Friend cheats on wife

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  1. THoC

    THoC New Member

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    im curious how some of you would react and maybe help me understand why it bothers me.

    one of my very close friends has always treated his now wife shitty (ignores her, goes out of his way to annoy her, cheats on her). she then gets knocked up and he marries her. i told him it was a dumb idea but his choice.

    now he is still cheating on her. he will even lie and refer to his wife as his baby's mom so the girls do not think he is married.

    i wont tell on him bc of two reasons:

    1. he is my friend.

    2. his wife is a complete bitch.

    i actually dislike her and i do not dislike a lot of people. ive never met a person that can be in a great mood one second and the very next you could say hi and she gives you a mean look and walks by.


    however for some reason it still bothers me when i find out that he is cheating. not to the point that i will say anything but it just does.
     
  2. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    Yep, I couldn't be friends with someone like that.
     
  3. THoC

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    he is a great friend. other then w. his wife he is an overall good person.

    its almost like i can be friends w. him bc i almost feel like his wife deserves it... hell maybe thats too harsh.... but i dont feel bad for her.
    they really should not be married and if she had any self worth she would leave him, but she doesnt.

    so is he really that bad a person? she allows it, she is a huge bitch to him and he is an ass to her. in the ten years that i have been friends w. him he has never wronged me.
     
  4. THoC

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    to think of it i have no idea why he married her. he never wanted to but after she got pregnant they did. he is not a very religious person but his parents are.... i think he may have done so to please them which was a very bad choice.
     
  5. Ford4Life

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    If he felt that way about her, he should have never married her in the first place. Getting married because of a baby only makes everyone in the situation miserable, and as the child gets older, it will only be worse for him/her.
     
  6. CorpseStreet

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    I say don't bother to get involved. He chooses to stay with her despite the fact that she's a bitch and she chooses to stay with him despite the fact that he is an ass. They probably cause the bad behavior in the other person, sometimes people just stick with a person who is terrible for them. If he has been cheating on her for a while chances are she has an idea and doesn't do anything about it. They dug their own graves.
     
  7. THoC

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    i agree with you. he actually just found out that she is pregnant again :rolleyes:
     
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    im not going to. his friendship is worth more to me then what he is doing w. her.

    i just dont know why it still bothers me when i find out he cheats. i dont like the girl and i dont care if he does.... yet maybe it does bother me.

    while typing this i wonder if its more bc he now has kids that it bothers me.
     
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    Maybe it bothers you because you think cheating is wrong and most people don't like to see another person wronged no matter how horrible they may be.
     
  10. THoC

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    maybe... but im normally a pretty unemotianal person.

    for example one time she was mad at him and wanted to talk. he refused to leave the table to talk to her saying he was busy although he was not doing anything at all. it took all i had for me not to bust out laughing while she was yelling in his face.
     
  11. ForgottenSpiral

    ForgottenSpiral Hope and Irony OT Supporter

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    :werd: I had a close friend of mine who started cheating on his woman and I immediately distanced myself from him. If a person is willing to betray their partner like that then it's only a matter of time before they betray their friends as well. I only associate with people with morals. No one is perfect, but things like abuse and cheating are things I don't put up with.
     
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    interesting way of looking at it.

    i disagree. how someone behaves in a relationship often times has nothing to do w. how they will behave in a friendship. i realize that a friendship is a relationship but when i say relationship i mean bf/gf, wife/husband, ect...
     
  13. MattThom01

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    well, if you don't like what he does, but are unable to distance yourself from him, I don't know what to tell you.

    But the reason you feel bad, is because you have lost some respect for your friend. He may BE a great guy in all other areas, but the fact of the matter is, he cheats and lies to his wife.

    If it were me, I'd keep my distance from the guy. But it's not me, so if you want to stay friends with him, stay friends with him.

    But those bad feelings aren't going to go anywhere.
     
  14. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    I completely agree. I hope that TS's friend never betrays him though.
    :werd:
     
  15. MissKitty

    MissKitty If squats were easy they'd be called 'Your Mum' OT Supporter

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    Been in the same sort of situation.
    I didn't tell, even though I thought they deserved to know what their partner was doing. The level of betrayal may have already been known, so left it be. But my view of this person has been tainted and I think they are a prat.
    Now they just flirt with everyone in front of their partner. Their partner obviously knows about it and puts up with it, so it's not my place to say anything. We don't socialise much but if I was ever put in a position where I was asked, I would say what I know.
     
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    i could never be friends with someone who cheated on their SO

    it doesn't matter if she's a bitch, she deserves to know; although it's not your place overall to tell her, but she needs to know. God forbid what he may contract out there sleeping with other women or who he'll get knocked up, and then he'll be in deep shit with himself.

    but yea, if i were you...I'd tell the wife.
     
  17. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    i agree about the kids...... i actually knew he cheated pre-kids and it didnt matter to me. but when the kids came in is when it started bothering me more.
     
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    maybe its because now he is messing with the livings of the innocent kids. if you dont like her, then you probably feel she deserves the cheating, but the kids dont. it sucks that they are being raised in a relationship that isnt built on love and instead is built on lies.
     
  20. MCohen

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    Sounds like you should mind your own business. He has his reasons for cheating, sitting here and judging him makes you a bigger douche than he will ever be.
     
  21. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    :werd:

    You can dislike her all you want, but if my friend was doing that with kids involved...yep, I don't want a friend like that.
     
  22. ForgottenSpiral

    ForgottenSpiral Hope and Irony OT Supporter

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    I'm gonna have to disagree there. I'm all for screwing kids up as much as possible. In fact, I would advocate molesting them as well.

    Seriously though, being an idiot when it only affects yourself is one thing. Hurting someone else is where I draw the line. If you are affecting the lives of children... well that's way over the line.
     
  23. JamesL

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    Not your business. Stay out of it. Do not tell the wife.
     
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    Does your friend have lots of money and/or a big cock?

    If I tell a girl about my babys mama she leaves
     
  25. THoC

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    lol at what point did i say that im getting in their business?

    the question i posed was thoughts on why i feel uneasy although i do not like his wife.

    aquakitty nailed it pretty well.
     

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