SRS gf and god = wtf

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  1. ctfalconk

    ctfalconk New Member

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    So i was talking to her forever last night, and shes been in sortof a odd mood lately so i straight up asked her "is there anything wrong?" she began to talk about how shes just been overwhelmed with school and family stuff and how weve been hanging out alot and how she needs to balance it all out... then she started going into how she doesn't feel that god wants her to be in a relationship right now, and i do not understand what he has to do with it... she says i didnt do anything wrong at all and that im a perfect boyfriend but she just cant be together right now its not what god calls her to do... maybe this will help..
    " I pray about things and I listen to what I feel God wants me to do Ryan, and every guy I've hung out with and sort of liked since I graduated God hasn't let me feel ok with being anything more than friends... and I'm not saying we may not be more than friends in the furture "

    "not that we don't have stuff in common or that I didn't have a good time, just like between me and God, I didn't feel it was right for me to be dating anyone right now..."

    "I don't know if you understand that about having a relationship with God, but I put that first in my life Ryan, and like I don't want to hurt you, but I have to follow God's will for my life and if he doesn't want me doing something I won't do it.."

    "If I feel it's God's will for my life, but like right now I just seriously cannot be dating, it doesn't feel right and I know it's not what I'm supposed to be doing "
    "It's not that you did anything wrong you ARE the perfect boyfriend!!! Seriously"

    so she gave me her friends phone number and told me to call her and that she would explain it better to me cause i wasnt understanding what god has to do with us as 2 people..

    is this just a bs way for her to say she doesnt want me anymore or is there really somthing between god and her?

    thanks for any help iam really sad
     
  2. RotiEatter

    RotiEatter New Member

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    bang her friend?

    I dunno, sounds like a head case man. She's probably thinking about Jesus when you are having sex.
     
  3. JohnJohnJohnson

    JohnJohnJohnson Effetely Sipping My Latte OT Supporter

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    Logic is unpossible when you talk about religion. Tell her she should do what she wants and feels is right to do.
     
  4. Milin

    Milin It's Terminal.

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    she hears voices.
    she's schizophrenic.

    RUN AWAY.

    there are plenty of hot wimmenz I don't understand why people get so hung up on just one if they are having problems.

    that being said...I'm going on year three of my relationship.
     
  5. Galt

    Galt Mindless Philosopher

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    she's ridiculous, get as far away from her as you possibly can
     
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    agreed, what a nutter
     
  7. Darketernal

    Darketernal Watch: Aria The Origination =)

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    Such BS :bsflag: , God doesn't decide for you who you should date thats your own decision.

    "I didn't feel it was right for me to be dating anyone right now..."

    She litterary says it ' I don't ' so it her own decision not to be with you, just tell her its a cheap way of getting rid of you, just say fine 'whatever' and walk away from her. Don't give her another chance , she is crazy.
     
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    i feel weird posting this conv, but its the only way you guys will really see the situation...

