friend with benefits wants more

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  1. Fairysparkle

    Fairysparkle New Member

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    why do people have to go about developing feelings and trying to ruin good things?

    long story short: friends first --> started messing around --> all of a sudden (within two weeks) other person confesses true love, i get freaked out but am reluctant to leave because person offers other benefits besides sex (career wise)

    recent development: other person says they can't stay in this situation unless a relationship develops, so i am currently stalling until i can figure out what to do (in case you haven't figured it out, i am less than interested in a relationship).

    i'm at a crossroads: stay in a while longer or bail now?

    [my first thread, so be gentle]
     
  2. johan

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    I don't see that you really have a choice.

    You don't want a relationship, you would've wanted one by now.
    Don't rationalise to yourself that it "might work out" just because you like the other benefits (career).

    Sure people have even married in order to solely advance their career, but I'm guessing you're young, and relationships or marriage for ulterior motives are not what I would counsel someone at the start.

    So don't do that.



    Your only real choice is how you gently you can let this person down.

    You might be able to salvage your career boost (depending on the circumstances) if you're slick.

    OR you might've just destroyed your career hopes with the screwing.
     
  3. Stev

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    why is a relationship not an option?

    u are friends? u are fucking? they have things to offer you... why is it so out of the question to give it a shot?
     
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    Are you a guy or girl? j/w.
     
  5. Fairysparkle

    Fairysparkle New Member

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    I guess to clarify, this person is not going to make or break my career. Staying can only help, leaving won't hurt.

    At this point, I'm just dicking around because the sex is fun. (This makes me a bad person, doesn't it.)

    I keep hoping they'll fall out of love with me. Because all this mushy shit can be a real wet towel. (I can't explain why I don't want a relationship with this person, they're just not what I'm looking for in the long run, and I don't like dealing with all the jealousy shit that comes along with being exclusive.)

    How much longer can I be an asshole and string them along before I reach the lowest level of hell?
     
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    would a guy really keep a relationship going after its prime just to further their career?
     
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    This might scare me a little bit too but if you flat Do Not want a relationship with this person...you should tell them. \

    This is also true, the person may not be what you are looking for right now...but who knows, if you spend more time with them, you may realize that they are what you want.
     
  9. soopa7fly

    soopa7fly stupid :06:

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    if you dont want a relationship, you dont have much of a choice unless you tell them what your intentions are and theyre ok with it. im in a similar situation and i told the girl (in a nice way) that theres no chance for a relationship because we are both moving to different places in december. she decided we will just continue to have fun.
     
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    Since hell is a myth and when you die you cease to exist, I say you should do whatever you want regardless of how hurtful it is to other people.
     
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    Something tells me that this is all a non issue at this point....
     
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    Laserbeak Remember kids! Be like Billy! BEHAVE YOURSELVES!

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    I've seen both sexes guilty as charged of this in the working world. I'm shocked as to how frequently it happens across the board.

    My thoughts:

    Never underestimate people who feel the ends justify the means when it comes to climbing the ladder. These people carry the mentality of "everyone's expendible." More often than not, you probably don't want to be even associated with people like this, unless you get your jollies on being used, abused, and ultimately kicked to the curb once they feel you've outlived your usefulness to them. Stability, loyalty, and accountibility in relationships (or perhaps in general) is usually not a priority in their lives.

    Obviously, you have to do what you have to do, but at the end of the day, it really doesn't say much about you as a person. At one point or another, evaluation of character will become a significant factor in whether or not you'll be able to climb the ladder any further, or if you're doomed to become an ineffectual middle-managment suck-up.
     
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    wow ^


    pics of guy and girl for reference?
     
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    :rofl: at thread.
     
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    Pix in thread or fail of both parties!

    how you gonna let some girl say hey ill fuck you but you can't ever ever ever ever tell anyone you even know me? that right their is some bullshit i'd a2m a ho and record it and put it on youtube and mail that shit to her momma!
     
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