getting ditched/blown off

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  1. familyguy101

    familyguy101 New Member

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    This girl i've been seeing for about a month has blown me off 4 times now when we had plans. Her excuses were: "I'm too tired" "my dad is making me work with him today" " I just remembered that I promised my girlfriend that I would hang out with her tonight" and "i've been an emotional wreck lately and I'm not in the mood". She usually followed those up by apologizing. When I asked her why she is an emotional wreck, she said she doesn't want to talk about it. She said she'll tell me eventually, just not right now. Well, my questions is: should I just stop seeing her?

    The reason I ask this is because I don't want to be a backup plan for her, assuming that's the case. What should I do?

    I'd also appreciate a phone call instead of her just texting it to me. I do understand that maybe things come up for people and she could be buisy sometimes, but 4 times seems like too much.
     
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    HuskiRuski Cardinal Fan

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    she's about as NOT INTO YOU as someone can possibly be.
     
  4. familyguy101

    familyguy101 New Member

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    hmmm...even though we've had sex 5 times you guys still think so? Why would she have sex with me but then blow me off for dates?
     
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    Viper OT Supporter

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    Cause she's just looking to have sex.
     
  6. familyguy101

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    wow, she certainly seems into me when she is actually WITH me.

    So just keep her as a fuckbuddy?
     
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    She obviously just thinks you're a good fuck but not a catch. I wouldn't call her again unless it was to say "Wanna fuck tonight?"
     
  8. familyguy101

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    damn. I really liked her. She seemed genuine as hell. Consider her gone though.....except for sex here and there.
     
  9. familyguy101

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    she does. She said she has family issues like crazy right now. But everyone else advises me to leave her....
     
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    Because sometimes chicks just want a piece of ass, too. Shit happens.. :dunno:
     
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    Then maybe tell here that you're there to talk, but otherwise give her space. When my family goes batshit, the last person I want to tell is a guy I've been casually seeing for a short period of time. Instead, I go to my closest girlfriends or my FAMILY. If she wants something out of this, she'll find you when things calm down. Otherwise, let her breath, and don't pressure her into anything. Give her space, and don't push the subject. It sucks, but that's life.
     
  12. MattThom01

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    she's stood him up 4 times, what is there to talk about? She's making it clear she doesn't want anything besides sex from him.

    If she wanted to talk to him, she would make an effort to say so, or actually go out on one of the dates and talk to him on it.
     
  13. JekJek

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    yea, if you really like this girl i'd say give her some time to get her issues fixed. her family issues will eventually die down and she'll be back to normal again...hopefully
     
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    No, she canceled plans 4 times now. STOP being a fucking pussy and date other women.
     
  15. MattThom01

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    but in the meantime he should be out dating other girls, since she isn't available to go out with him now.

    Just call her up and say "Hey, it sounds like you've been really busy with work and family stuff, give me a call when you get that stuff taken care of, and we can go out again".

    She may not call back.
     
  16. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    Not that I'm fighting for you to stay in this lame relationship (because I'm tired of the weekly threads over shit like this) but I'd like you to at least learn something about relationships. Open your god damn mouth and tell her these concerns, NOT US!
     
  17. JohnJohnJohnson

    JohnJohnJohnson Effetely Sipping My Latte OT Supporter

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    The gospel of Matt.

    I prefer the gospel of John, which tells you to discuss it before closing her out. But be cool about it.

    If you think you can't be cool about it (i.e., non-accusatory) then don't discuss it. Better just to close her out.
     
  18. familyguy101

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    how exactly do I ask that kind of question? "why have you ditched me 4 times?". It just doesn't seem right to ask that, like it makes me uncomfortable as hell just thinking about it. I already asked her what is going on with the family, but she doesn't want to talk about it.

    I know I need to work on my communication skills.
     
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    please take some of this advice and thank me later. Just reverse the roll,and watch her attitude change. Your sounding to needy, waiting around for her, accepting this and letting her treating you like this. DO not call her at all, text her or nothing like that period. When she calls you, say your really busy and tell her to give you a call in a couple days, and hopefully by then you will have some free time. When she does call, you say im avaliable on this date at this time only, since im really busy. You are then saying, i have another life besides waiting around for you. This will actually spark interest in her, and make her feel like she has to compete for your time. Remember you have to keep a good medium her. Girls are never attracted to something that is easily obtained, neither are they attracted to something that is near impossible to obtain. Make her work to get you, not the other way around. Learn your game, and have her chase you. Applying a little bit of a push and pull method will do wonders. I am continuing to work on my game everyday,and through failures i have accomplished more than i ever had.
     
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  20. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    Just fucking tell her you've been concerned that she has seemed to blow you off lately. I personally think you are nuts. This is JUST like Valentine's Day when she had completely legitimate reasons to not see you and you freaked out on her. But still, the point is you need to learn to fucking communicate, so do it already.

    If it makes you feel awkward maybe that's your brain telling you IT'S TERRIBLE THAT YOU FREAK OUT OVER EVERYTHING.
     
  21. familyguy101

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    yeah I talked to her and she said she is fine now. Then she said that she is "too tired" and that she had a "busy day" when I wanted to have sex. I talked to her some more and it ends up that her busy day consisted of smoking pot all weekend. She said tomorrow we can screw. If she blows me off again, then THIS BITCH CAN KISS HER ASS GOODBYE!
     
  22. radfad88

    radfad88 The Batman-O-Lantern

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    no.

    just start seeing other people as well. stop making a fool out of yourself chasing her down, if she wants to be with you she'll call you up and say so... you've done enough it seems.
     
  23. radfad88

    radfad88 The Batman-O-Lantern

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    er... nvm you're kind of a dick. if you want someone whose time is worthless except to screw you... go hire an escort?
     
  24. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    Yeah. Please go ahead and do her a favor and break things off.
     
  25. MattThom01

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    So, just some thoughts here.

    She probably resents you for only wanting her for the sex.

    She smoked pot all weekend.

    And she's come up with excuses/blown you off again.

    This relationship will be over in less than a week, I guarantee it.

    Hell, save yourself some time and go whack it...you've got one lass time of sexing her. Probably not even that.

    Have you figured out it's over yet?
     

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