SRS friend's wife cheated, told me, I told her to stfu about it

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  1. black jesus

    black jesus OT Supporter

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    I should also note that she told me about a sex dream with me, her husband, and a mutual friend giving it to her porno style.

    Did I do the right thing? I like them both very much. I told her if it was a mistake to never say anything to anyone on the subject again. I also told her that if she wasn't sorry about it...they have no kids and both have good jobs, so its not like it would be the end of the world to split up.

    Why do people get in relationships again?
     
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    You should of told her that the person she should of told would be her hubby and not you. You have nothing to do with it unless she wanted to ask you to be a mediator for the situation :dunno:

    But, in other words, glad that you didn't tempt to put yourself in a shitty situation. So bravo.
     
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    there's only one reason she told you, and that is she wants to do something about her dreams
     
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    Couldn't have said it better.
     
  5. Yuppy

    Yuppy Have a seat right there....

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    if you are single then you shouldve said youd be down to bang her if her hubby was there (swinger party)
     
  6. Matt Hood

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    exactly what i was thinking
     
  7. deusexaethera

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    HELL no. That would be all kinds of awkward. How do you hang out and watch football after doing your friend's wife while he's watching (and also helping)?
     
  8. Yuppy

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    idk; ive done stuff like that before. its not that awkward. because theres no emotional investment in the act.
     
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    Where I do agree with the comment that her telling you about her cheating and about her dream is a good indication that she was basically telling you that A. She is Available, and B. She is interested in cheating with you.

    As for what you did? Only you know if that was the right thing to do because you are in the situation and know these people- No One else in here does.
    All I can say is that personally I would have told her she was wrong to have cheated in the first place, and wrong for involving me, and that she needs to be an adult and either be in her relationship or leave it. After that I would have to distance myself from the whole situation, as now you are between a rock and a hard place. If you say nothing to your friend and he finds out you are now the enemy, and if you do and he still loves her she will be your enemy and you would be an issue between them. Kindof sucks all the way around.
    As for the whole swinging thing? For that to work the couple involved either has to be in a "friends with benefits" style relationship (if you consider that a relationship?) or have a strong enough relationship that thier including others in such intimate activities would not destroy it (very very few that I've seen are that strong). So that's about a 98% chance of being a doomed relationship in the first place. And in this case since at least one party has already cheated I wouldn't go there with a team of horses pulling me!
     
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    You're a pretty shitty friend man.
     
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    isn't big enough for the both of us
    I know, I would have called up my buddy and told him to kill a bitch :madfawk:
     
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    yea i wouldve told him too. but i woud have gotten proof before i did that. like had him over, and called his gf in front of him told her to come over or something to let him know you are not just saying this kuz you dont like the girl
     
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    thats a good idea actually :eek3:
     
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    if you dont have proof you should never say anything, it will drive a wedge between you and your friend.
     
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    Yup, once he was brought into it, I would report it to my friend with proof. I would video tape her and bring the issue up with a cam running, and let her go on and on about what she originally said. I would then tell my friend:

    Me: She reported this to me on this date and at this location. She said "I cheated, I had a dream about you, etc"
    Me: Once in the middle I had little choice but to make a decision and I needed to tell you. It was none of my business until she made it my business which was very disrespectful.
    Me: I had to video tape her in order for you to know with certainty that I had your best interest in mind. I didn't want things between us stressed because she chose to disrespect us both.
     
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    called me again yesterday. I told her I was done talking about that and if she didn't have anything else to talk about, I'd see them at the bar this weekend.
     
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    Well the thing for you to do would be suggest to her that you cannot continue to live a lie to your friend (her husband) because she fucked around on him. Because basically that is what you are doing, she being the slut, is laughing at him and brought you in on the joke. So tell her you can't lie to him from now on and if she doesn't tell him you will.

    Think about it, years from now they are divorced, you've been friends with him since the divorce, and this come up. He'll be pissed.
     
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