friendzone after dating+sex?

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  1. moses

    moses OMGWTFBBQ

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    possible?

    cliffs: dating a girl since oct, had a lot of good times together she digs me, i dig her. problem is she's not ready for anything commited, but really likes me around. if this is something that I want, whats my best course of action? ibdateotherpeople.
     
  2. bandwagon

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    Clarify what you really want so we can properly advise.
     
  3. moses

    moses OMGWTFBBQ

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    i want something more long term than just casual dating. whats funny is that she chased me at first for awhile because I didn't want anything serious. Now its completely 180, i want her and i want the relationship, and she's not looking right now.

    edit: i need to learn proper punctuation again.
     
  4. Socrates

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    Girls are always looking for a serious relationship, as long as it is the right guy. A woman will not pass up something that could be what they always wanted.

    You probably came on too strong after sex, so just lay off for a while, and like you said, date some other women.
     
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    this man speaks the truth
     
  6. bandwagon

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    When you chase something, it runs away. You are working from a point of a big disadvantage.... it would be easier for you to start fresh with someone new. Sounds like you went all wussy on her and she lost attraction for you. Go back to the attitude you had when she was chasing you and you MIGHT have a chance.
     
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    important questions: are you two still having sex?
     
  8. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    Not true. There have been many times where I definitely did not want anything other than very casual dating. You guys always make it out to seem like all women are just sitting around eating ice cream and waiting for the next love of their life to come around, but the truth is we're not all like that, Some of us like to be single.
     
  9. affende

    affende Resident 4X4 Elitest Prick

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    werd. (minus the dating other women part .... bad idea IMO as she might get the idea you arent interested anymore)

    sit back a little and let things happen .... dont press the issue.
     
  10. Falconer

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    You must not have met the right guy at that time. Tell us, did any of these "casual dating" guys become your LTR?

    I've used the "I don't want a relationship right now" excuse when it wasn't the right girl and I didn't want to tell her "I don't like you that way."
     
  11. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    hah, no, I've definitely just casually dated a few guys. In fact....I wasn't ready for a real relationship at all when I met my current bf, but after awhile I decided I did
     
  12. Falconer

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    Welll, for most people, "I'm not ready for a relationship right now" really means "I don't want a relationship with you." I guess there can be exceptions.
     
  13. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    Definitely.
     
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    she's playing games with you. Just do ur thing and live ur life and if it happens it will. If not, then no worries.
     
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    Then how do you explain the success of the Lifetime Movie Channel and Edy's Ice Cream, hmm?
     
  16. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    :rofl: burn!
     
  17. affende

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    I was going to make a joke about all women being fat, but i wont.
     
  18. razi

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    you can friendzone her but you'll be pining for the fjords.

    put some distance in there first or you're just going to get dragged around and hurt.
     

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