(Cliffs at bottom) Hey all, I was married 12/31/04. My official date of separation was 06/19/09. The main reason behind the divorce is that we have totally grown apart and become two different people. When we got married I was still in college, I had one semester left. Now I have a successful career, I have lost over 100lbs since we got married, I am now extremely active and mountain/road bike, hike, gym, etc etc. When we got married she worked for a very large law firm, now she teaches kids at a private school. Essentially the point of this paragraph is to say that what we wee wen we married is nothing like what we are now. We have been emotionally apart for about a year, sex completely stopped 8 months ago. I am 27, she is 30. We have zero credit card debt. Our only debt is a car which I will pay off and give to her, and a condo that we are upside down on to the tune of about 80k. I am walking away from that as she got it before we were married (just a few months, it was a marriage house). I want nothing to do with that place and if she loses it she will never be able to afford another place (to own). My agreement with her is to pay off the car and give it to her, and walk away from the house and she has to deal with it. I moved out yesterday, all I have right now is all my clothes. I will go back over time and get the rest of my stuff, none of which is particularly important to me. I am staying with a friend for now rent free. He filed for divorce from his wife on Monday, so we have some things like that in common. I'm planning on staying here till our divorces are finalized and just saving a ton of money if at all possible. I spoke to a lawyer with her present yesterday, it will cost me ~4k do go through him. What did yours cost? I am looking for what stages you all go through. While I was cleaning out my clothes I found stuff from our first Christmas and just broke down crying. I was so stressed out I was throwing up all day yesterday. What will be the hardest part? When do things turn around? I'll update this post with answers to questions, and maybe we can make a sticky out of it? CLIFFS: Getting divorced for a myriad of reasons, none of which are infidelity. I have moved in with a friend for now and we will see how that works out. I haven't cried yet today, but over the last 2 days I have probably lost 8 lbs of water weight. Yesterday was the worst, throwing up, blood coming from places it shouldn't, etc etc. Give me your experience and insight so I can prepare for what's coming next!