Not really an ex inasmuch as we never really got together before I found out she was seeing someone else (We were 200 miles apart at the time, and did like each other alot) and dumped her like hot cakes. Not the typical boyfriend/girlfriend cheating scenario as we werent together, just causally seeing each other. Now shes engaged to this guy, and I'm really good friends with her cousin who told me on AIM last night that she always keeps talking about me saying stuff like 'I wonder what would of happened if we had got together', and her cousin told me that she has never really got over me. Likewise here although I've moved on I do think about her from time to time. She said that this girl was going to get back in touch with me soon. This guy she was seeing she ended up with because I was ALWAYS out at the weekends, when we could see each others, at the soccer games. As you may or may not be aware soccer is my life, and I have always maintained that I wouldnt let a girl get in the way of my passion. The main event that sort of triggered her getting with the other guy was when she arranged a work conference in my area for the weekend which I was happy to do, as long as I could have the saturday off to go to Aston Villa vs Man City. She came up but I never saw her as she was working an all nighter and I had got myself arrested at the game for making gestures to the Villa fans and winding themselves up. So she got close to this guy from her area, who was just out of prison, and when I found out, the weekend she was due to come up to see me again I went bananas, and basically told her she could forget any chance she had with me. Since then I've not spoken to her in 4 months, yet she still asks about me and fantasises about what could have been, as do I. So last night I told her cousin to tell her (as I dont have contact with her anymore) that if she wanted another go of it, I'd be willing to do it, however, I feel a bit bad on moving on another guys property, although he doesnt treat her right. Me and this guy are pretty similiar apparently, both of us in frequent trouble with the law, although mine are mainly to do with what I get up to at football whilst he was in prison for 3 years for GBH. Anyway, I know what you guys will probably say, that its not worth it, but I'd like to have a proper chance at it, and see where the relationship would develop this time as previously she sacrificed alot in anticipication of me and her together, which like I said I fucked up by obsessing too much about soccer/football. What do you think? I know I'm a better prospect than the guy shes engaged to, and its obvious she still wants me as I wouldnt even be considering this if her cousin hadnt told me what did last night. Is it worth it, or should I just say fuck it?