SRS GF and I broke up after 3 years

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  1. SuckerPhree

    SuckerPhree New Member

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    This is more of a rant than anything. Sorry if it's too long. Thanks in advance for listening.

    My GF and I have been dating for three years (lived together for the last year) and we just broke up yesterday.
    It was a mutual agreement.

    We fought constantly towards the last 6 - 8 months of our relationship over random things. Basically, I was the insecure/controlling type and she was immature/irresponsible.

    I will admit when I'm wrong. I should have been more trusting and less demanding.
    She's a third-year freshman in college (taking 2 classes per semester), jobless, and has money-management issues.

    So, we always circled around the same issues: I think she should take more classes and spend less money.
    She thinks I should go out more to have fun and stop telling her what to do in her life.

    In our last conversation, we both voiced our grievances and decided we would be happier apart.

    Anyways, that's our background. We split up and now I'm in serious pain (emotionally.)

    I want to call her and just forget the whole thing, but I want to respect her wishes to leave her alone.
    I can hardly sleep and have lost my appetite (have not eaten in over 24 hours.)

    I randomly burst into tears over the slightest reminders of her. I had to go through my house and throw everything away that belonged to her.
    I had a hard time waking up realizing I could no longer talk to her.

    I was practically nonfunctional at my office today.

    When I'm alone I want to be surrounded, and when I'm with a group of people I want to go home and be alone.

    I can't go back on our decision. Logically, I know we should be apart, but I really want to go back to my routine. I want to fall back into comfort again.

    I guess time is key since it heals everything.
    I just wish I could think more clear.

    ... and that time would go by faster :rolleyes:


    Any type of comment is appreciated.
    Thanks again for your time.
     
  2. iwishyouwerebeer

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    haha

    thanks ? I guess
     
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    These are the hardest stages in life. We will all go through something that hurts us one way or another.

    You'll get over it.
     
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    Trooth

    Thanks for your input, sir.
     
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    No problem man.

    I say it because, I've been through the same situation. We were always together, she knew me most. I didn't know my routine without her.

    It's been 6 months now and I regret not living up every second we've been apart. I've finally gotten over it, and she's just a thing of the past.
     
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    Just curious...

    But are you with someone new?

    If so, do you feel the new SO knows you just as well?
     
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    Madeinchinamic New Member

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    I am not currently with someone.
    But I'd bet that anybody could know me just as well, if I allowed them to.

    Don't get me wrong, although my ex and I are apart, she's always going to have a certain place in my heart.
     
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    Yea. What you're saying makes sense.

    Right now, I just feel like Eternaling Sunshining this shit
    (excuse my french)
     
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    I've never seen that movie.
    Care to elaborate?
     
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    Basically the main characters choose to have an operation to expunge any memories of their previous relationship because it was too painful

    In the end they regret their decision.

    (Something like that... it's been a while)

    But yea, I'm the type that over-analyzes things... So I wish I could get this out of my head.
     
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    I'm one of those guys who used to be "uber" clingy.
    Now it's just like fuck it, let the women come to me.

    Nothing is too painful. It's how you make the situation.
    I bet if Jessica Alba was coming to bed with you every night, you'd drop your ex. ;]
     
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    Haha... actually probably not. Don't get me wrong, Jessica Alba is hot.

    But I feel like I hate all women right now... and I'm putting my ex on a pedestal.

    I find myself glorifying past moments

    Ah well
     
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    I know that feeling. But don't worry, look at those married couples who divorce after 20-40 years. That's amazing to me, how people could still carry on.
     
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    Grief sucks, but you did the right thing. I've been in your shoes. It really was the right thing to end it completely.
     
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    Yea. I guess we're stronger for it in the end.

    I appreciate your time and input., Blue
     

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