for people looking to improve their conversational skills

Discussion in 'Vaginarium' started by giz, Jul 31, 2009.

  1. giz

    giz Active Member

    Joined:
    Nov 25, 2004
    Messages:
    15,634
    Likes Received:
    0
    Location:
    salt lake
    I highly recommend watching Louis Theroux's documentaries done for BBC :bowdown: I've watched about 10 so far and not only do they cover some really interesting subjects, but I've learned a lot by watching how Louis interacts with the people around him. The man is skilled at listening and taking in all the info around him, asking open-ended and poignant questions, and applying a solid vacuum while waiting for people to answer. His interest in people and their stories is also obviously genuine.

    Despite some very pointed and deep questions, people open up and answer. He also seems to develop friendships with everybody he meets and is quite likable.

    I personally started watching these about a week ago and have made it a point to mimic his behaviors. I've always been pretty good at getting people to talk (and to listen, since I tend to talk more) but I've noticed a huge change in the dynamics of my conversations! There are people that I've known for a long time, but learned more about them in the past week than I knew in the years before. It's crazy.

    It's one thing to hear "ask open-ended questions" and quite another to witness it done on the professional level. I highly suggest giving these documentaries a watch. :bigthumb:

    Here is a thread with links to some of the videos. You can also find them on torrents/newsgroups (search Louis Theroux or Weird Weekends).

    http://forums.offtopic.com/showthread.php?t=4259399&highlight=louis+theroux
     
  2. just_another_on

    just_another_on New Member

    Joined:
    Dec 11, 2007
    Messages:
    30,849
    Likes Received:
    0
    Location:
    Rhode Island
    :bowdown:

    He is great at what he does.
     
  3. evolude

    evolude OT Supporter

    Joined:
    Feb 10, 2004
    Messages:
    19,005
    Likes Received:
    6
    Thanks.
     
  4. giz

    giz Active Member

    Joined:
    Nov 25, 2004
    Messages:
    15,634
    Likes Received:
    0
    Location:
    salt lake
    There is one on bodybuilding, though it focuses more on women's muscle worship :mamoru: It's pretty interesting and worth a watch

    The one on hypnosis features Ross Jeffries among other people and is one of the better ones I've seen
     
  5. evolude

    evolude OT Supporter

    Joined:
    Feb 10, 2004
    Messages:
    19,005
    Likes Received:
    6
    Watching that now. :cool:

    It downloaded pretty quick (4500KB/sec).
     
  6. Falconer

    Falconer OT Supporter

    Joined:
    Jun 23, 2006
    Messages:
    65,506
    Likes Received:
    1
    share?
     
  7. Viper

    Viper OT Supporter

    Joined:
    Sep 22, 2004
    Messages:
    65,631
    Likes Received:
    483
    Location:
    In a van down by the river
    Aw hell, guess this means I need to renew my sub. :mamoru:
     
  8. T-R-T

    T-R-T New Member

    Joined:
    Dec 4, 2004
    Messages:
    5,427
    Likes Received:
    0
    can you copy and paste the links? i don't have a sub.
     
  9. giz

    giz Active Member

    Joined:
    Nov 25, 2004
    Messages:
    15,634
    Likes Received:
    0
    Location:
    salt lake
    Law and Disorder in Philadelphia (rides around with philly cops)
    http://jiserver.com/files/Law.and.Disorder.in.Philadelphia.avi

    A Place for Paedophiles (visits facility for sex offenders)
    http://lopeserver.com/files/A Place for Paedophiles.avi

    Under the Knife (investigates plastic surgery)
    http://lopeserver.com/files/Under The Knife.avi

    African Hunting Holiday (exotic animals bred to be hunted by tourists)
    http://lopeserver.com/files/African.Hunting.Party.avi

    Bodybuilding
    http://jiserver.com/files/LTWW S01E15 - Body-Building.avi

    Looking For Love (thai brides)
    http://www.filedropper.com/ltwws01e16-thaibrides

    Law and Disorder in Johannesburg
    http://www.filedropper.com/louistheroux-lawanddisorderinjohannesburg

    Bunch of others:
    http://hotfilms.org/tv-shows-series/rs-com-louis-theroux-weird-weekends-7994.html

    Also search on
    www.nonfictionvideos.com

    Youtube Playlists with a ton of the videos
    http://www.youtube.com/results?search_type=search_playlists&search_query=Louis+Theroux&uni=1
     
  10. Thelonius

    Thelonius New Member

    Joined:
    Aug 8, 2008
    Messages:
    2,826
    Likes Received:
    0
    Sometimes he's a bit snide and condescending, but it's understandable considering he talks to white supremacists and other douche bags. You're right though, generally speaking he has a good attitude..people really seem to respond to his eye contact/body language and he's open minded and usually up for trying anything.

