Getting back with an ex?

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  1. certified.shitass

    certified.shitass New Member

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    Posting this here for serious responses. The responses I got from the main forum were :ugh:.

    Here's the deal. I and the ex had a really terrible breakup about a year ago. It was all my fault. She was a great girl; I was stupid. I basically got tired of being in a relationship, and started fucking random girls. Plus, I lied about it till she found out. She transferred to UT Arlington, and we really never talked since then.

    Well, she text me about a week ago, and we've been talking. I just tickets to go visit her in 2 weeks. At this point, I'm not sure if this is going to materialize into a long-term relationship.

    Weird too is the fact that my parents would go all bananas again. They're not too fond of interracial relationships :ugh2:. The crazy part is her parents are totally ok with it; and they're White - usually, it's the other way around.

    It's like we have feelings for each other all over again :ugh:. I'm confused. Do I go for it or not? I mean...the distance :dunno:
     
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    I'm serious there was a 3+ page thread with a pole about this topic that i was hoping was still in here somewhere, but i can't seem to find it.
     
  3. certified.shitass

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    I basically got tired of being in a relationship, and started fucking random girls. Plus, I lied about it till she found out.
     
  4. certified.shitass

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    Yea. Searched; can't find it myself.
     
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    Yeah, unless this girl has no self-esteem chances of her wanting to get back together with you are slim to none. Maybe she does, and you will. And, if you do get back together I can almost 100% predict an inevitable breakup.

    She probably just wants to have a nice little fling with a "safe" person, fuck, or fuck with you.
     
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    have YOU changed in the last year? if you did get back together, would you get bored again?
     
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    ~1.5 years. I doubt she wants a fling. She's a Christian and fairly conservative. I actually met her at church :ugh:
     
  9. Alaya

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    If you guys do get back together, she probably will always have trust issues with you, no matter what you do/say. This will lead to lots of drama and fighting, and probably a breakup.

    goodluck :dunno:
     
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    Meh, all the more reason. She's probably not the type of girl to have a random fuck buddy, but a an ex? It's like a "safe" person.
     
  11. certified.shitass

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    I've changed. I graduate college this year, and I'm pretty much done with my juvenile explorations :ugh: I'm ready to settle for a long-term relationship with future prospects, however, I'm still too young to start discussing marriage :mamoru:
     
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    if he has actually changed, I think it would show in his actions. but again it's going to be personal to everybody, people's trust comes at different prices.

    she is the one that contacted you, that's a good sign.
     
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    makes sense to me. I have no personal experience, but I imagine it would be VERY hard for me to forget or accept somebody cheating in the past.
     
  14. certified.shitass

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    :wtc:
     
  15. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    In all probability it probably wont work out in the long run. Choice is yours though...Doesn't even sound like you are 100% into it, so for that reason I'd say save yourself the bullshit, stop talking to her for good and move on with your life.
     
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    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    My ex cheated on me too. I was with him 7 years. Not only do I wish him dead, but if he tried to speak to me, I would laugh in his face. Why does this girl want anything to do with you?
     
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    :ugh: Cos she's not a bitter man-hater like you?
     
  19. sportsjunkie

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    if you two get back together, she's a fool, and you are bound to fuck her over again

    leave her alone; don't you think you've done enough?....
     
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    :ugh2: How about I made a mistake, and she cares enough about me to give me a second chance? :mamoru: It's not like she never did anything wrong during the relationship.

    I'm actually a fairly decent guy; at least I've owned up to my mistakes and I'm willing to put some effort into this. It's not like I can't get any girls around here, but I've recently grown past the stage of random hookups. I'm looking for something more serious; and she's the only one right now that I remotely have feelings for :dunno:
     
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    I'm not a man hater at all... I just don't respect people who disrespect me.
     
  23. sportsjunkie

    sportsjunkie OT Supporter

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    these thread always crack me the fuck up

    you ask for advice/some type of reasoning or insight...we give it, and then you get angry or upset? :ugh2:

    don't like the advice? INGORE IT!!!!

    you fucked up; if i were your ex i wouldn't even begin talking to you.


    so, now reiterate what you're really looking for from this thread
     
  24. certified.shitass

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    Yea. Your first response was some sort of advice? :ugh2: And, just for notes, she's the one that started talking to me again.

    If you have nothing relevant to say, perhaps you can troll in the main forum? :dunno:
     
  25. sportsjunkie

    sportsjunkie OT Supporter

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    i never said it was advice. it was a statement
    and trust me, if i were trolling you'd know it
    what i have is very relevant to say; maybe you might want to think it over and just let her be because you may just cheat on her again
     

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