SRS Friday and Saturday nights

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  1. familyguy101

    familyguy101 New Member

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    are brutal for me. I have tried going out with new people but I just don't fit in. No matter what approach I take, attitude I have, or what mood I try and put myself in, people just don't respond to me. They will respond to me in a way that they think i'm a cool guy, but at the same time they have no desire to see me again. Not that they don't want to see me either though. There is probably like 10 of the same people that I see socially, but none of them have ever asked me if I want to hang out sometime. I have seen these same people for the last few years through 1-2 mutual friends. It would be too late for me to ask any of them now if they want to hang out. Hanging out with people is just too weird for me. I'm a very boring person to talk to, I don't have much to say. I'm just a stereotypical background character. Also, no matter how much time I spend with the same person, the awkwardness never goes away. I'm pretty much a known stranger to everyone. So Fridays and Saturdays I always spend watching a movie or something. I do this so often that I don't even know what I'm missing. What am I missing by not socializing? Am I missing out on important life lessons? Am I missing out on the point of life? Does it prevent me from seeing the big picture?

    Please help, I'm looking for some concrete advice here. I need to know something, I just don't know what.
     
  2. Takitome

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    Maybe you should try another approach.

    Like having you be with other people in the same place, but you're all there for a reason. Such as a hobby for instance.. A hobby that has some socialising in it, like a sport, taking dance lessons, a chess club or something. Things that you would like doing you know?

    I imagine it's easier to talk with other people when you're all there for a reason.. more natural even and you have something to keep yourself busy with should you get unsure of what to say or do.
     
  3. familyguy101

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    yeah, I am into offroading. Me and my brother go all the time, and 90% of the people we meet out there are kinda hicks. They are not even in my age group. I am 19, and they are all at least 25. I've been trying that for over a year and it's not working. Plus, we go to offroad parks and most of the people there have commuted quite a distance, so it's not like they even live in the same town as me.
     
  4. daaarn

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    yeah i kinda know how you feel. when i first transferred colleges and ended up around a bunch of new people i tried fitting in but was never really able to. i had maybe one tangentially shared interest with them and tried playing that up, but it never really worked b/c i was never really into it. "forcing" myself into socializing with them didn't work b/c it just felt so unnatural and i ended up feeling really uncomfortable. like Takitome said, try doing something that feels more natural like something you're really interested in. also, try not to care too much about what the other people are like (ie- age, "coolness," etc.). granted, the younger you are the more age can be a decisive factor. but anyway, i initially tried making friends with the "cool" people that had all the connections and that just never really worked out. on the other hand, it was the somewhat nerdy people that i managed to click with instead. just give everyone a chance and you might be surprised how easy things'll be
     

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