Getting over an Ex

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  1. Nomad

    Nomad Active Member

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    Hey, i've never posted here but here it goes.

    so a little over a week ago i got dumped by my gf of 1 year who i actually did care greatly for, and felt she shared the same feelings. Well turned out she was cheating on me and about 2 days after we broke up she was telling everyone that 1) the guy she was cheating on me with is her new BF and 2) that i would routinely hit her (which i never did).

    I know its silly, to me at least, but at different points i sort of get down. not because i miss her, my simple rule in a relationship is "i'll trust you until you break it, then you're no longer worth my time", but because i have no one to talk to or hang around with.

    has anyone else felt this way before after a break up?
     
  2. THoC

    THoC New Member

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    you're going to be down bc you are no longer w. someone that was a huge part of your life for a year. its normal.

    you say you have no one to talk to.... do you not have friends?
     
  3. Nomad

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    yeah i got friends but

    1) they're pretty much always busy
    2) don't really know what to say or do to cheer me up etc.
     
  4. THoC

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    there's nothing they can say. they just need to hang out with you to get your mind off shit. you already said you dont miss her, just miss having someone around.

    what kinda shitty friends do you have that wont drop everything, within reason, to hang out while you're going through tough times?
     
  5. Nomad

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    college midterms > friend with issues

    i understand where they're coming from though
     
  6. ldaggerl

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    time heals all wounds. few months ago me and my ex broke up, well she had treated me horribly. Constant lying, constantly neglecting me. Well after we broke up she had already found someone within a month. Doesn't feel good but trust me your going to wait about a month or two and you'll see how much of a piece of shit that person really is and how fucked up there life is. It will help you get over her. ha ha ha ha.
     
  7. ASoT

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    Time.

    I don't get how it's so hard to get over girlfriends who CHEAT. Never happened to me but I imagine it'd be the easiest type of relationship to get over. Fucking bitch cheated. Die and rot in hell. Not worth a single second of my time. Next.
     
  8. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    :rofl:
    I've done that, but i met her in class.
     
  10. Drifter87

    Drifter87 Yippi-kay-ay, Motherfucker

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    I had a girl cheat on me, so I dumped her. She went around telling everyone that I was cheating on her and she dumped me. Yeah, I will never talk to her again and all my friends know she is lying.
     
  11. roddick

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    A person can be an addiction just like any drug. I actually am happy that my currently relationship started with distance between us and we dont get to see each other all the time. You can easily build up tolerance with that person if you are constantly around them all the time in the beginning. I know what that feels like first hand and also know how much it sucks when its over because you are craving that "hit" of them day after day until you ween yourself off of it. But you will ween yourself off of the girl and you will start feeling better each day with time like the other posters have said. So keep your head up!
     
  12. Nomad

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  13. Climbing Cracker

    Climbing Cracker I am the Devil. And I am here to do the Devil's w

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    i just ended a 5.5yr relationship. i've surrounded myself with many good friends who have introduced me to MANY new women. everything seems to be working out so far.
     
  14. Falconer

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    What a dumb immature bitch. You made the right choice dumping her.

    But it kind of makes her look bad, if you were hitting her and she stayed with you.

    Can you sue her for slander?
     
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    surround yourself with good friends. fill your time with hobbies and go out every chance you get. when you go out, make it a point to meet new people. this is the best you can do. you'll have good days and bad days, but eventually you'll reach a point where the good outnumber the bad.

    you have to be proactive in your healing. time itself doesn't heal wounds - learning to love new activities/people does
     
  17. Nomad

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    i didn't dump her, she dumped me
     
  18. Falconer

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    Oh I misread it :o

    Still, what a crazy. Good riddance.
     
  19. Nomad

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    so apparently my ex wants to come over today in about an hour to "hang out and talk"...

    i still really haven't gotten over her and can't help but think i might be able to win her back but i don't know if i have it in me to be with her again, especially if she does this sort of shit to me again......wtf should i do?
     
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    if you're not sure, dont see her.

    Seeing her is going to bring back a rush of feelings. All of it is going to be mixed emotions and you're really not going to know what you or her really need/want out of the relationship.
     
  21. ForgottenSpiral

    ForgottenSpiral Hope and Irony OT Supporter

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    What should you do?

    You should run. Run and don't look back.
     
  22. teep

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    don't do it. i did. it's an awful awful idea. just keep ignoring her.
     
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    :rofl:
     
  24. tainted beef

    tainted beef I got Grape Nuts

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    I f she hasn't shown any signs of learning anything from the previous problems then it will happen again
     
  25. Nomad

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    fuck man....i don't think i'm over her yet....i keep thinking about how happy we were together.

    :hs:
     

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