SRS Fucked by Karma

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  1. PuppyCat

    PuppyCat O.T. Mom

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    So, I have had a real bad cold, just recovering from brain surgery and life pretty much sucks. This past Friday I went and saw my neurosurgeon, sent my gift to the OT kid, and because I was down, Nurse Connie took me to the Dairy Queen for a Strawberry sundae. The blizzard hit on the way home, so we did not get home until about 6:45pm. We entered the apartment building and the kid that lives next door to me is carrying his coffee table, and I ask him “Hey Kid, are you moving out?” He responds “You just getting home?” I says “Yes, Nurse Connie took me to the DQ.” He sez “Um, you better be prepared for upstairs and walks out the door.”
    I’m looking at the stairs, they are all wet (not unusual-it’s snowing)…but there is all this grey clumpy stuff on them. Being an Engineer, I know exactly what it is….cellulose insulation…not good.
    We get to my floor, hmmm…carpet in the hall is all wet, people scurrying around, Firemen, yadda yadda. Nurse Connie opens my door and water trickles out. Not good.
    The water pipe in the ceiling next door has burst (freeze/thaw action), the water followed the pipe course and it found my kitchen and bathroom ceiling vents and it rained in my apartment. Not good.
    Almost everything was wet, carpets were soaked, yadda, yadda. Not good. Ativan time.
    I call my insurance agent.
    By that time, professional people have arrived…an Engineer, peeps with water vacs, yadda yadda.
    I talk with the Engineer. Not good.
    Nurse Connie gathers up some stuff we go to a hotel.
    At the hotel I call several of my “friends”, their responses were just short of fucking amazing:

    “Oh that’s too bad.”
    “Now you know what the victims of Katrina feel like..lol.”
    “Oh really? I got new shoes today.”
    “I would never live in an apartment.”
    “That’s too bad.”
    Yadda yadda

    Not one of them offered to help or ask me how I was. Not good.

    Saturday Nurse Connie and I go back to the apartment. There are industrial dryers and a dehumidifier in it. We gather up some things, and talk to the “person in charge.”
    He takes one look at my head (I know I am not very pretty at the moment) and starts talking to me like I am an idiot. Not good.

    We go to the hotel.

    Sunday we go back. Nurse Connie starts cleaning up. The carpet is just a tad moist, the dryers are on, etc.

    The Engineer comes in with the “person in charge”. He does the probes. All my ceilings have to be replaced. The carpets, floors have to come up. The walls have to come down and be replaced. Yadda yadda. Not good.

    Bottom line: I have until Tuesday (tomorrow) to move out.

    I do not have any strength of spirit. I don’t. I have had an extremely bad year. All the photographs I had in a box in my closet are ruined. My degrees from uni that I had on the bathroom walls are ruined. It’s just a mess. So, here I sit, Monday morning, with a cold, depressed, a shaved head, nasty scar across the side of my head, everything is wet or ruined. And I wonder if this is karma payback.

    How much suffering can a human endure? How much Karma payback am I going to receive?

    I just want to sleep and not make any decisions or think about tomorrow.:wtc:

     
  2. teo

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    If it's any consolation, great good usually comes out of trying times. :hs: Some of the greatest personal development comes when you're uprooted and completely out of your element. Your recent surgery has shown you the true faces of your so-called 'friends', and the destruction to your apartment is forcing you to move and change your habits. If I were you, I'd lose the leeches along with the old apartment - move into a new place and don't bother telling them where it is. Use this as an excuse to kickstart a new set of habits and find yourself some true friends.
     
