I've been with my gf for about 16 months at this point. Things started out alright, and have largely been 'ok'. I feel that I have effectively friendzoned her, and while I do still care for her and about her, it isn't in the same romantic sense as before. A lot of this is onset by that we have started to fight more and more, especially about really dumb things. Some of the things I had previously overlooked as being unattractive are becoming more and more obvious. For instance, she is excessively low maintenance, no jewelry (not even stud earrings), makeup, skirts etc) Her excuse(s) are that she has gained weight and that she doesn't have the money. On the first point I have constantly tried to reassure her and compliment her, give her some guidance for working out, eating better etc. Unfortunately, I tend to eat out a bit which makes things difficult, and she has had 'eating issues' in the past, and so whenever I even politely question if she should be adding the extra ranch and cheese to her burger, she gets upset. As far as money goes, this is another issue for me as well. She got herself into some financial difficulties before I met her, got stuck making $350/mo payments on a Chevy Cavalier (whole other story, and suffice it to say that she also had to settle with her creditor so she has minimal chance of refinancing). Therefore, I end up paying for just about everything, maybe every 10th time or more that we go out she pays for it. So, I have bought her jewelry for anniversary/birthday/christmas, but she never wears it (it is mostly very basic stuff etc) It appears to be a cycle that she is in, she 'claims' that if her clothes fit she would dress nicer, and similarly buy nicer clothes, and she refuses to buy newer clothes (or let me) that fit, because she wants to lose the weight. I mean she is incredibely stubborn in that regard, it is a good intention, but still problematic. On the money issue she doesn't appear to have much drive to make more, she still hasn't talked to her boss about a raise even though she deserves one (she works as a construction company office manager), eventually he brought it up and acknoweledged that she deserved more, but still no money. She wants to go to grad school to get an Educational Specialist degree (School Psychologist degree etc). However, she still hasn't started applying to schools yet, or even taken the GRE (I bought her a Kaplan study CD set, and she is used it a few times, but still not signed up to take the test). On the school issue, I love Denver and Colorado, she is from Michigan, and has made it fairly clear that she does not like Denver nearly as much (too dry, too sunny, etc etc etc) Anyway, in Colorado there are only really 2 viable schools with the degree, one is mine which is an expensive private school, and the other is literally in a cow town. Therefore, she should probably look out of state, and while she loves me (and I know she does a lot), and would want to try and work it out over a long distance, I am afraid she might not go because of me. This has been an issue as I just graduated and I'm hunting for a job, but she won't be going to school until a year from now, and not knowing where she would get in makes it very difficult to determine where to apply for jobs etc. So I have resolved myself to just hunting in Denver/Colorado since that is where I am, my parents are, and where I love. I tend to feel like I end up doing a lot for her, going and doing what she wants to do most of the time, and receiving a fair amount of grief when I want to do something. For instance, she wanted to go see a movie the other night, there were a couple that I wanted to see, but she didn't want to see them so she decided she would do something else instead. She is afraid of heights which makes rollercoasters/skiing/snowboarding very difficult. I play the piano, but she has little interest in hearing me play for her. I have been trying to get her to go swing dancing since we started dancing, but she says she can't dance and won't let me try and show her. In the past couple months I have been working with my work replacement, and we have been hitting it off really well, good chemistry etc (I would never cheat on my gf and haven't to clear any confusion, I have even made a point of actively not flirting with my replacement etc to avoid things), but as things have staid 'bad', I have been talking with my replacement about dumping my gf, for a lot of the above reasons. At times I feel like the only things in common with my gf are that we both like country music, and that I love her dog a lot (I helped her get him and he is really cute and sweet - although he does chew/eat everything). As a bit of background, this is my first long-term relationship (I'm 23 and she's 25) she was my 'first', and I feel like I may be somewhat 'attached' for those two reasons. If you made it this far I thank you for the help and reading. I would appreciate any advice anyone has, is it wrong for me to want to move on from my gf even though there is nothing 'glaring' like cheating/abuse etc? Thanks edit cliffs: 1. Unsatisfied with girlfriend 2. She has circular issues 3. Replacement at work and I have been hitting it off with good chemistry 4. Effectively friendzoning gf and mentally detaching myself from her 5. Read the actual post for better explanations 6. ... 7. Profit?