Getting soft while having sex

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  1. Girder_Shade

    Girder_Shade OT Supporter

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    I have this really bad problem at the moment with this girl I'm with.
    During foreplay and even before that when we are making out I get very hard but when it comes time for sex I have no idea why but my penis gets shy and its really embarrassing.

    Even when she gives me a blow job I start off hard but after awhile I start to get soft and I never end up blowing.
    What the hell is wrong with me, I do find her attractive.

    Maybe because I've been by myself for so long I can only get off with my hand. :hsd:

    Does anybody have any advice on how I can stop this embarrassing problem?
     
  2. Yahdude

    Yahdude New Member

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    ...viagra?

    Sure you don't like men?
     
  3. RedVsBlue

    RedVsBlue Penguins > *

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    Its official, most men dont know how their own penis works.
     
  4. NCS

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    happens to me too, but not when im fully rested.
     
  5. Abomb

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    masturbate less often, masturbate with lube
    if shes doing shit u dont like tell her
    RELAX
    RELAX
     
  6. Drifter87

    Drifter87 Yippi-kay-ay, Motherfucker

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    less masturbation and relax
     
  7. chlywly

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    This is pretty common, It happens to me, depending on how passionate the sex is, but if a woman isn't attentive enough to my needs, doesn't suck me off in between or provide any sort of stimulation, well then pounding away becomes monotonous and you get limp, get a semi maybe... It's a lot of work after all.

    I've had a girl who would suck me off in between, spit in my mouth, scratch the shit out of my chest, bite me... That would turn me on beyond words and I would be hard as a ROCK the entire time....

    (something to consider), I think most women don't get it.... the fact that we need stimulation too...
     
  8. pitchblue

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    I've run into this. It seems almost like it gets worse the more you think of it as an increasing problem. In which case it's just a psychological thing. Like previously posted, relax and try not to worry about it
     
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    i was gonna say something about while you guys need constant stimulation and excitement, so do us females. we need all that too..... doing stuff for the guy isn't always enough to get/keep us wet....send some attention this way.
     
  10. jones21

    jones21 Uranium Member

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    only happens to me when i use those black condoms
     
  11. jones21

    jones21 Uranium Member

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    which i dont use now
     
  12. azerel

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    Happened to me couple of times, in succession over two nights, with my new chick. It was rock hard in pants, but when things would get real, I mean we would both be naked, i couldn't even get condom on because my member would suddenly got shy and limped. Tried everything man, from licking her, tit-fucking, rubbing her ass with it...for no good.
    Then she for some reason (I think it was my 110 kg on top of her and probably some roughness on my part for being so frustrated) moaned like she's in minor pain. Man, it was up in less than sec, and stayed up enough for things to get going. Once inside, crazy son of a bitch wouldn't come till morning
    So you see, it's all in head - what turn you on at moment with bit of nervousness for laying with girl for first time.
    Good luck
     
  13. chlywly

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    I send plenty of attention that way ;)

    As for the nervousness suggestion, thats completely not it for me. BOREDOM more like it.
     
  14. demosnat

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    Invest in a few cockrings
     
  15. Frink

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    Most likely its in your head but I'm sure there's a possibility it's a medical issue.

    I wouldn't suggest that if it's not a medical problem. There would probably be a possibility you'd be dependent on using viagra every time you want to have sex which isn't fixing the problem inthe first place. It would just act as a bandaid to the situation.

    Just my short opinion :wiggle:
     
  16. lol I was hard for 90 minutes my first time, and never ejaculated :wtc:
     
  17. ASIANPRIDE

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    stop jacking it so much...
     
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    Is she fat?
     
  19. Abomb

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    i bet she is fat
     
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    :rofl: av
     
  21. eskarinna

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    my man got this once when he wasstressed at work then its just kept on happening because he was always worried that it will happen again and that he will loose me or i will cheat on him. I tried making him more confident or being supportive but he just kept on mindfucking himself and i could see how much he wanted it to work but just the panic of happening again was enough to throw him off. The resolution was he went to our family care provider and she prescribed him cialis. He took one tablet and was unbelivable what was even better was 4 days later way after the initial 36 hrs the pill works he was able to do it no problem and without any help. He is regaining his confidence which is what caused this in first place.

    advice i know its hard but try not thinking about it. Dont worry or go back to what has happened b4 just try to enjoy the now and think about other stuff but that issue
     
  22. angrybetty

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    PREACH!
     
  23. Max-99

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    I´ll vouch for that:naughty:

    Well if talking seriously i can vouch for both Viagra and Cialis. Have been trying/using those little pills since 2005. Ran into some info and pretty good prices for them overhere www.straightmansweb.com and decided to give it a try and glad i did so, they saved my life... well atleast my sexlife:)
     

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