    I'll admit that I suck at listening/eye contact unless I have a specific agenda like trying to get a chick's number or whatever. Maybe I'm just a self-centered prick.
     
  11. idesofmarch

    idesofmarch New Member

    Joined:
    Jun 29, 2005
    Messages:
    8,929
    Likes Received:
    0
    Location:
    Indiana
  12. giz

    giz Active Member

    Joined:
    Nov 25, 2004
    Messages:
    15,634
    Likes Received:
    0
    Location:
    salt lake
    The Mosted Hated Family in America is super :ugh::ugh::ugh::ugh:

    It's about Westboro Baptist Church, famous for "God Hates Fags" and picketing soldiers funerals
     
  13. Bagsic

    Bagsic New Member

    Joined:
    Nov 5, 2007
    Messages:
    1,798
    Likes Received:
    0
    Location:
    bay area
  14. T-R-T

    T-R-T New Member

    Joined:
    Dec 4, 2004
    Messages:
    5,427
    Likes Received:
    0
    Thanks :bigthumb:
     
  15. haargerman

    haargerman ayuh.

    Joined:
    Oct 23, 2005
    Messages:
    4,748
    Likes Received:
    0
    Location:
    Boston
  16. Falconer

    Falconer OT Supporter

    Joined:
    Jun 23, 2006
    Messages:
    65,506
    Likes Received:
    1
    i skimmed the first post and thought you were talking about a program specifically for improving your conversation. And then when I saw the subjects, I was like "lol, wtf?" but then I got it :rofl:
     
  17. Falconer

    Falconer OT Supporter

    Joined:
    Jun 23, 2006
    Messages:
    65,506
    Likes Received:
    1
  18. Falconer

    Falconer OT Supporter

    Joined:
    Jun 23, 2006
    Messages:
    65,506
    Likes Received:
    1
    watching the Nazi one now. Wow, 1:30 in and that woman is a fucking bitch already :bowrofl:
     
  19. giz

    giz Active Member

    Joined:
    Nov 25, 2004
    Messages:
    15,634
    Likes Received:
    0
    Location:
    salt lake
    :rofl:

    after watching about three of them I was like "this guy can get anybody talking :eek3:" so I started to pay attention to how he asked questions. I went out that night and tried it... ended up meeting and talking to a lot of people I never would have otherwise (ie guys :rofl:) and my conversations with men/women were great

    one guy I met is a very successful entrepreneur and a great contact to have. I would have never had the drive to get him talking. I hung out with him today, pretty cool.
     
  20. +(ll.ll)+

    +(ll.ll)+ New Member

    Joined:
    Jan 14, 2007
    Messages:
    14,072
    Likes Received:
    0
    In on this shit.
     
  21. +(ll.ll)+

    +(ll.ll)+ New Member

    Joined:
    Jan 14, 2007
    Messages:
    14,072
    Likes Received:
    0
    I often stop at "Good, how are you?"
     
  22. giz

    giz Active Member

    Joined:
    Nov 25, 2004
    Messages:
    15,634
    Likes Received:
    0
    Location:
    salt lake
    yeah, exactly. It happens to me pretty often too and I always walk away hating myself for a couple minutes :hs:

    growing up I was really, super shy. It's taken a lot of effort to where I've gotten now.
     
  23. Bob Brown

    Bob Brown bewshit, bewshit, bewshit

    Joined:
    Nov 18, 2007
    Messages:
    3,909
    Likes Received:
    0
    :rofl: for some reason this reminded me of I Love You, Man
     
  24. Falconer

    Falconer OT Supporter

    Joined:
    Jun 23, 2006
    Messages:
    65,506
    Likes Received:
    1
    This guy reminds me of me :rofl:

    Talking to the racist guy in part 5 of the Nazi episode. The white supremacist has a non-white friend from Peru.

    Louis: "I felt warmth between you two"
    Nazi: "That's just common courtesy..."
    Louis:"Do you really not see what I'm trying to see?"
    Nazi: "I see what you're trying to say but I think your brain is twisted"
    Louis: "I think your brain is twisted"
    Nazi: "Well then we agree. We both agree that each others brains are twisted"
    Louis: "Yeah, but the facts are on my side. You have friends who are non-white."

    :bowrofl:

    Using logic to win arguments... so obviously these techniques wouldn't work when dealing with women.


    I'm still gonna watch the rest of these, tho, just because they're interesting and I like seeing morons get schooled with logic.
     
  25. Falconer

    Falconer OT Supporter

    Joined:
    Jun 23, 2006
    Messages:
    65,506
    Likes Received:
    1
    he's good at staying calm when people give him shit, tho.
     

Share This Page