found a women perfect for me, only thing is...

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  1. Montoya

    Montoya OT Supporter

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    she is quite a bit older than me.. we click on every level and are very compatible, feel like im falling in love with her,

    we agreed when we started seeing each other that it was just a "for now" thing but that was nearly a year ago and id consider her one of my best friends.

    we both know that we have no future together (because of the age gap) but we are so into each other that i dont know how it will end.. ive turned down girls my age because im still seeing her.

    not sure why im making this thread, just wanted to get some opinions.
     
  2. john law

    john law Guest

    ride the wave
     
  3. Kev07

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    how big of an age diff are we talkin
     
  4. haargerman

    haargerman ayuh.

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    how much older?

    my ex is now dating someone 11 years older than her :o
     
  5. Montoya

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    12 years :o im 26
     
  6. THoC

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    correct me if im wrong....

    sounds like you want more.

    she does not "bc of the age gap" .... its a "for now" situation.

    yet, all clicks.


    im just going out on a limb here, but it sounds like she is keeping you around to have her fun but she is not interested in actually being in a RS with you.

    to which i ask... are you cool with that? to me it sounds like you have more feelings in this RS than she does.
    you are also turning down girls you own age bc of her. once she decides you are no longer a fun thing to keep around you will have lost opportunties to meet other girls.
     
  7. Montoya

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    nah she definately feels stronger for me than i do for her, she is into me like no other girl i have ever been with.
     
  8. haargerman

    haargerman ayuh.

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    maybe she's desperate cause she feels like she's getting old and she won't have much more time to find someone :dunno:
     
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    ok.... so why are you two NOT in an exclusive RS?
     
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    ForgottenSpiral Hope and Irony OT Supporter

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    :werd: I don't see the problem here. If she's really perfect then make it work. If the age is a deal breaker then move the fuck on.
     
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    we are but we know that we have no future..
     
  12. ForgottenSpiral

    ForgottenSpiral Hope and Irony OT Supporter

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    Why not?
     
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    i dont understand why.

    is it you that feels this way? her? both?

    you like her and she's perfect. according to you she is even more into you.

    why the fuck is there no future? something is missing bro........


    is it you? do you feel no future bc although you may find her attractive now you worry that in a few years you wont find her attractive any more?
     
  14. Montoya

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    because of the age gap.. and each have different life goals Im about to start a career etc we said we would just enjoy "now" and take stuff as it comes.
     
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    The age gap is not a reason. The reasons would be the problems the age gap might create. We're asking specifically what reasons you have to think it wouldn't work out. "The age gap" isn't an answer.

    Life goals is a reasonable issue, but again you're being entirely too vague. What about your goals necessitate this as being short term only?
     
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    perfect first response and it shoulda ended at that
     
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    Dude, that isn't anything. If you like her that much, keep with her.
    :slap:
     
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    Prioritize your life-goals and figure out where she fits in them. If you find yourself keeping her pretty high on the list, then consider what that means to you and maybe try to make it work.
     
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    perfect setup if you ask me :mamoru:
     
  21. Jacy

    Jacy red lipstick brigade

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    There was an age gap of 12 years between me and my exboyfriend. I don't think the difference in age is relevant. If you're bestfriends, then I'm assuming that there isn't a huge maturity difference
     
  22. iwishyouwerebeer

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    :hsugh: 26 and 38 is too weird? Please explain why that is too big an age gap for you.
     
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    still waiting for someone to bring up having kids :dunno:

    by the time he's ready to make babies, she won't be able to.

    but if you don't want kids or are ok with adopting, then that's not even really an obsatcle.
     
  24. antihero

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    huh... pretty surprised to see two women who aren't new here surprised that men don't go older. Going more than a year or two, maybe three, older is a big deal for a guy. The same way women typically don't go for guys more than 3 years younger.

    older man younger woman makes sense on almost every level. I'm not saying its significant, but probably makes more sense in a lot of ways than two people the same age. Older woman younger man makes no sense.
     
  25. D7

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    How so? I don't want my older husband to die 15+ years before I do (assuming it lasts "forever" - just humor me). Hell I don't want him to die before me at all. Therefore I should marry a man 5-10 years younger. Maybe. :)
     

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