FRK Gentlemen, weigh in

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  1. DarkAngel19

    DarkAngel19 New Member

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    So, I admit I am a terrible lurker on this forum... I'm usually at work when I have enough boredom to spend 30 minutes on the same site:)

    But I wanted to write in and ask a question that I have had for a long time.

    Why is anal such a big deal for most straight men?

    Now, all of you who read and reply in this forum are not exactly run-of-the-mill... I am so glad to see so many open and good humored men when it comes to sex. But in my experience with the men I've been with in college (I'm 23) they seem really against exploring this area, even just to touch.

    I am interested in playing with my boyfriend of two years and I need to know why it freaks him out so much. I know he has had some gay experiences in the past, and talks about being attracted to men, so I don't think it's homophobia.

    Is there a way I can breach this without him laying there with his ass cheeks clenched together hard enough to crack walnuts?!!?

    Input greatly appreciated...

    DA
     
  2. nosaj

    nosaj OT Supporter

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    start slow, give him a bj'er and give the ole poop hole a lil attention. Lick it it a lil and he'll losen up and soon enough you'll have a finger in there. the biggest thing to remember about anal is to get a running start!
     
  3. kiz

    kiz New Member

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    I'd personally be down to try, but i'm not sure how to bring it up w/ the gf.
     
  4. MrMakaveli

    MrMakaveli Loyal to the game

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    haha I thought weigh in was a 'what do you weigh' type of moment..

    I feel akward now

    :iough:
     
  5. element4all

    element4all Active Member

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    same here
     
  6. demosnat

    demosnat New Member

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    Bah. I have no clue. I have the same troubles with boyfriend.
    He has been such a prude about butt play :wtc:
     
  7. JordanClarkson

    JordanClarkson OT Supporter

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    It's a psychological thing. They're afraid of having "gay" feelings. And they're worried that their women won't see them as real men anymore. Eventually anal play will become more accepted, especially when guys start to see it more in porn.

    I mean some of my guy friends think that I'm gay because I'm into freaky stuff. :greddy:
     
  8. busydoingnothing

    busydoingnothing A broken man too tough to cry

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    Yeah, I think it's really the mental link a lot of men (myself included) make between anal stimulation and homosexuality, despite the fact that there is a perfectly sound, biological reason why it's pleasureable for every man. He needs to work on breaking that link. I suspect he's uncomfortable about his past gay experiences. Talk about it with him.
     
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    Zing! This is exactly how I feel thanks to my wonderful vanilla-missionary-position-all-the-time Ex GF.
     
  10. DarkAngel19

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    Sorry for the confusion, I totally didn't think about "weighing in" that way...

    *weigh in*
    1. Slang: To make a forceful statement in a discussion: She weighed in with some pertinent facts.

    Anyway, I just don't know how to start a conversation with him without completely bombing and have the option shut down completely for the end of eternity!

    If it's mental, then actually touching his ass while I'm going down on him would be bad, right?

    DA
     
  11. demosnat

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    Ew. How did you survive.
     
  12. JordanClarkson

    JordanClarkson OT Supporter

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    I had an ex like that. I always asked her about IDB and once she said ok if she could use a dildo on me. I was like hmm well ok but then we never talked about it after that. :o
     
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    JordanClarkson OT Supporter

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    i'd start with a massage with him laying on his back. work up and down his body with your hands, then kiss and lick his whole body and stealthily slip a tongue somewhere you're not supposed to :eek4:
     
  14. kwality

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    first off, don't talk to him about it. Like mentioned before, start off with a bj and move down to his sac then slowly move to his ass. He has to be laying down obviously. Do that a few times and I guarantee he will like it. After that slowly start with the finger then move on.
     
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    OoOlAlA New Member

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    I think if I did that ^ my boyfriend would be super pissed off...
     
  16. HouseLing

    HouseLing When masturbations lost its fun you'r fucking lazy

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    luckly for me, ive never had any hangups about it :wiggle:

    although yeah, i think its one of those things tied into being homosexual and its not how you "be a real man" :dunno:
     
  17. Kinks

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    i don't have any hangups about it either.. if a girl wants to go there that's fine as long as she doesn't jam a finger in without lube :)
     
  18. Guz200sx

    Guz200sx The man who does more than he is paid for will soo

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    I guess, You should talk to him. I wouldn't pressure it tho but if he's had gay experiences before, maybe it won't be a problem for him.

    Coming from a straight guy, I wouldn't do it because its a bit too kinky. I consider myself kinky and open minded but anal play on me is not an option.

    I don't consider it an attractive area of play.
     
  19. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    lol, I don't think my SO is afraid me playing with his ass is "gay." He's more distraught over the idea of what comes out of there every day.
     
  20. f1manoz

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    I'm open-minded and I'm a man. I've had one or two experiences and found it rather pleasurable. But my current SO is only open-minded to a point...
     
  21. Lobo2me

    Lobo2me Would you hit?

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    I'd worry more about it not being clean than it being percieved as gay :noes:
     
  22. kwality

    kwality OT Supporter

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    My girlfriend used to bug me about putting her tounge in and I would say no thats gay(typical guy). Then one day while sucking me off she slowly did it and felt so damn good I didnt even get remotely mad.
     
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    The Fugue New Member

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    I used to like it, now I dont. But I dont mind if someone has a go.

    :wiggle:
     
  24. XPX

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    me too
    I'm afraid of poop :o
     
  25. Jerseyguy

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    Most straight men don't want to be slammed in the butt by their woman because that is just one step away from them being gay.

    Now if you are referring to just a little playing in that area that will just take some slow getting used to. When I was younger I didn't want anyone going near my ass finger, tongue you name it the answer was NO. Now I don't mind if she plays with my butt a little with her finger. I still don't want a dildo up my ass though that is still too far in my opinion for a STRAIGHT guy. Now if you want to say you are bi and might be into guys then he shouldn't have a problem. But as far as I'm concerned once you start putting things in your butt as a guy you are no longer completely straight.

    JMHO
     

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