I need to call on the powers of OT So here is the story: I have been friends with this girl (Jessica) since HS. She was my best friends girlfriend but they broke up about a year after HS. She never talked to me much because she didn't want to interfere with my friendship with her exboyfriend. Well, we stopped being friends and then about a year later me and Jessica started talking on a regular basis, hanging out etc etc. Life goes on as normal, she gets another boyfriend and I do life as normal but we still talk/hang out everyonce in a while. This was a couple years ago. FF to now. We have become closer friends and go to eachother for life advice. We even flirt alittle bit but its really nothing serious... ex: she will be over at my place watching TV or just talking with a bunch of friends and will say that she has to start heading home and I will tell her that my bed is big enough for two to which she would say something like, "nah, cause we will be up all night and then both be tired at work tomorrow" haha we all laugh about it and she leaves. I've always been curious what a relationship between us would be like but I know deep down that it would never work out so I don't push it anywhere. Light, casual flirting is as far as I've taken it. Well about a week ago she tells me that she wants to break up with her BF (they have been having serious problems but she is afraid to cut the cord). I tell her that she should do what she feels best and helped her weigh the pro's and con's and tell her how I fell about it all. A couple days later she is over at my place playing COD4 with a bunch of friends and sitting right up against me on the couch, rubbing arms, legs, etc. I notice this but don't really move over any (not that I could because the couch was full and I was practically right up against my buddy as it was). When she goes to leave she asks for a hug from me (not something that she often does. I think she asked for one once). This weekend she asked what my plans were for that night and I said that was going to just watch a movie after getting some food from the store. I said she can come over if she wants. She texts me to pick up some orange juice and she will bring the vodka and then right after that she says "nevermind I forgot I will have to drive home" and I reply saying that she can just crash at my place if she wants. The conversation goes as follows (remember, up til this point she has been really cool but then says...): "Careful, I have a boyfriend remember?" "Oh...right." (now I'm confused...) "Sorry to burst your bubble" Ten mins later she says: "Maybe I should just stay home tonight" "Yeah, you do that." "Whats that supposed to mean?" no reply from me... Her: "Look, I don't want anything to happen between us that isn't supposed to happen. Sitting next to you a few nights ago and getting a hug felt too good. I don't want to screw up our friendship" Her: "I'm sorry I'm being like this, I don't understand how I feel about Greg (her BF) and I don't want to do anything I will regret. I like you and I really like spending time with you" Me: "I'm just confused I guess" Her: "I'm confused as well and bla bla bla (she goes on to repeat what she just told me but using different words). So I haven't talked to her since last friday (when all this happened). She has texted me a couple times asking how work is going and what my weekend plans are but I am brief in my responses. I guess I don't understand why she would completely pull the "I have a BF" card when she has been fun to talk to in the past. And now I don't really feel comfortable talking to her because I don't want her to feel like I am an influence on her decision. Halp.