Forgot to call her..

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  1. the_mavsman

    the_mavsman New Member

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    ...now she just called me up at 2am at night sounding all emo and sad on the phone and asked why i didn't her. I didn't realise I was supposed to call her every night cause even though we talk to each other every night, it's mostly her that calls me. Is she being too clingy here? Or am I at fault?
     
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    Did you SAY that you would call her?

    If you finished the previous night's conversation by saying "Ok. I'll call you tomorrow sometime" then she has a right to be mad.

    If you didn't say you'd call her, it's just her being a bit insecure because you missed a night.

    The trouble here is, that you've established a precedent of calling every night. Now anything you do to try and stop that is going to make it look like you are not into her and she's going to guilt you and cause you a lot of grief.
     
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    did you say you were going to call her, or did she just expect that since she didnt call you, that you would be the one to call?

    and whats the normal pattern? she always calls you around the same time?you sometimes call her if she doesnt call you first? etc
     
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    ForgottenSpiral Hope and Irony OT Supporter

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    My question is: why didn't you call her?
     
  6. KindlyCuddly

    KindlyCuddly Irina Lazareanu

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    she's going to turn out to be weird and clingy. even if she was upset you typically don't call the person at 2:00 AM talking about how upset you were.
     
  7. ChaCha

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    she'll get over it

    for my LDR right now we make calling and texting each other top priority
     
  8. knucks

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    sounds clingy.

    if you did say you'd call, and didn't, well yes you're at fault
     
  9. Falconer

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    You know...

    if someone made this thead saying "a girl forgot to call me", everyone would jump in and say she has low interest in you...
     
  10. Boosh Dag

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    I hate to do it, but I actually agree with Falconer for once.
     
  11. Falconer

    Falconer OT Supporter

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    For once? Dude you must be wrong a lot then :mamoru:
     
  12. Boosh Dag

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    I do pretty well.
     
  13. Yail Bloor

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    once the precedent has been set for you to call every day, that is what you will be expected to do

    my question for her would have been "why are you waking me up at 2 am?"

    how did you handle it? did you apologize?

    i don't see any problem with letting her be the one to call you most of the time
     
  14. the_mavsman

    the_mavsman New Member

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    Yeah i didn't tell her i would call her or anything and shes the one that usually calls me.

    And i did apologise to her, she's better now i think. Not sure if i should talk to her about calling/texting each other every night though, she might be upset if i told her its sufficient to just talk every other night. She seems like the clingy type that needs my voice before she goes to sleep. And I do like her, but i am just not a phone person.
     
  15. jmezz

    jmezz layin in bed stretchin my pumped quads for hours

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    She's cheating on you.
     
  16. jmezz

    jmezz layin in bed stretchin my pumped quads for hours

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    Wait I didn't read the thread.
     
  17. knucks

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    5 black guys?
     
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    so what is it? you're just not that into the girl?
     
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    "i was busy. I'll be in contact with you later. Goodnight".
     
  20. BoypussY

    BoypussY game over.

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    i didnt realise how important much callin on time was for my ex that i had to break up with her since she would get insecure and jealous.. she would assume that im banging another chick just because i didnt call her. :ugh:

    i'd just call her on time if you want to stay with her, only if shes good in bed.
     
  21. JordanClarkson

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    She sounds clingy and needy. If you don't give her what she wants, she'll find it somewhere else :mamoru:
     
  22. BoypussY

    BoypussY game over.

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    sounds like my ex. i broke up with her and the cunt found another dude the next day. im not upset though, she def downgraded. she traded quality for just somoeone who gives her attention.
     
  23. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    Have a talk with her, a real talk about how you feel about constantly talking on the phone. She needs to know it's "not your thing."
     
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    wow...little too needy...
     

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