Getting frustrated with teh ladies...

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  1. Achmiel

    Achmiel Why do we feel it's necessary to yak about bullshi

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    Long story short: Was in a loooong relationship. Been single for over 7 months now. Been doing the bar/club thing for the almost same amount of time, but in the last month or so, been getting my confidence up slightly to go up to certain ladies and introduce myself, ask them how they are, etc., and even hold a conversation. Sometimes I'll ask them what they are drinking, and if it's something I've never heard of, they'll let me take a sip. :confused:

    Couple weekends ago talked to a girl for a while, bought her a couple drinks. Thought we got along, so I found her myspace while browsing and messaged her. She messaged back and asked how I was doing so I replied. No reply to this day (that was last week).

    Was at the bar this past weekend and was talking to some wimmenz, bought one girl 1 drink just to be nice, while my buddy was buying jager bombs for us and 5 other chicks, and the girls I was interested in ended up disappearing. :poof: Then, went to another spot and was BS'ing with 3 of the girls that work there waaaaaay past last call and I thought we were gonna go find a place for a late night drink, but I guess they were'nt interested after all. :wtc: Am I being too impatient? They seem to think I'm cool, they remember me when they see me. I'm no Quasimodo, but no Brad Pitt either :dunno:

    I dunno what I should do. I'm to the point where I don't wanna be a dick, but I'm sick of buying a chick a drink, bullshitting with them, and then they disappear. Maybe I'll just stay home and spend the money I save on my car, at least she'll let me drive her around :dunno:

    What to do OT?
     
  2. JohnJohnJohnson

    JohnJohnJohnson Effetely Sipping My Latte OT Supporter

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    You haven't been rejected, really, have you. Ask someone out on a date, or to dance, or back to your place if you're feeling that sassy.
     
  3. jonno

    jonno New Member

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    well the first thing that i noticed is you went home and found a girl on myspace. she may think this is desperate and creepy. get her phone number!
     
  4. Achmiel

    Achmiel Why do we feel it's necessary to yak about bullshi

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    No, I waited till Wednesday for that chick. But maybe you're right, it could be construed as creepy. It just seems like when I say "so what are we doing later?" they just laugh it off, or gently let me down. But I haven't straight up asked a chick out. Gimme more!
     
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    JohnJohnJohnson Effetely Sipping My Latte OT Supporter

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    There is no more.
     
  6. BlazinBlazer Guy

    BlazinBlazer Guy Witness to The De-Evolution of Mankind.

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  7. Achmiel

    Achmiel Why do we feel it's necessary to yak about bullshi

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    yeah, I'm done doing that shit - I'll get em a water if they're thirsty :rofl:
     
  8. chica&buddies

    chica&buddies Active Member

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    :hsugh: it could be me, but i hate it when guys say that to me. especially those that i've JUST met. it's hard to explain why... :sad2: like i owe them time or something. i don't know...

    anyways, it would be better received (by me, anyways :mamoru: ) if you said something like, "i'd really like to hang out with you again. would you like to go to [insert local] on [insert date] with me?

    you haven't been rejected at all. can't get rejected until you ask the girl out ;). oh, and uhh... the myspace thing is a little :ugh: unless you two happened to be talking about the fact you both have accounts in person.
     
  9. Achmiel

    Achmiel Why do we feel it's necessary to yak about bullshi

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    I'll keep all that in mind - thank you :)
     
  10. Solus Emsu

    Solus Emsu ****** U N R A T E D ! ****** -----THAT'S HOW I RO

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    I will emphasize what was already said.

    NEVER BUY A GIRL A DRINK.

    Every girl I have ever just met and bought a drink for, ended up disappearing.
    Every girl I have ever just met and picked up, I never bought a drink for.
    TRUE STORY.

    The only time I ever bought a drink for a girl is if I had arrangements with her or knew the girl already and was either trying to get her drunk or trying to get her drunk.
     
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  11. Improvolone

    Improvolone New Member

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    It depends on how you handle the myspace thing.
    I recently met someone at my school, found her on myspace, and messaged her with
    "Clearly I'm stalking you on-line now.
    Congratulations."
    She got the humour.
     
  12. Achmiel

    Achmiel Why do we feel it's necessary to yak about bullshi

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    Here's what I said:

    Disenchantment has fully set in :hs:
     
  13. Bruticus

    Bruticus half dead OT Supporter

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    Agree 100% and I'm the same way. You buy a random a drink you're just wasting your own cash, let them buy their own shit.

    Though I don't understand the second half of that last sentence.
     
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    He was just making a point that he was only there trying to get her drunk :)
     
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    PocoDiablo New Member

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    1. Never buy a woman a drink.
    2. The correct line is "How would you like to buy me a drink?" (yes, YOU say that.)
    3. Stop being so desperate. This means you walk away from the women first.

    Yikes.

    Cemetary? Creepy. Dad? Wimpy. REALLY? Desperate. Telling them your plans? Even more desperate. You need to keep it a lot more short.

    Damn, I just read a great quote ... lemme see if I can find it ....

    Oooh yeah:

    Note that this is dripping with sarcasm ("Nice. Talk to me.") and that is good. Don't be so eager next time.

    All you have to do is slllllooooooooowwwwwwwww down cowboy. :)
     
  16. Achmiel

    Achmiel Why do we feel it's necessary to yak about bullshi

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    ^^^ Thanks! Good stuff right there!
     
  17. DadLife

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    sup homie?

    Do what I did at Cj's Friday...walk up compliment, introduce, tell her I wanna make out and succeed.....how in the fuck that works for me I dont know but it does...
     
  18. Achmiel

    Achmiel Why do we feel it's necessary to yak about bullshi

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    You just have that "I don't give a fuck" swagger :bigthumb:

    I can walk up and introduce, but it doesn't really get much farther than that. Then they start asking for my last cigarette and shit :rofl:
     
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    You gotta have something going for you ... or maybe she was drunk. ;)

    But seriously, that's totally possible. It's called confidence. He's got it. :naughty:
     
  20. break

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    Sounds like me.

    Its just a matter of being upfront to them and if you thinking they are interested then ask them 'want to go out sometime' etc. Better yet, just going up and asking for a dance or something is usually sufficient enough to judge if they are interested.

    I say this sounds like me.... as while I know I need to get out there and talk to girls more, I'm still slowly developing the courage (long story short, gf of 5 years cheated on me and dumped me about 2 months ago... so i've never really been in this position before. I was 16 when we started dating btw... so I lost alot of my youth to this bitch).
     

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