SRS following up w/ a girl u meet at a club

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  1. gemini-s2k

    gemini-s2k New Member

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    i usually dont meet girls at clubs too often, netime i ever get a girls # at a club it never seems to pan out afterwards.. dont usually care but really like this one ^_^

    met her saturday, danced it up for awhile, got the name, age, wheres shes from, etc etc and the #... just scared to call! too many damn unwritten 'rules' - tomorrow will b 2 days, should i call then? dunt even know what to say, dont wanna come off too aggresive what would be the best way to see her again ...

    jus looking for an opinion, thx :p
     
  2. johan

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    too scared to call? What for?

    She gave you her number already. If it's a fake #, problem solved you won't be talking to her anyway.
    If it's a real number, then SHE gave it to you after all, so what's the worry, she's already into it.

    Wait a couple days then call. Arrange to meet at the same club again if you REALLY can't think of anything to say.

    If this is still really bothering you, you could always give out your number. See who calls you.

    If it's still too much, don't worry about it. No one says you HAVE to call back. The problem will take care of itself when you can't stand it anymore and simply force yourself to just go ahead and do it.

    You'll wonder why you were so scared before, cuz it's nothing, but some people just take more time to get there.


    One last word of advice: Call the very next girl who gives you her number, even if you're not particularly interested.

    If she says NO, it's actually better for you. Teach you how to deal with rejection (which you currently cannot handle, hence, your fear) and also give you a chance to practice. Plus if you're not really into her, the stakes will be lower, and the stress is much less.

    Then, when you finally do meet a girl you absolutely MUST CALL, you'll be glad you already practiced with all those "maybe" girls. Get my meaning? So get cracking already.
     
  3. Mr. O

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    i'd call back, i met a chick at a club and called her the next day and its been working out fine.
     
  4. gemini-s2k

    gemini-s2k New Member

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    hehe never works out for me...

    called her yesterday at around 8 (we met on saturday) - went straight to voice mail (no rings) so just left msg that it would be cool to hear from her and to call me back, left the # - think ill wait till friday afternoon if no call by then ill try one more and if nothing then fuck it...

    which is what i fully expect to happen for some reason and somethin i jus dont understand :p
     
  5. soss

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    next time this happens and you get a voicemail, say something along the lines 'hey its soandso, you were probably too drunk to care, but you gave me your number the other night, gimme a call if you wanna hang out'

    Girls at clubs are terribly insecure and wreak of pussy power games...i'd find a new place to try and pick them up at.
     
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    QFT

    Every girl I've ever met at a club and developed something beyond there resulted in major drama, and the girl was never worth it in the long run.

    Quality women dont meet guys at clubs. Chances are they may occasionally go with friends, but they dont go shopping.
     
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    I see clubs as good places to practice your game. Remember it's not just girls who are there to play games, be they power or sexual or emotional or whatever.

    Clubs are not a good place to nurse your tender wounded soul after a raw breakup.
     
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    :bowdown: As always, your responses are right on.
     
  9. DiggityDogg

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    You can call her, but if you want to do something then plan a date before you call her, and also have a back up plan in case she is unavailable for your first suggestion. Keep your phone conversation to a MINIMUM. You are calling her to invite her out on a date, so do not use it for anything other than quick chat and set up the date. Phone comversations or IM, email, etc can lead you to the friendzone. If you are getting to know someone, then do it in a situation where you can build up a sexual chemistry, and over the phone or other areas of conversation, this simply isn't going to happen easily.

    For a first date, you can keep it simple. Coffee at Starbucks, a drink at a quiet bar, etc. Clubs aren't too good of ideas because you will have too many distractions, other guys included. It's also not a great place to get a conversation going.

    For more help I advise you to go to www.friendzoned.com
     
  10. DiggityDogg

    DiggityDogg Guest

    Just now read this. Forget the girl. If she was excited to see you then she wouldn't have risked offending you by ignoring your call. Short of a death in the family or something serious, she would have returned your call. She didn't. Cut your losses and move on. I still recommend that site.
     

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