Friend zoned or not?

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  1. ww_Crimson

    ww_Crimson New Member

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    It's late and I don't want to write a book on the situation so I'm doing a cliffs version.

    Girl I kind of like and sit next to in class told me the other day (when I first got into class) that she broke up with her boyfriend. I took this as a clue to her being somewhat interested, or else why the fuck would she tell me without me even asking.

    We flirt a bit here and there, study on the phone every once in a while .. nothing really serious.

    Tonight (5 days after she told me she broke up with her boyfriend) we were texting each other and then she randomly says

    her: "ug I hate guys"

    me: "what the hell did I do?"

    her: "no not you just this guy I like completely broke my heart again as usual.. I'm beginning to lose hope."

    me: "Don't go giving up on every man because of some jerk. For instance, I'm nothing like that guy"

    her: "nothing personal but do you know how many times I've heard that"

    blah blah.. anyway conversation died down rather quickly..

    Confused why she'd be physically flirtatious in class, announce to me that she's single, and then start that conversation.
     
  2. NCS

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    first of all, ist always good to have lines from conversations, it is much better than a vague paragraph.

    she would tell you this because she appreciates you in some way. it means absolutely nothing more than that. she's already next to you, its not some big secret, and she has a need to talk.
    more venting.

    why do you immediately assume its about you? this is very unnattractive. you're already buckling assuming that some general comment means that you did something wrong

    more venting

    well you took her up on that supposed hint and she obviously didn't bite. i'd say its over. i would have never made a comment like this. she was attracted to her ex for reason A, and broke up with him for reason B. if he was a total jerk, she was attracted to it. you being the complete opposite is not helping your cause here.

    i think you dropped a big enough hint and it went no where.

    if i were you, and still unsure, i'd ask her on a date.
     
  3. Viper

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    If you have to ask...:dunno:

    But yeah, reading that, it sounds like you are borderline at the very least.

    And she's right, she hears that shit all the time. You are qualifying yourself to her by saying that (I'm not like that! she's thinking "yeah right").

    In the future, don't let her come bitch to you about how other guys are breaking her heart.

    As soon as she said "ugh I hate guys" you should change the subject. Seriously. You're not her therapist. She has her girlfriends to bitch about guys to. If you like her, then don't let her come to you to bitch about the other guys who are breaking her heart.
     
  4. jared_IRL

    jared_IRL OT Supporter

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    Yeah, I think you're sitting right on the border right now...

    You either directly show that you're interested or ensure you get friendzoned by doing nothing.
     
  5. Doc Love

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    Friendzoned for sure, when she tells you about other guys, you are a friend, meaning low interest.
     
  6. ww_Crimson

    ww_Crimson New Member

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    Yeah figuring friend zone myself, not a big deal cause I'm not really sure she's the type of girl I'd like to date anyway.


    Just wanted to say I said that cause we have an inside joke thing where we say "what the hell did I do!?"



    Thanks for the timely responses.
     
  7. Viper

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    I bet that inside joke involves her bitching about "guys" in general and you saying "what the hell did I do?"

    :mamoru:
     
  8. Falconer

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    Kiss her. You'll find out for sure that way ;)
     
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    She just got out of a relationship...dont try to ask her on dates or pursue anything too fast...she's going to want to vent. Keep having conversations with her and flirting
     
  10. BradUF

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    Yawn. She just wants someone to cry on.
     
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    jmezz layin in bed stretchin my pumped quads for hours

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    Agreed. She's started texting me kind of regularly the past few days and we were on the phone for a while the other night.. she mostly just complains about shit and I pretend to listen.
     
  13. MattThom01

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    so why listen at all? Next time she calls, tell her you are busy, or better yet, that you aren't really that interested in hearing about all her problems.

    Or you could just stop answering her calls...eventually she should get the hint.
     
  14. Abomb

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    you are her emotional tampon

    :rofl:
     
  15. Abomb

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    just do what matt said, i bolded it for you. its really fucking amusing because 9 times out of 10 it will get a rise out of her.
     
  16. JohnJohnJohnson

    JohnJohnJohnson Effetely Sipping My Latte OT Supporter

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    Matt a little off topic but y don't u make threads these days? What is going on in your life you hermit?
     
  17. MattThom01

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    :dunno: Work mainly

    Been meeting a few women, but no spark/chemistry so far. So I'm just working on the meeting new people thing.

    But mainly work.
     
  18. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    :rofl: You call me a bitch when I make a reference to someone or something as "weird," yet you can call MattThom a hermit? :hsugh: :bowrofl:
     
  19. JohnJohnJohnson

    JohnJohnJohnson Effetely Sipping My Latte OT Supporter

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    Well hello there beer.

    I was affectionately kidding. How does not posting on the internet make someone a hermit? Also, would anyone ever actually flame MattThom in seriousness??
     
  20. MattThom01

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    I do have hermitic tendencies...
     
  21. Abomb

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    FIGHT FIGHT FIGHT
     
  22. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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  23. JohnJohnJohnson

    JohnJohnJohnson Effetely Sipping My Latte OT Supporter

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  24. MattThom01

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    introverted, tend to stay in most of the time, enjoy just relaxing at home, prefer one on one or small groups, have a cat, live alone
     
  25. JohnJohnJohnson

    JohnJohnJohnson Effetely Sipping My Latte OT Supporter

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    Btw, sorry if I offended you matt
     

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