SRS Friends Pressuring Me to Go on a Blind Date

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  1. Log Motorman

    Log Motorman New Member

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    A male friend of mine are pressuring me to go on a blind date. I am 26 years of age, male, and have never been on a date before and I am not comfortable with the idea. The thought of going on a date gives me a lot of displeasure and if I were to go on a date it would definitely put me outside my comfort zone.

    The male friend offered to set up a date between me and a female friend of his. I decided to reject my friend's offer. My friend has been arguing with me that I should go on a date. What I would like to know is whether it is right for me to go on a date or not.

    What do you think of the arguments? Who do you think is more right?

    My arguments against dating:

    1. I estimate that dating gives me displeasure.
    2. I estimate that dating is costly and I want to save up.
    3. I estimate that dating won't give me any benefits.
    4. Therefore, according to cost-benefit analysis, I should not date.

    Friend's arguments for dating:

    1. Since I have never tried dating, I should try it. I don't know that it is bad.
    2. Dating can be cheap.
    3. If my partner loves me she will take care of me if I go through hard times.
    4. That most people date proves that most people find a lot of benefit in it.
     
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  2. METALLlC BLUE

    METALLlC BLUE New Member

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    I say go. I have and it was great. Sometimes it wasn't, but that's ok, because things don't work out "EVERY SINGLE TIME."

    The girl I'm with now (2 years), I didn't even know what she looked like until we met in person. That night I banged her brains out, and still do every chance I get!
     
  3. Alex G.

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    If she is half decent looking just go. if it doesnt work out, so what? You don't have to prove to your friends that your a ladies man. And at least you will have had some experience.
    And if it does work out, great, what do you have to lose?
     
  4. mikdavi84

    mikdavi84 OT Supporter

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    cost benefit analysis? you probably shouldn't date....
     
  5. MattThom01

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    If you don't want to go, don't go, and don't make a thread about it.

    Also, I am somewhat suspicious that this might be a troll.
     
  6. Saluki

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    Don't go, it's obvious you don't want to and it will be obvious to her so it won't be a positive experience for either of you.
     
  7. SolidRanger

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    If you want a girl, suck it up and start dating.

    If you don't want a girl, just keep doing what you're doing.

    The choice is yours
     
  8. VA197

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    If you have to be pressured to go out with a girl, and have never had any interest in meeting a girl before for a date, and are seriously using a pro/con checklist about even attempting to go out on a date for the first time at your age....well, perhaps there is something more behind this. If you have no interest in women, or dating, then perhaps you are more interested in men, or maybe are asexual. Most men your age are eager to get into the dating scene, and if they haven't started, it's usually because they are shy or nervous, not because of the reasons you listed.

    I would sit back and look in the mirror and see what my feelings really are about the opposite sex, and see if the interest is there, or perhaps it lies elsewhere. Know yourself, and then you'll know whether to date women or not...maybe men, or not at all.

    Good luck in whatever choice you make.
     
  9. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    Being honest here....any chance you are homosexual and repressing this fact?
     
  10. 7960

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    You beat me to it.

    You date because it's FUN. You don't sound like you'd be much fun, somdo her a favor and keep saying no.
     
  11. Coottie

    Coottie BOOMER......SOONER OT Supporter

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    Meeting new people is fun. You get to learn all about how someone else views the world. If she's cute, it can be quite rewarding if she likes you. If not, fuck it and just focus on the fact that it'll be over soon.....liquor helps.
     
  12. Kev07

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    this
     
  13. Socrates

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    Here is a better cost/benefit analysis:

    If you go out:
    You might get laid and stop being so high-strung.

    If you don't go out:
    You won't get laid and will masterbate to Kim Kardashian as usual.

    Or, if you're like me, you'll go out, get laid, and still come home and masterbate to Kim Kardashian.
     
  14. Diesel66

    Diesel66 My standards for women is like rent-a-centers stan OT Supporter

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    :ugh::ugh::ugh:

    doesn't have to be costly. Do you not fantasize about sex and stuff ?
     
  15. Replicant

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    It sounds like you should marry an accountant. Just go have fun and don't spend a lot.
     
  16. GregFarz78

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    cost benifit analysis seriously? :bowrofl: yeah do her a favor don't go on that date

    so do you plan to save until you're 65 then start dating?
     
  17. RebootEnzo

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    Don't go if you don't want to go. You wont like it.
     
  18. kamen

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    Don't go if you aren't willing to open your mind about it. Save your time and most importantly, hers since she is apparently willing to entertain the idea.
     
  19. CodeX

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    Would this be the first time you have ever gone on a date? It is natural to be nervous on your first date, but you have to get over it unless you want to be a virgin for life.

    One of the best things you can do if you're nervous about going out with a girl is to just not give a fuck, don't even think about trying to get her to like you or not, just say whatever you have to say and do whatever you want to do and the hell with the result, get a few drinks in you before you go (if you aren't driving) if you're that nervous, it will loosen you up and help you with the "don't care" attitude.
     
  20. tan koi

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    They're fun, even if they fail. Look at it as practice if that's the case. Go for it.
     
  21. SolidRanger

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    Well that depends on why he doesn't want to go. He may just be really nervous about it, but may have alot of fun if he just sucks it up and goes.

    Think about this too OP, girls don't normally go on blind dates unless they aren't very good at dating. So in all likelihood she'd be just as nervous as you would be, so that should make you feel a little better about it. Just go and have some fun man.
     
  22. MattThom01

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    hmm...thread is a few days old.

    Has tons of responses, but none by the TS.

    TS still has only 1 post.

    TROLL!
     
  23. Redbeard

    Redbeard OT Supporter

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    I met my wife on a blind date, been together for 9 years.
     
  24. Daria

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    Good advice.

    Every date I've ever been on that someone set up for me leads to a massive fail of a date. The dates that I set up for myself work out pretty well.

    That being said, you should go, just for the chance to meet a new person. If you don't go, I'm willing to bet that any activity that you do instead of the date won't gain you anything of significant value.
     
  25. deusexaethera

    deusexaethera OT Supporter

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    If he's 26 and never been on a date before, it's entirely possible he's a little shy. :hsugh: Might take him a while to respond, if he does at all.
     

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