LGBT Friends with Benefits

Discussion in 'Lifestyle' started by MapleLeaf, Aug 12, 2005.

  1. MapleLeaf

    MapleLeaf New Member

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    Well I parted with my SO about 3 months ago. Tis ok though, in retrospect it was not meant to be. Since then the benefits part is not as frequent as I am used to (or like frankly). So I am thinking of a friend with benefits... Here is why.

    In January I am scheduled to move to Sydney Australia to continue on with my education and do my internship. (still a slight chance it won't come together but hey gotta think positive). To enter into any relationship is not fair. While I may only be in Sydney for 5 or 6 months, I don't know that yet and may in fact stay much, much longer.

    Finding someone to date is a bit difficult. I am student clergy and well, despite the fact my congregation has a ton of cute, eligible guys, I can't date them as it goes against church governance (yeah it sucks, which means I can't).

    A friend with benefits could work great. When I leave in January say a goodbye and then be off. More people are interested in this type of relationship than a regular one, or at least they might be for a short period of time... if they find the love of their life, well I back out - not a problem.

    Any thoughts on this? I rarely go to bars, don't troll on gay.com (is there a better one to meet guys and I don't mean 2 hr relationships?) and tend to be a loner. Also while I am allowed to be sexual, I can't fuck the flock limiting the effect of backsplash to my professional work and training.

    So? thoughts? Options? Anyone want to be my first friend with benefits :wavey: (don't worry if you are not in Toronto - I love to travel and do so frequently).
     
  2. Sam Gamgee

    Sam Gamgee Every tool is a weapon if you hold it right. OT Supporter

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    I've done the FWB thing... and it just didn't work out for me. Either I was really into him and couldn't separate my feelings from the sex act or he was really into me and I felt guilty because I was using him for a quick fuck.

    Now, sex is something that I take seriously (believe it or not since I act like such a whore on this site), and I really want to be with the one I'm with... I want to be present and I want him to be present... not just a quickie.

    If I want to get off, I've got a great supply of porn, a wealth of lube, and a hand that knows what I like.

    Friends I want
    Intimate Relationships I want
    FWB seems pointless, in my opinion.
     
  3. AstroGirl

    AstroGirl If I don't respond it's because I have severe ADD

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    I agree with Sam. While in theory it seems great, after a while emotions get involved, and feelings get hurt. If all you want is sex there are plenty of... errr... apparatuses (SP?) that can aid you.
     
  4. Ivy Mike

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    Sex with machines is simply no substitute.

    Nothing will ever come close to the feeling of the other persons body. It gets better when you really care for that person, but sex for the sake of sex is never bad.
    You just have to remain focused on the objective...orgasms and experimentation.
     
  5. MapleLeaf

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    It is sounding like it isn't that great an idea. I have never had a FWB before hence the suggestion and questions. Guess all that is left is one night stands or mechanical apparatus - sigh! Not what I want.
     
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    What "mechanical apparatus" are you guys using? Girls have their vibrators I know, but I'm lost as to what men have available.
     
  7. AstroGirl

    AstroGirl If I don't respond it's because I have severe ADD

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    Sex with machines is fantastic. They don't talk back, they are always in the mood, they never get tired, they are never "uncomfortable" with any positions or places they go, etc etc etc... A body? Meh, shrug. Now a body and the machines = teh win ;)
     
  8. Ivy Mike

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    I guess I am just not equipped with the proper plumbing to truly enjoy machinery.
     
  9. AstroGirl

    AstroGirl If I don't respond it's because I have severe ADD

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    You could always try anal vibrating plugs?? See how that works for ya. Pocket pussy? Ummm, I dunno, I am a girl!
     
  10. Ivy Mike

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    I prefer the real thing...and yes, I have tried a pocket pussy.
    It's kinda meh.
     
  11. ExDelayed

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    Ive done the FWB thing before. There was an good age difference and he had/has different goals in life then myself. We used to get together a lot more often and it was great and the sex was excellent. After we were done, said goodbye for now and that was that. It always stayed at that and we were both fine with it.

    I had another that started out as a FWB. He still sees it that way but I fell for him. I was treating 'us' as dating, but he was just fucking around. He has an awesome dick, and obviously a personality that I like, but since we have gotten older and his life moved in a different path, it is now creepy having sex with him while his wife's bra is over in the corner. :hsugh: :noes:
     
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