    :rofl: Thats on my wife's list of fav shows too. I cant stand that shit. Dont tell me she reads cosmo too? :)
     
  24. pocketkings

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    I think I will quote this in our discussion.
     
  25. pocketkings

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    LOL no. drives me nuts. they are all sluts.
     

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