    9/26/200510:46:12 AMRooksRyan :S :( :'(Ryan9/26/200510:46:30 AMRooksRyan :S :( :'(Can we talk?9/26/200510:47:37 AMRooksRyan :S :( :'(I've filled your voicmail and you won't answer your phone or return my texts, I'm going to take a shower and then head up to school in a little while9/26/200510:49:29 AMRooksRyan :S :( :'(I had no idea you would take this this way... I thought I could be honest with you and that we could still be friends.9/26/200510:50:15 AMRooksRyan :S :( :'(Call me if you want? Or don't.9/26/200510:50:23 AMRooksRyan :S :( :'(But I am sorry and will be sorry forever.9/26/200511:49:04 AMRooksRyan :S :( :'(Hey, I'm getting ready to leave for class. I feel horrible Ryan and I'm sorry. I want to be your friend so bad but I just don't know what to do.9/26/200511:49:33 AMRooksRyan :S :( :'(I wasn't going to tell you this, but since I don't feel like you're even listening to me anymore I just don't care.9/26/200511:50:22 AMRooksRyan :S :( :'(I've been crying, I do like you Ryan, I really do, but if you'd just trust me that I can't date anyone right now. Maybe some day you'll understand it, and maybe someday you and i will work out. But right now I can only be friends.9/26/200511:52:12 AMRooksRyan :S :( :'(Well I'm going to go... I'm sorry and I miss you, I want to still be good friends. I'm sorry you're hurting, but I'm hurting too, not that it matters. I don't know what to say anymore. I'm sorry.9/26/200511:52:15 AMRooksRyan :S :( :'(Sorry.9/26/200511:52:17 AMRooksRyan :S :( :'(Bye9/26/200511:52:19 AMRyan :S :( :'(Rookswait9/26/200511:52:26 AMRooksRyan :S :( :'(what9/26/200511:53:18 AMRyan :S :( :'(Rooksi care, i just dont want to talk yet9/26/200511:53:57 AMRyan :S :( :'(Rooksi drove out in the middle of nowhere in the woods offroad and just been thinking9/26/200511:54:19 AMRooksRyan :S :( :'(Ryan I don't know what to say anymore. I just wish you could understand that it's not because I don't like you9/26/200511:54:45 AMRyan :S :( :'(Rooksyou didnt feel right with me...9/26/200511:55:06 AMRooksRyan :S :( :'(I didn't feel like this was what God wanted me to be doing right now.9/26/200511:56:06 AMRooksRyan :S :( :'(I know you don't understand that, but I wish you could just trust me and believe me that you didn't do anything wrong you still are the most amazing guy I've ever met, but I need something more than that.9/26/200511:56:07 AMRyan :S :( :'(Rooksi can picture me seeing you with some other guy, the same way it was between you and me, and i would die...9/26/200511:56:28 AMRooksRyan :S :( :'(There is no other guy ryan...9/26/200511:56:39 AMRooksRyan :S :( :'(it has nothing to do with any other guy... 9/26/200511:57:04 AMRyan :S :( :'(Rooksi mean down the road from now not now9/26/200511:57:19 AMRooksRyan :S :( :'(Don't even worry about that right now Ryan9/26/200511:57:49 AMRooksRyan :S :( :'(That's not even in my mind at all... I'm not looking for another guy I'm not looking for a guy right now at all9/26/200511:59:14 AMRyan :S :( :'(Rooksi know you arent looking for one, but things happen.... just like this happend9/26/200512:00:33 PMRyan :S :( :'(Rookshow do i let you go, i cant just be like... oh ok no more, just friends, nothing happend...9/26/200512:01:23 PMRooksRyan :S :( :'(Well you can still call me everyday whenever you want! And we will still hang out and talk all the time... we just won't be kissing or anything physical ya know... like friends are9/26/200512:02:05 PMRyan :S :( :'(Rooksi was talking to a friend of mine about this and she did the same thing to her old bf because things just didnt feel right, even tho he was a great guy, she just didnt feel like hanging with him9/26/200512:02:49 PMRyan :S :( :'(Rooksthe same thing, meaning she said god is telling me not to do this9/26/200512:02:49 PMRooksRyan :S :( :'(it's not that I don't feel like hanging with you Ryan, there is only one thing missing and it's an important thing to me, and I can't go on overlooking this and pretending things will work themselves out9/26/200512:04:04 PMRyan :S :( :'(Rookswhat am i going to do now, im lost9/26/200512:04:07 PMRooksRyan :S :( :'(I'm a Christian, and I plan to marry a Christian guy, one that shares exactly the same beliefs as me, and right now you and I just don't have that 9/26/200512:04:26 PMRooksRyan :S :( :'(No you're not, you're going to call your friend Brooke and hang out and she'll make you feel better9/26/200512:04:56 PMRyan :S :( :'(Rooksso is it because iam not chistian9/26/200512:05:41 PMRooksRyan :S :( :'(Well, pretty much yes...9/26/200512:05:52 PMRyan :S :( :'(Rooksi need a reason, i cant take because god says so for an answer thats way too broad9/26/200512:06:02 PMRyan :S :( :'(Rookshmm ok....9/26/200512:07:02 PMRyan :S :( :'(Rooksi need alone time, i wont be over this for months... i just wanted a trusting girlfriend to talk to and be with and have fun etc9/26/200512:07:08 PMRooksRyan :S :( :'(Ryan you and I do not believe the same things and that is important to me in a relationship9/26/200512:07:49 PMRyan :S :( :'(Rooksi dont believe in anything that doesnt mean i cant start believing9/26/200512:07:52 PMRyan :S :( :'(Rooksbut whatever9/26/200512:10:44 PMRyan :S :( :'(Rooksi dont want to do this... this isnt happening... never get a guy interested in you and just turn around and trash him9/26/200512:11:01 PMRyan :S :( :'(Rooksregardless of what the reason is9/26/200512:11:22 PMRyan :S :( :'(Rookswwjd?9/26/200512:13:03 PMRooksRyan :S :( :'(Ryan if you really cared about me you'd want me to be happy and you wouldn't be so selfish. Quit trying to guilt me into this... leave this alone for a couple days and then we can talk ok..9/26/200512:14:05 PMRyan :S :( :'(Rooksi do care about what you want, but i just wish you didnt have to do this to me9/26/200512:14:13 PMRyan :S :( :'(Rooksnow its done and you are getting what you want9/26/200512:14:40 PMRyan :S :( :'(Rooksyou got your way9/26/200512:15:05 PMRyan :S :( :'(Rooksiam happy for you, but iam also sad and confused at you9/26/200512:15:31 PMRooksRyan :S :( :'(Well if you want me to say yes we can be together and pretend that it's what I want then yes! Fine I'm a good pretender... but I just don't know what you want from me I was honest with you9/26/200512:15:57 PMRooksRyan :S :( :'(what more could you ask for?9/26/200512:16:55 PMRyan :S :( :'(Rooksi just want somone to be with that likes me for who iam9/26/200512:19:28 PMRyan :S :( :'(Rooksi dont hate you... but iam sad because you like me, but not enough to be together and that makes me feel bad like iam not worthy of a gf9/26/200512:20:00 PMRyan :S :( :'(Rooksthink of it this way, what if you had no opinion on god or religion, i bet you would still not want to be together9/26/200512:20:01 PMRooksRyan :S :( :'(Well Ryan you're just not for me, that doesn't mean that there isn't someone else out there...9/26/200512:20:13 PMRooksRyan :S :( :'(RYAN9/26/200512:20:26 PMRyan :S :( :'(Rooksthen why we decide that from the beginning now iam a wreck9/26/200512:20:40 PMRooksRyan :S :( :'(I'm going to class now we can finish this discussion later tonight if you want ok9/26/200512:21:00 PMRooksRyan :S :( :'(because I don't know what you want to hear from me...9/26/200512:21:04 PMRooksRyan :S :( :'(there's nothing else I can say to you9/26/200512:21:21 PMRyan :S :( :'(Rooksugh, i had faith in you, i didnt think youd actually do this, you had feelings for me9/26/200512:21:23 PMRooksRyan :S :( :'(there's nothing i can do to make you feel better I'm sorry9/26/200512:21:42 PMRyan :S :( :'(Rooksomg... :'(9/26/200512:22:06 PMRyan :S :( :'(Rooksok, iam starting fresh now9/26/200512:22:23 PMRyan :S :( :'(Rooksiam going to do my own thing for a while and ill see you sometime later9/26/200512:22:33 PMRooksRyan :S :( :'(ok 9/26/200512:22:51 PMRyan :S :( :'(Rooksiam disapointed9/26/200512:23:17 PMRooksRyan :S :( :'(RYAN I'm sorry9/26/200512:23:26 PMRooksRyan :S :( :'(I'm leaving for class, we can talk later when you're ready ok9/26/200512:23:30 PMRyan :S :( :'(Rookswho am i for if iam not for you or anyone like you9/26/200512:23:32 PMRyan :S :( :'(Rooksno one...9/26/200512:24:15 PMRooksRyan :S :( :'(I'll talk to you later Ryan, when you're ready ok9/26/200512:24:36 PMRyan :S :( :'(Rooks...9/26/200512:25:56 PMRyan :S :( :'(Rookswhy god what is wrong with me!!!!!! help god
     
