Friends with benefits?

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  1. gigaboy

    gigaboy New Member

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    Hi, I just wanted some advice from you guys regarding the FWB issue.

    My ex and I have been together for just under 3 years. We recently ended it on good terms (i.e. both fell out of love for each other, not forgiving the other where it used to be second nature, etc. etc.) We laid everything out there and it was a "good" breakup.

    We both appreciate each other and how we have grown individually due to the other's presence in our lives.

    We have recently started entertaining the idea of FWB. We both realize that there needs to be some serious rules laid out.

    Can anyone give me any advice? Is this just impending doom? Or is it possible?

    Thanks in advance. :x:
     
  2. ninetalesnwf

    ninetalesnwf New Member

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    i currently have someone like that. ITs great. But i can see she wants more. Lucky i do also. Just have to do something about it
     
  3. gigaboy

    gigaboy New Member

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    thank you, I appreciate the advice.

    Would it be wise to throw into the rules that if/when one of us meets someone new that the other can't be a child and hold on?

    This is completely new territory for both of us. Neither of us has ever had a FWB relationship.
     
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    psycospyder New Member

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    NONONONONONONONONONONONONO

    Unless you want to get back together with her, do not be FWB. That could only lead in one direction if it's with an ex.
     
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    FWB always start out as a good idea but one of you are likely to develope feelings for the other with out meaning to. I know that you have set rules but when it comes to sex things can get out of hand.
     
  6. chica&buddies

    chica&buddies Active Member

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    a friendship of mine turned into a fwb relationship which then manifested into a "dating" relationship that lasted for 7 years :rofl:.

    :dunno: it can work... but more often than not, it doesn't.
     
  7. GrnEggsNHam

    GrnEggsNHam sometimes I think I am good at stuff

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    not to regurgitate what has already been said but ya seldom works out.
     
  8. RedVsBlue

    RedVsBlue Penguins > *

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    you are ex's for a reason. FWB can be fine, but not when it comes to ex's. You can stay friends, but if you keep it physical it is not going to end well.
     
  9. gigaboy

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    I would like to thank everyone for their input, I suppose I just needed the kick to confirm my belief that it probably wouldn't work out.

    Sure, it "officially" ended well, but when one of us finally meets a potential new love interest, it could add unneeded drama...

    Again, thank you all!
     
  10. Beercan

    Beercan Aluminum Member

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    see Seinfeld for your answer.
     
  11. BlindSyde

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    These always end bad....ALWAYS.
     
  12. low20

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    brush up on the seinfeld...

    no sleep over obligated
    no goodnight kiss
    no daily phone calls
     
  13. PocoDiablo

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    By getting with her, you could potentially be missing out on meeting the right woman for you, so why risk it?

    If you're single, be single. Find another better single woman and try something new.
     

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