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  1. uwofrost

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    What are the qualities you look for in a man? Aside from looks (unless your really shallow)

    I will make a poll for men and women later this month
     
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    How would that make her really shallow?

    We guys base entire relationships on looks. I've seen men get fucked sideways because they don't want to break up with a girl who is treating him like shit because she LOOKS good and they don't think they'll ever find a girl as hot as her.

    Putting huge importance on looks isn't shallow.
     
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    My second question, and I'm not trying to be a dick here, but...

    I've read your other thread and some of your responses. You claim to be some sort of great player. Why are you making a thread like this, when, as a great player, you should already know the answers to these questions?

    Again, I'm not challenging you. I'm just asking an upfront question.
     
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    I really dont have a "check list" or anything. There are attractive qualities, but there are so many variations on them that its really hard to put them all down. Then there are ones like "how he treats me" or "we have a good time together" that are almost completely meaningless/useless to give as answers to questions like this because they are so hard to describe and really subjective.
     
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    This kinda makes your responses in that other thread make more sense.

    You really have no idea what you want, so that's why you are more apt to change.
     
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    You know, I used to think that too. But I've asked this question to a lot of girls, and there ARE some very consistent answers.

    Most of the girls who I've seen respond to threads like these or to my questions in real life have almost always said:

    1. Trust
    2. Honesty
    3. Confidence
    4. Makes her laugh

    Those are the four most common answers.
     
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    Generic. I stand by my point and my wife agree's :dunno: Its also something that changes throughout life. I mean, the answers there are basically being a good human, I would think ANYONE would want that in someone they wish to have a long lasting romantic relationship with.
     
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    intelligence, sense of humor, honesty, confidence, ablility to be both serious and silly, open-minded
     
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    You might be surprised at how many people don't have a single quality on that list. :rofl:
     
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    I never said "I dont know what I want", I said it was hard to list them, as in, its hard to put them into words. Thats not the same thing.
     
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    It's almost the same thing.
     
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    Aggreed, the question was specifically about what a woman looks for in a man, and those qualities Viper listed are general things that most people look for in another person they want to be around - it could be just a friendship between myself and another woman and I'd want those things, so they arent really appropriate answers here.
     
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    So what, if I cant put them into words for someone else to understand, "I dont know what they are"? Thats crap. These are things I look for in a partner, so why do I need to be able to write them down/say them to another person?
    Like I already said, answers to this question are going to be very, very, subjective, so I dont think that the OP isgoing to get what they're looking for because of this...if he's interested in a specific girl, they're useless, because that specific girl could and probably will have a very, very personalized list that he cant even begin to get a grasp on. If he's just looking for what "girls in general" look for, thats pretty much useless too because once you generalize on that scale, your just looking for basic traits of a good person, not of a good partner.
     
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    guys (especially on OT) are always like "oh women have no idea what they want" because she doesn't want THEM, and they think she should :mamoru:

    although it's true that some women don't know exactly what they want, it doesn't mean it's true for everyone.
     
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    If you know what you want, you really should be able to put it into words though.

    Even if it's not for a forum full of guys, you should at LEAST be able to articulate it to yourself somehow. :dunno:

    I notice that YOU posted specific things you wanted. YOU know what you want, or at least a part of it.
     
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    I know what works for me and the girls i go for, but that is for one type of girl... Its just nice to know what other "random" girls think. I was just wondering if its the same across the board for the most part or type specific.
     
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    Thats what i was thinking and the responces would seem to agree with you!!
     
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    Sephiroth13 Beginning of the End

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    Honestly, everyone woman is different unless your going for a clone of a barbie or something..I would suggest you talk to her to find out what she likes. ...
     
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    Ok, wait. You're kind of contradicting yourself. And now Im confused...

    That part says I should be able to use words to describe it. However,

    This part:

    states that I only have to do it somehow.

    Doesn't this "somehow" not include non-verbal or written expression?
    Just because I cant write it down or say it doesnt mean it doesnt exist. Its kinda like how "a picture is worth a thousand words" - I can tell you that the sunset last night was orange, red, and beautiful, but theres still something about those words that leave alot to the imagination and dont capture how beautiful it really was, so I'll show you a picture, then you'll have a better idea.
    I know if I even tried to explain and write my list here, or even wrote it down for myself (which I think would be stupid anyway, why the hell do I need to hang on to a list when I know whats on it?) I'd loose alot in the translation. The best analogy I can think of goes back to what I just said about a picture, or perhaps a dream. I have a 'picture' in my mind of what I'd want in a guy, putting that picture into words just isnt possible nor practical.
     
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    I'm just saying that there are some things you want that should easily translate into word.

    For instance, I want a girl who is both smart and bookwormish, but knows how to have fun.

    I can articulate that. Now, there is a lot more that I want, that I probably couldn't articulate or if I did it would come out looking like Falconer's list, but there are some things that I know that I want that are easily translated into words.
     

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