SRS getting attached.

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  1. livingdeadboy

    livingdeadboy New Member

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    How fast do you get attached to a girl/guy you are dating?
     
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  3. Amanda Renee

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    i dont get attached very easily anymore
     
  4. SpeedLaci

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    The second you realize something that you might do dont look as good without doing them without that person
     
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    DesignerAddic71 RIP Luther Vandross 1951-2005

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  6. I have a very hard time getting attached. I think for everyone it's clearly different, but with me it takes more than just time to love someone. That bond was horribly and tragically damaged by the ending of two of my last relationships. Trust isn't even earned in my world anymore because I've seen how even over large spans of time and good deeds a person can immediately turn evil.

    I'm slowly working through all this so I can take some risks but I'll probably be forever confronted with fear about being betrayed until I can accept that it's simply the way this world works, and that no matter how much you try to think through, or analyze a situation - you can't protect yourself from "life."
     
  7. SquiGee

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    I get attached pretty easily, there must be something wrong with me :wtc:
     
  8. Nah, it just means you haven't experienced the intense suffering that can sometimes come when someone violates your trust.
     
  9. PuppyCat

    PuppyCat O.T. Mom

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    I hear you and I can so relate.
     
  10. livingdeadboy

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    no matter how much i get hurt, i always get attached easily.
     
  11. johan

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    Fixed.

    Self-esteem, lad, you must develop yourself as a person. The need, and pain, will lessen.
     
  12. chica&buddies

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    :hs: i'm still working on the "thinking with my heart and not my head" thing... i'm way too logical. i usually wait until it's too late...and the person's gone, before expressing how i truly feel. i can think of one person who got me to be comfortable with expressing my feelings. now it's my job to implement them.

    ;) it's been a work in progress for quite some time.
     
  13. Dobis P.R.

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    if I become attached to a female quickly, its a hard thing to do, but I just next her.

    for example, I met this girl here at school. I have no idea why I began to feel the way that I did, but from the moment that I first looked at her I felt that she was 'the one.' I was thinking about her constantly. I even looked her up on facebook, got her screenname and started checking up on her away messages and shit. Is this rational and healthy behavior? No! I looked to experiences when I felt similarly about girls in the past. It was then when I realized how the story was going to end. By putting her on a pedestal higher than myself, I would convey the idea that she is better than me. As soon as she made that realization, she would dump me. I'd rather save myself the time and trouble. NEXT.
     
  14. alexs001

    alexs001 Mawk! Mawk!

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    way too fast :(
     
  15. sphinx

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    im trying to work on the thing about me not getting so attached and caught up, just letting things flow, but its so hard.
     
  16. livingdeadboy

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    thanks for changing my post, it is actually true, as said as it is.

    I think its just a part of me, i love loving.
     
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    i have a very hard time getting attached/close to someone...it's hard for me cause i want to get close but im scared of being hurt, you got to pick & choose
     
  18. johan

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    Nah, don't worry too much. Things will get better.
     

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