  3. RyeBread

    RyeBread If you tell the truth you don't have to remember a

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    very well stated. another thing to remember. just when you think you can't stand another minute, or day of it. you do. look back on all of those minutes, that turned to hours, that turned to days, and realize that you have surivived what at the time felt unbearable. build strength from knowing that you are stronger than even you know.

    most people are uncomfortable with change for it brings the unknown. many many people prefer to remain miserable (and know the relative limits of that misery) than to move on for fear that something far worse may be out there.

    another of the things that helped us get through our own very miserable year, is the knowledge that no matter how bad it got, it can always get worse (and that fact was seemingly rammed home time after time this past year)
     
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    Very true. And just know that your kindness and understanding are appreciated. You really did help me out a lot when I had no one else to turn to, puppycat. You are going through a lot right now and it can be really difficult on the spirit and it can be really depressing. I went through surgery twice, once for a hernia and once for a fractured arm, both really minor surgeries really and it was really difficult and painful so I can't imagine what it could be like to have brain surgery. I also went through a similar situation with respect to burst pipes and having all my belongings ruined. I also went, numerous times through figuring out that my friends were not true friends. Those can be really depressing times and, like others, I made the mistake of falling in depression and letting those things affect me. The only thing I can say is that although some people will take advantage of your kindness, it is still worth it as there will always be some people out there who will have been touched by your actions and will more than repay you for what you did.
     
  5. Toasty

    Toasty Naked people have little or no influence on societ

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    :hug:

    PuppyCat, hang in there girl. You have gone through a lot. And there's the likelihood there may be a little more to come before everything gets better again.

    But it's through the worst of times that we get to see what we're made of. This point in time of your life may be the defining moments of your life for years to come.

    We all have those times were we look back and say "Shit, that year really really sucked.... but we got through it and I'm a stronger person for it." You've already shown great strength getting you this far with circumstances that might bring some of us to our knees. Just push a little longer and I have confidence you can make it through this with flying colors.

    Nurse Connie seems a better friend then any of your other associates. Let her be your pillar for a while if she would let you. :)
     
  6. teo

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    I forgot to add something: look up! :eek5: It's important to recognize and (even more importantly) celebrate your successes, whether they're big or small. Sometimes what seems like the smallest thing is a monumental success.

    I went through a similar set of circumstances (although drawn out over a slightly longer period of time) and when I look back on my experiences as a whole, the best thing I did was learn the lessons offered from each and put steps in place to change my life for the better. I'm now happier than I've ever been because I set goals for myself and followed steps to achieve them - I can't stress this enough.

    Apathy is your enemy here - you have to DO something to change your life; namely, recognize that change is needed, set some goals, then follow through to change your life. As stated above, it's easier to go back to the pain you know (eg. your deadbeat friends) rather than face the fear of the unknown (find new ones). You need to find a way to get it through your head that keeping your life the way it is now is worse than trial and error in pursuit of something better. Only you can do that - no one can do it for you. :hs:

    edit: feel free to PM me if you like. :)
     
  7. PuppyCat

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    Update: The Owner of the building was by. He's putting me up in a hotel, while the floors are being ripped up (I am getting all new hardwood floors), the ceilings and walls are being torn down to the studs and reconstructed. The kitchen cabinets are outtie as well, ditto for all the light fixtures. I am however, going to come back when all the destruction and some of the reconstruction is done. I don't have to pay any rent for at least 3 months...so I am thinking NEW furniture, drapes, etc. I want to be here when some of the construction is going on and make sure it is done properly. I am sure my Boss (the man is a genius) will pop in and out as well. So that part of things is taken care of.
    My LTD is officially up the end of January and I was thinking of asking my Boss for an extra 2 weeks <gulp!> and go somewhere sunny and tan. I have my mind set that 2006 will be a good year for me, but who knows, the Fates can be fickle.
    Thank you for your words of encouragement and advice, they meant a lot.
     
  8. Toasty

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    Silver lining! Sounds like you're going to have an awesome pad by the end of this ordeal.
     
  9. johan

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    Funny how things turn around if you just hang on.

    On another level, there must come destruction before the rebirth.
    But if you just focus on the destruction, you miss out on the wonders that are to come.

    This applies in all aspects of life, not the least of which are the end of old relationships and the rise of newfound love.

    Just hang in there.
     

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