FWB and Changing attitudes

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  1. tubachris85x

    tubachris85x New Member

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    I've finally realized that I don't need to be in a RL, but that I guess I just need a FWB or similar, I guess. I have something sorta set up with someone at the moment, but part of me feels it's "wrong," morally? I don't know, we both agreed that it's going to be nothing more then sex and friendship, so as long as she understands that, I guess thats ok.

    My first real time experiencing this kind of stuff, but Im open to it. I used to be more hard headed about not doing this kind of thing, but I feel it suits me better right now, then trying to force a long term relationship with anyone. I guess it also pulls me away from the crazies.

    Is it normal to, at first, feel "weird" with the idea? Am I a bad person for just wanting to get laid? :dunno:
     
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    Dahlia Active Member

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    This will end well.
     
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    What? No, why would you be a bad person for wanting to have sex?
     
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    Vysion New Member

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    It doesn't feel wierd, it feels new... just enjoy it while it lasts.

    My experience men can handle FB's, women can't... they say they can and agree to it in the beginning... but eventually the women want a real relationship.
     
  5. Diesel66

    Diesel66 My standards for women is like rent-a-centers stan OT Supporter

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    one or the other will develop feelings. Either you will want a relationship or just get jealous the other is fucking someone else.


    but it's fun
     
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    tubachris85x New Member

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    I've taken all of this into consideration. I *think* the best way to deal with that is just reduce the level of intimacy or what have you. She's only a local, and Im moving out of here in a few weeks anyways, and she knows it. I've explained to her everything, whether she understands it, well, I told her and warned her.
     
  7. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    Wear a condom.

    Have fun.
     
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    tubachris85x New Member

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    Learned that much :o
     
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    Kinks Sup. OT Supporter

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    Bingo.
     
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    XaPU!M Active Member

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    You are not a bad person, but I'd bet money that you are going to be the person that starts to develop feelings and ruins the whole thing.

    Unless your dick is out do NOT treat her any different then any other friend. And remember at all times what this actually is. If you keep your head in check you'll have a lot of fun. If you don't your going to be miserable.
     
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    ive head 3 FWB.

    one lived near me and we saw each other a lot. it didnt end well bc she wanted more. even though all was "understood" she still thought she'd change my mind.

    the other 2 lived about 45-60 min away. those worked great bc we'd only see each other once a week or so.
     
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    That's the most you should see a FWB. More than once a week and they will turn to boyfriend or girlfriend mode.
     
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    ForgottenSpiral Hope and Irony OT Supporter

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    Nothing immoral about it so long as you are honest about it. People do tend to develop feelings when physical intimacy is involved though so be ready to pull out the second you sense trouble.











    :hsugh:
     
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    true. but its hard when they live near you and hang out in same areas.

    thats my vote for FWB is the one where they live far from you.
     
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    ForgottenSpiral Hope and Irony OT Supporter

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    Mine lived 2.5 hours away. We just spent every other weekend together. It was awesome. :mamoru:
     
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    the one im currently arranged with is about 30 minutes away right now.
     
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    tubachris85x New Member

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    Meh, Im not really too concerned about myself developing feelings. I've noticed that in my last few attempts at a GF, it was REALLY hard for me to feel anything, and I never did in the end. Even with my first GF, whom I did at one point love, took me almost a year to get anything.
     
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    How does one get a friend to become a FWB?
     
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    Suave.
     
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    Then that's good. The way you worded your original post made me think you weren't exactly sure you could do it. But if you can keep your head in check then you'll be good. Especially if you intentionally don't treat her any different then another friend because it'll help keep her mind in check too.
     
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    Oh yea, Im making sure it goes nowhere beyond what it is now. Treating her just as any other friend though. Im moving in a few weeks, so it shouldnt be too much of a concern.

    Theres another friend I've known for awhile, she two, just likes to screw around, and thats it. lol she's more cut-offish then even I am, but even then, I only really see her if I visit her on my trips between south florida and tally
     
  22. chica&buddies

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    i have had a few fwb and fb relationships in my life. they were all great at the time for their different reasons.

    have fun. wear protection. be honest! :)
     
  23. JamesL

    JamesL wat

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    Fuckbuddies always work better when there is a buffer zone between the two of you. I had a few girls whom I had been talking to at a college about 45 mins from where I live... and everything worked perfectly. We'd call each other when we were in each other's cities and meet up. Eventually things ended because... well... they ended. I or her moved on to different things, got in a real relationship, or she gained too much weight :mamoru:

    None of the fuckbuddy relationships Ive had in my own city have ever ended well. And it usually involves one of her friends seeing me out with another girl or what not. Too much drama is involved when there is always that chance that you could run into a FB whenever you are out :dunno:
     
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    tubachris85x New Member

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    Oh because you live and breath with my relationships and you know EXACTLY what's going on? Pretty damn arrogant to think you can pass judgment on someone with no other basis then what they say on an internet forum :rolleyes:
     
  25. saosko

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    You should ask her to wear your Darth Vader costume :naughty:

    :rofl:
     

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