fwb or more?

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  1. calipolo

    calipolo New Member

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    So long story short there is this guy that I have been messing around with for like a year and a half. He lives like an hour away, we see each other about once or twice a month. We have had the talk a few months ago and he says that he isnt a relationship person, but that he has thought about it and he is afraid it will ruin the friendship... Is there any hope that it could turn into more or should I just let it go and be happy with the way things are?
     
  2. XaPU!M

    XaPU!M Active Member

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    FYI members of OT aren't psychics... ask him
     
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    sounds like his excuses mean he doesnt want a relationship with you. but the only way to know for sure is to tell him what you want and then ask him what he wants.

    do you want him to be your boyfriend? do you want to be just friends? do you want to just be fuck buddies forever?
     
  4. Diesel66

    Diesel66 My standards for women is like rent-a-centers stan OT Supporter

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    he lives an hour away, that makes it quite difficult. I tried with a girl in Martinez, that failed badly.


    Or he simply likes the easy, no bs sex.
     
  5. MattThom01

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    He's just keeping you around as a FWB for the sex.

    Which is fine, I would do the same thing in his place.

    Question is, are you fine with it? If you want more, but he won't give more, cut off contact with him...otherwise it will just hurt more.
     
  6. Jack Horner

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    "It will ruin the friendship"

    :rofl: Don't tell me you're actually falling for that bullshit..?
     
  7. ww_Crimson

    ww_Crimson New Member

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    I'm in Concord. Visit me. ;)

    It sounds like he's not interested in anything more.. he spelled it out pretty clearly for you. You can ask but I wouldn't even get into any wishful thinking.
     
  8. Diesel66

    Diesel66 My standards for women is like rent-a-centers stan OT Supporter

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    she's already an hour away, I'm only 10-20mins or so :mamoru:
     
  9. hotsauce

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    may i ask how you ended up becoming FWB with this guy?

    im in a similar situation, with the girl living about half an hour away and seems to be more of a relationship kind of person
     

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