Ok, my current GF has a little bit more of a past than I would have preferred but that's alright. There is one main thing that bothers me though. She has a male friend, her "best friend" even. It's known that he likes her as more than friends and always has. He has also taken advantage of her once when she got drunk. She says she doesn't even remember it and he claimed he didn't know she was drunk. I call a big fuckin on that. If she was so wasted she doesn't remember, there's no way he didn't notice. He took advantage of her. He raped her as far as I'm concerned. Did this end the friendship? Nope, she's still close to him to this day; still talks to him and hangs out sometimes. I haven't met him, but I suspect I'll want to violently destroy him if I do. She's said she won't stop talking to him and that really pisses me off. I'm really not a "controlling" person, and I don't wanna be that guy who would even dare tell her who she's allowed to talk to. But I can not be ok with this, with him or her continued close association with him. She also has an ex-husband whom I don't care for (the "real" father of her kids vs me-thewannabe). But I'm coming to not mind the ex-husband so much though and it's just a given that he has to be in the picture anyway. I would prefer that the ex be out of the picture too, as he rather complicates things. That's kind of another matter though and I can accept him still being around. But this rapist friend of hers ...this just isn't acceptable. I can't demand that she never talk to him again, but I have made it quite clear how uncomfortable I am with the situation. She thinks "I don't trust her" and she's upset about that. I do trust her, for the most part anyway. Who I really don't trust is him, and she shouldn't either. I'm 100% sure that a piece of shit like him would take advantage of her again if he got the chance. I'm quick to admit that I am a jealous person, but so is she. It's something we have in common and can generally be considerate/respectful of. But I feel like she's violating that in this case. I can accept that he was part of her past and what happened happened. But I want him to stay in her past and not be a recurring factor in OUR present/future. Am I being unreasonable in wanting her to no longer have any associate with this "friend" of her's?