ForgottenSpiral's breakup thread.

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  1. ForgottenSpiral

    ForgottenSpiral Hope and Irony OT Supporter

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    So I did it. It was hard because like any human being with a heart, I feel like shit when I hurt someone. I'm obviously devastated as well since I've devoted a lot of myself to this relationship. I fucking hate breakups. But I think I put more than enough effort into the relationship and ultimately when I realized it just wasn't the right relationship for me, there was only one thing left to do. I still love her and I hate that it has come to this, but I really think eventually this will prove to be the best thing for both of us.

    Now watch as I Run. Run and Don't Look Back.
     
  2. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    Stay strong brotato :hug:
     
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    you know it's for the better!
     
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    good luck.
     
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    You did the right thing hun. It's gonna hurt before it gets better, but iit will get better. Stay strong.
     
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    freckleface expose the raw nerve and get on with our lives...

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  8. ForgottenSpiral

    ForgottenSpiral Hope and Irony OT Supporter

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    Thanks guys. I appreciate you guy's support because this is hard and it's nice to have people reminding me that I'm doing the right thing.
     
  9. just_another_on

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    You are, thats for sure.

    We've been going back and forth about this for months, and realistically the only thing you two have together is the love in one another.
     
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    Bob Brown bewshit, bewshit, bewshit

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    I wish I had more details..but I imagine that you are feeling shitty and might post them later..if not that's cool too.

    Stay strong man

    :hug:
     
  13. ForgottenSpiral

    ForgottenSpiral Hope and Irony OT Supporter

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    Wirelessly posted via wap.offtopic.com (Mozilla/5.0 (Danger hiptop 4.7; U; rv:1.7.12) Gecko/20050920)

    Not really sure what details to post so I'l just throw out what comes to mind.

    She and I started dating over 3 years ago, but broke up about a year into the relationship because she couldn't commit. She tried to win me back when the new guy turned out to be a douche. I ran and didn't look back. A few months later we ran into each other and talked for a bit. She'd been doing a lot of work on herself and so we decided to give it another shot. She's been dedicated to me ever since.

    We went to couples counseling and worked through most of our issues, but no matter what we tried our sex life never consistently satisfied. We've tried working on it for the last year and made some progress, but not nearly enough. I finally decided that I'm tired of fighting over it and working on it. It just doesn't seem like it's supposed to be this hard to have a fulfilling sex life.

    So I ended it last night and she kept trying to convince me to stay saying there are things we haven't tried yet. I felt like an asshole and really wanted to just apologize and keep trying, but I stuck to my guns, took my shit from her place and haven't talked to her since.

    I still have my guilt, my doubts, my fears, and my pain. I truly do love this woman. I don't want to hurt her. Hell, I don't want to leave her. I just don't see myself being happy if I stay.

    Oh and she's a selfish bitch too.
     
  14. Cobra Commander

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    Well I'm glad that you realize that theoretically you spend upwards of 1/3 or 30 years (if you live to be 90) in bed..and if the sex is bad then the relationship will more than likely be bad..

    I'm actually really happy for you and hope nothing but the best for you man. Keep us updated, I like to hear good things about breakups.

    Or at least people GROWING from a breakup.
     
  15. Lucky Penny

    Lucky Penny Mr. cut me some slack cause I don't wanna go back,

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    You deserve better than how she was treating you and you were putting a lot more time and effort into the betterment of your relationship than she was. She just wasn't ready to face her demons yet and there is nothing you can do about that, FS. You supported her and took care of her and I firmly believe you did more than most people would. You cannot help someone who will not help themselves. This was not a ship you needed to go down with. I'm proud of you for leaving. You made the right move babe. :hug: It's time to take care of yourself now. <3
     
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    :werd: you really did try. I'm sorry you couldn't find a common ground :hs:
     
  17. ForgottenSpiral

    ForgottenSpiral Hope and Irony OT Supporter

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    Thanks guys. I still feel like complete shit and I expect that feeling won't dissipate for a bit. I hate how even though I know I'll experience doubt and regret, it somehow always manages to catch me by surprise. Fucking emotions.
     
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    ForgottenSpiral Hope and Irony OT Supporter

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    I feel sick about this shit. I can't believe after all the time and effort I put into this, I still get these intense feelings of regret like I'm making a huge mistake. Grr.
     
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    Its what happens when you realize 3 years of invested emotions, feelings and love just doesnt work out :(.

    Sometimes the right move isnt the easiest...
     
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  21. Deborah

    Deborah Seeing is believing, but I don't want to know.

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    sorry FS:hug: breakups really suck, hope you get over it soon.
     
  22. Hemps

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    Respect dude :cool:
    It will be for the best though, you gave it a fair shot. If it isn't what you want, then it wasn't meant to last forever. :wavey:
     
  23. Franco

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    Stay strong protato.
     
  24. JoJoBee

    JoJoBee Hanging out with my chicks! OT Supporter

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  25. Joshua

    Joshua ambition over everything OT Supporter

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    holy fucking shit it finally happened

    i know i haven't been around in a bit but keep that head high playboy, long time coming stay strong
     

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