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    Time to move on.
    Whether "god" is telling her, or whether it's her telling her, the end result is still the same.

    This is a dead-end for you.

    If you really want to get into it, then the fact that she's pulling out the "god" card...means you should RUN, not walk away from this one.


    If you, for some reason, find yourself unable to pull away...just imagine this scenario:
    You finally have her. The sex is good. You try to ignore her screams of "JESUS CHRIST OMFGGGGGGGG" while you're pounding her.
    The fact that she takes it kneeling down like a communion wafer is pretty weird, but hey, at least she swallows.
    And then she tells you "God told me the pill was evil. So..surprise DADDY..."

    If you look closely enough, her eyes will flash red when she says "DADDY"

    Makes you shudder doesn't it ;)
     
  10. Toasty

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    Like it's been said before, you can't force someone to love you. The more you push, the more you draw her away. From the chat script, it sure seems like you've pushed a bit too hard...

    Regardless, I think you need to move on as well. It may not be God speaking to her...but it sure seems like the Church is.
     
  11. JohnJohnJohnson

    JohnJohnJohnson Effetely Sipping My Latte OT Supporter

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    THat chat log was filled with self-pity. She wants you to try to pull her out of her hole but she also wants you to fail. Don't let her drag you down.
     
  12. AmCo

    AmCo Haters goin' Hate

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    move on!
     
  13. DiggityDogg

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    Is there really a question? She may actually do those things (pray to God) but the reality of the situation is that she is breaking up with you. I've said it before, I'll say it again: You just can't read into what a girl says to you, you have to pay attention more to what she does, what she is doing. Her words are giving you easy excuses and reasons for feeling the way she is feeling, but the reality of the situation is that she is dumping you. You don't dump someone that you want to be with. She doesn't want to be with you, she doesn't like you like that anymore. It's that simple.

    Guys are "fix it" kind of people. A guy loves a girl and she tells him something like this he thinks "Damn, I need to fix this, I need to reassure her, ease her doubts, etc". But what is really going on doesn't need fixing. If she was that into you this situation most likely wouldn't have happened. She's breaking up with you man and she's trying to let you down easy without hitting your ego too hard. That's all it is. Move on and start anew.
     
