friends with benefits?

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  1. Brick Tamland

    Brick Tamland New Member

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    So this is rather new to me.

    This girl I met maybe two or three days ago, has been sending me crazy signals like she just want me.
    I was as straight forward as I could be and told her I don't want a relationship right now and don't want to day anyone.
    Then she comes back and tells me that she is fine with that but still finds me hot as hell, and asks if we can still make out and be fuck buddies.
    As any man in my position would do I said fo sho.
    Now she tells me she is a virgin but is also already on birth control (the patch) because of some type of menstrual cycle problems she had a while back.

    All this sounds too good to be true, cause she isn't too bad looking either.
    Should I be worried, pull out of the deal, run and hide. Wrap it up nice and tight?
    I want to see this through I mean common, but she is just so forward that its freaking me out a little.

    Help me out Vag people.
     
  2. ArthurPewty

    ArthurPewty New Member

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    Never done the FWB thing, but I figure this is a good move regardless. I figure it's especially good if you won't have the intimacy/trust you would more likely have in a regular relationship.
     
  3. Gregsaidthat

    Gregsaidthat "Individuality is the new conformity"

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    You just have to watch out for this one thing. A lot of people who do the FWB end up having some kind of feelings for that person. Not daying you will but just becareful cuz you could up hurting yourself in the end. If you think it wont have an affect by all means go for it!
     
  4. johan

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    She does want a relationship and figures sex is a useful lure. Which it is.

    If you truly don't want a relationship, be prepared for drama in about 8 weeks when she finally gets pissed.

    However, I think you should still hit it, but use a condom. The fact that she's on the patch...who cares. Condom. And hit it.
     
  5. MattThom01

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    FWB almost always ends with one person getting attached, and another not. If you do it regularly, that is.

    And of course,always use protection.
     
  6. Xtreme2k2

    Xtreme2k2 GTI Crew ಠ_ಠ OT Supporter

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    Just make sure shes actually on the patch, and not just lying :hsugh:
     
  7. ArthurPewty

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    He won't know in that situation. Same as if she says she consistently takes the pill. Or that she's not out doing five other guys. That's why you have to take responsibility yourself.
     
  8. Brick Tamland

    Brick Tamland New Member

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    Didn't think of this, good call.
    How reliable is "the patch" anyway?
    I might just go the oral sex route for a while until I know for sure.
     
  9. MattThom01

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    why not buy some condoms?
     
  10. Brick Tamland

    Brick Tamland New Member

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    got them, just wondering.
     
  11. Xtreme2k2

    Xtreme2k2 GTI Crew ಠ_ಠ OT Supporter

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    That's why you have to take responsibility yourself. Is a given, I was just saying :dunno:
     
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    copper rs Google Earth Crew

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    Shes a virgin, thats gonna be an issue exactly 5 seconds after you fuck her. Virgin clingers ftl...
     
  13. ArthurPewty

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    With some of the posts I read, I don't assume that, though I agree it certainly should be.
     
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    mizers_girl I'm like a souperhero with no motivation or powers

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    Agreed. But.. i have to disagree with FWB always ending with one person wanting more. Had a few in my past. One, the guy started dating a chick i didnt like and eventually married. We're still best friends. Another, well, we're head over heels. So, both ways, turned out great! Just please use protection!
     
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    I've never met a virgin who wanted to be fuck buddies, that just doesn't happen.
     
  16. Midgetized

    Midgetized Don't mess with Douche Cat

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    It's supposed to be 99.99% reliable if she's using it properly. Don't ever be dumb enough to believe that she is though. Wear a condom no matter what. I wouldn't really believe that she's a virgin either, most people don't go from being virgins to having fuck buddies. Just assume that she's lying to you about everything but if you want to hit it then have fun.
     
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    FWB is always fun at first, but it WILL get messy. Guarenteed. She will want more, she will feel used, etc etc, theres a bunch of ways that it can go wrong. it will go wrong.

    if you are okay with having the unattached sex and dealing with the resulting drama, go ahead. it may be a worthy trade off for you.
     
  18. razi

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    your best bet is to talk to her about it, ESPECIALLY if she's a virgin. is that how she wants to give herself away... to a fuckbuddy?

    as mentioned, it's probably bait.

    If it's true, you'd better show her what -good- sex is like. rock her world up one wall and down another, and expect it to get messy. keep a level head and do it right- have fun and let her explore, get comfortable with herself, etc. if you do, you'll be the measuring stick all others after you will have to live up to. Now's your chance to set that bar high. :p
     
  19. Kinks

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    I had a FWB for over 18 months, so it can be worth doing.
     
  20. XERQ

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    have fun, but keep in mind she's probably lying about being a virgin
     
  21. TheBigChu

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    wrap it and tap it.
     
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    ive done the FWB. all have been with an ex. never ends as a happy story.

    but you never know til you try! dooo it.
     
  23. francodman

    francodman It's Gortex.

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    i don't buy her story, be careful
     
  24. StopDrop&LOL

    StopDrop&LOL "Where The Elite Become Champions"

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    Same here, no matter how innocent she may seem. She may just be saying that out of despiration to get you. I would be very careful. I thought i knew my ex pretty damn well, but i thought wrong. We also started out as fuck buddies. Like many have said, one person ends up usually getting hurt real bad.
     
  25. Gregsaidthat

    Gregsaidthat "Individuality is the new conformity"

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    Always!
     

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