Getting head v.i has a problem

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  1. Falconer

    Falconer OT Supporter

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    Alright, this is going to be a weird thread.

    I love getting blowjobs. I know some guys aren't that into it, but let me restate. I LOVE getting blowjobs. The way it feels, the way it looks, everything. Especially if the chick is laying in a position that you can see her entire body/curves while she does it. Omg!

    Ok. My problem is that, my first LTR was like the master of giving head. For the guys in here, imagine combining the skills of Heather (of "ideepthroat" fame) with like Belladonna or one of the other masters. And not only was she awesome at it, she loved doing it (which is the most winning combination I can think of). Now why is that a problem?

    Because everyone else falls short by comparison.

    Even my other GFs that were good at it, still kind of sucked compared to my first LTR. They could still get me off most of the time, but it wasn't as good, and it eventually builds resentment (which is fucking HORRIBLE in a relationship). My last LTR always made a big deal out of it and wouldn't even swallow (I really don't know why I stayed with her for as long as I did).

    I know the obvious reply is going to be like "well just talk to them about it."

    But I think that giving head is like... ok, being a guy, I've watched a lot of porn. On an interesting side note, I've noticed that, when I'm dating a girl who isn't that good at giving head, I compensate by watching a lot of blowjob porn. But here's the thing: a lot of girls in porn, professionals, I mean, suck at giving head. I've literally lost my boner while watching porn because the chick in it was so bad at giving head.

    Normally I'd just be like "whatever," but it's starting to affect me mentally. It's like I can't even enjoy a blowjob anymore because I'm worried about not enjoying it... and when you get one of those chicks who thinks that it's ok to just go as deep as the tip... well, it's not going to feel good in the first place. And this happens in porn, too... I see it all the time! I want to be like "dammit, a blow job is not a hand job where the head of the dick happens to be in your mouth!"

    And my last LTR made such a big fucking deal out of it that it always pops into my head when I'm with a new girl now and I can't enjoy it.

    Fuck. I can't enjoy my favorite thing in the world :sadwavey:
     
  2. Abomb

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    keep dating around
     
  3. JohnJohnJohnson

    JohnJohnJohnson Effetely Sipping My Latte OT Supporter

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    if you don't keep dating around, see a sex worker
     
  4. Yuppy

    Yuppy Have a seat right there....

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    or just give them a few tries. you are not gonna get the A-Game work every time, but yea, not giving head is a deal breaker for me; also bad head is a deal breaker.
     
  5. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    lol, you're such a headcase Falconer, I love you (seriously). You fascinate me.
     
  6. Falconer

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    thanks for the advice :bigthumb:
     
  7. Falconer

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    i agree w u on both points. or was that 3 points? i agree w them all.
     
  8. fray

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    I know you weren't looking for the "talk to them" advice, but have you offered any pointers while they're down there to get them to shift things the way you like? or does it just get in your mind the first time and you just let the frustration build? I mean, I'm not talking if they just completely suck at it. But if they are good, but not as good as the first, maybe they are just doing things different and could alter their technique, just don't really know what you are liking or not liking about it.
     
  9. mikmit

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    i dont evne know what a LTR is.
     
  10. bmorrell

    bmorrell SoCal > *

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    falconer, once again you manage to write 5 paragraphs and overthink something...:mamoru:

    talk to her about it and tell her how to be better
    it's a goddamn blowjob
    enjoy it or you won't be getting one anymore
     
  11. yankeeschick14

    yankeeschick14 New Member

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    do you think the first girl was so good because you took the time to train her, along with her having some innate skill? maybe you just need to give them some pointers while theyre down there (given, of course, that they enjoy giving head and that they like getting pointers), and you can get them up to speed pretty quickly. Just train them, then you wont have to resent them. When they do something you like, give feedback, could be moaning or saying so. When youre not enjoying it so much, just dont say anything...theyll begin the search for your sounds.
     
  12. b-dizzle

    b-dizzle Corporate Man-whore

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    I know exactly what you mean
     
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    talk about it, let them know its a blowjob not a rubics cube
     
  14. Falconer

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    :rofl:
     
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    Lord of the Rings
     
  16. fray

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    no, that's LoTR. get your geek terminology right. :p
     
  17. PurpleSplat

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    worry less about the sex and more about the relationship... everything else will fall into place :eek3:
     
  18. Viper

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    Who the hell are "Heather" and "Belladonna"? :rofl:

    Anyways, you are one of the few people that I'd advise to back off from pursuing girls and relationships in general and focus on yourself and your issues. You obviously have a lot of psychological issues that you haven't worked out yet, and I think they all stem from that first LTR that went sour.

    Start facing that shit man.
     

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