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    That's such bullshit. There probably is another guy, maybe someone she met at church but she isn't dating or hanging out with him so in her mind there's no "other guy." If there was nobody else she'd still settle for you.

    If she's going to blame this on God instead of giving you an honest answer, then she doesn't deserve your friendship. And if she can't handle that, then tell her to go ask God what she did wrong.
     
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    SpaMan Mind over matter.

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    I'm sorry but she's suger coating it with some bullshit divine intervention kind of story. I don't think she could be any clearer she said "Well Ryan you're just not for me, that doesn't mean that there isn't someone else out there..." I also cant help but wonder if that really translates to "Well Ryan, I've met someone else out there, tough luck." Sorry dude. I'd cut off all contact.

    But if she DOES come crawling back for some reason, maybe Jesus told her to, who knows, tell her that god has forbid you to date her because of the ultimate plan of avoiding attention whores.
     
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    Holy Doodle...wow..I've heard of people hiding behind their religion, but Chezwhiz Batman, this is a bit over the top...everybody says "run" don't walk away from this one and I have to agree...you'll just end up as discombobulated as she is...I can very well understand that you have feelings for this girl, but obviously she um, has a predilection um, that is in my mind, just plain out there. She doesn't know what she wants and is using the whole God thing as an excuse to dust you off..and meanwhile back at the ranch...you're left holding the empty nothing...uh huh, time for you to go see what's happening in the next ranch over the hill...do it verve, elan, and smile.
     
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    :rofl:

    Seriously, tho. I grew up in a totally religious house with totally religious freaks for friends. Some people actually do believe stuff like that. Some people just use religion as an excuse, tho. But like someone said, the end result is the same. She doesn't want you. And it really hurts, I know that she would use this as a cop-out if that's what she's doing.
     
  18. okita1

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    yup, she sounds like my cousin, minus the leading you on in the first place. you didnt notice the psycho over religious before you got with her?

    guess you either gotta devote your life to god and his teachings, take up position on the corner of main and 2nd street yelling your sermon to all that walk by and become the christian warrior that you were meant to be, or run like hell.
     
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  19. DiggityDogg

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    I'd rather shoot myself in the face with a bazooka than date that freako girl. Sheesh! Run for your life!
     
  20. ctfalconk

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    to all the people who are saying she just doesn't want you etc... She does want me, she would drive a half an hour almost everynight just to be with me for a couple hours to play cards, watch a movie, whatever... i made her laugh, she liked me.. she came to me, then when i got to know her and started to like her for real this happens... i dont get it, she showed alot of interest in me
     
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    I don't think that's unusual. It could also be that she had built you up in her mind but then she realized that you're not the right fit for her
     
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    Okay - and I want you to pay attention closely - I know what everyone is saying seems kinda harsh - but they are right - you need to move on and move on quickly.

    I am a Christian and it is not for me to question this girls relationship with God - neither is it for you or anyone else on this board - but I will tell you what happened to me and you can judge for youself.

    I had been going out with this guy for a couple a months - it was a LD relationship and we lived about 2 hours from each other. He would stay with me and I would stay with him and yes we had a sexual relationship. Well one day he up and tells me that he has been feeling strangely about somethings and that God came to him and told him that we should not be having sexual relations - etc - I understood that this was big to him (I have gone to church with this person, his father is a preacher - etc) and so I understood and agreed. Then we slipped up and then we were doing it all over again - eventually we broke up.

    Now the funny thing is that he is the member of another on-line board and when him and his current GF got together - he talked about how much they had sex and blah blah blah - and then a couple of days ago he makes a post about how him and his GF decided not to have sex for religous reasons - INTERESTING dont you think?


    So I tell you this friend b/c you need to move on - I know it hurts - as you can see from the above I have been there, but obviously there is more going on here then you will EVER know!
     
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    I'm a Christian as well and agree with you. I have been through this before with a girl, and it was not fun. Although it has led me to know christ as my savior, but i wont bore you guys with that story now.

    This girl and I dated for about a year. She was a very devote christian and I was not, this caused problems from day 1. She said she doesnt date non-christians but God told her to date me. Then about a year later we broke up.

    I agree that you need to move on, i know it hurts and i know it sucks and its not fair, i know ive been here.
     
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    This is what I'm thinking. Sounds like she wants to move on, but doesn't have the balls to tell you face to face, so she's trying to blame it on God.

    You're better off without this one. It's tough, but some times the right choice is to move on with what you can still muster.
     
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    OMG......this story sounds way too familiar..... do you know if her parents have anything to do with this??? believe me man..... I just came out of a situation similar to this.... long story..... but this was the whole reason why I moved out of my house 3 days ago
     

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