SRS Friend being a dick to his GF.

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  1. yourfather

    yourfather New Member

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    Ok, so I have a friend, lets call him Bob.

    Bob and my best friend John live together.

    Bob is dating a nice girl called Wendy.

    Wendy is awesome, seriously. I'm married btw, so im not into her.

    Anyway, I drove John home from a party tonight, noticed an ex gf of Bob has her car parked out the front.

    Walked inside to get a glass of water, door to Bobs room is closed and I hear girly laughing. Ophelia is having a good time, but I don't think they are sexing.

    Do I tell Wendy?


    P.S. I know that Wendy and Bob will probably break up anyway because he's a cunt to women - should I be the reason they break up.

    Plz give me more than a yes / no.
     
  2. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    No, you do not tell Wendy.....unless she is very close to you (i.e. you two were greaat friend before her and Bob got together).

    What you can do is tell Bob you heard and saw Ophelia over. Say "what was that about?" and then proceed to tell him your opinion that you don't think it's very cool because Wendy is a great person, etc.
     
  3. Poundin Mounds

    Poundin Mounds New Member

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    Wow never heard that story.

    Ps cry to OT
     
  4. Daria

    Daria New Member

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    Do you know Wendy very well?
     
  5. GregFarz78

    GregFarz78 New Member

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    Mind your own business unless wendy is related to you or something...bros before hos
     
  6. DiggityDogg

    DiggityDogg Guest

    Trust me, keep your nose out of it. It will backfire and you will be the bad guy. Been there, done that.
     
  7. Abomb

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    bros b4 hizzos.
     
  8. THoC

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    who are you better friends with? i assume bob. so no, do not tell wendy.

    by the way..... you probably do have a thing for her even if youre married. otherwise the idea of throwing your friend under the bus would not have come up.
     
  9. 7960

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    tell bob if you find out he's cheating on wendy you'll tell her.

    that leaves the ball in his court.
     
  10. bowrofl

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    Don't get involved.
     
  11. Drifter87

    Drifter87 Yippi-kay-ay, Motherfucker

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    If you are better friends with Bob, then ask him whats up and try to make him do the right thing.

    If you are better friends with Wendy, I would let her know what you saw and heard.

    I have been in a situation where I was in a bar with some friends. So one of my friend's BF (not really friends with her BF) hitting on another girl. So next time I ran into her I just said "Oh hey I saw your BF at the bar", and then it went down hill from there. In the end, she is with someone new and her and I are still friends.
     
  12. eljefedetonto

    eljefedetonto OT Supporter

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    I'd stay out of it. Not worth the ensuing drama, especially when you don't have any concrete evidence of cheating.

    PS Ophelia? really? :rofl:
     
  13. DiggityDogg

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    I lost a friend (that was a girl) when me, my fiancee, and my brother exposed her boyfriend as a liar and a cheater. Instead of turning on him like we thought she would, she turned on us.
     
  14. KindlyCuddly

    KindlyCuddly Irina Lazareanu

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    Don't get involved. Somehow, someway, it'll all be turned against you.
     
  15. kristaliah

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    You know Bob is a jerk to females so call him on it but don't tell Wendy.

    It's not your place to tell her, but the guy will never grow up if nobody questions his actions. You don't have to be overly confrontational but just a simple "Hey Bob what was Ophelia doing here?" kinda thing

    I just know that if you don't say anything to Bob it will eat you up for a bit.
     
  16. yourfather

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    Awesome,

    Well, Ophelia stayed over at Bobs house last night and Bob swears nothing happened.

    But I won't say a word to Wendy and will stay true to my friend.

    Even though I do not understand why he would want to do it.

    Wendy is ok, but she's not a 'friend' like Bob.

    Bob has some emotional issues, he can't stand being alone, so thats why I think he is relatively self destructive.

    Thanks for your advice and I will certainly follow it and keep my mouth shut.
     
  17. kristaliah

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    "Bob" sounds like my ex boyfriend.

    Loving the girl you're with but still wanting to have cake on the side even if it's not the greatest.

    Guys like them just have to grow up on their own I guess. :dunno:
     
  18. yourfather

    yourfather New Member

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    He's 28 years old..

    You think he would be over that stuff by now
     
  19. kristaliah

    kristaliah New Member

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    My ex will be 27 this year. He's still pulling the same shit.
     
  20. Lazy D.

    Lazy D. Active Member

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    it's his life, he can do anything he wants. So you don't like it and/or don't understand, doesn't mean it's wrong.
     
  21. kristaliah

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    It is wrong.

    He is using people for his own sick, twisted pleasure and to fill his own ego. Open relationships are fine, if both parties are allowed to fool around.
     
  22. sundance424

    sundance424 New Member

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    Naw, it's wrong because it hurts another. No matter what your definitions are that is an easy one in the "wrong" department.

    My punching you because I can do anything I want is wrong regardless if you like it or not.
     
  23. yourfather

    yourfather New Member

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    like others have said, it's fine, you can do anything you want in the world as long as it does no harm to others.
     
  24. Lazy D.

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    I'm pretty sure he has a different opinion since he's doing what he's doing. And you think it's wrong because you don't agree with it. There is no universal right or wrong, it's all man made definitions.
     
  25. Yail Bloor

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    don't you have sexual organs?
     

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