First time having Anal, help and suggestions?

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  1. dangsdunks

    dangsdunks New Member

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    The wifey said yes, but i'm pretty sure its gonna be hard to get her to relax, she's scared because she's tiny 5'0 and 95 pounds. I have an average lengthed dick but its pretty wide so shes pretty scared. Anyways, good thing to do it in the shower or just lube?
     
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    make sure shes clean haha. yeah get her in the mood, and use lots of lube :p
     
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    shower water /= lube...go with the lube for the best feeling. The best way to relax her is to toss her salad for a while. After that just take it VERY slow, going in just a little bit at a time. Keep communicating the whole time.
     
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    Why would this be a good thing? I fear for your wife's anus. Good luck.
     
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  7. Brigante

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    my gf is about the same size. i'm average size i would say. no matter how much lube you use, and how slow/gentle you are it's gonna be painful for her. just make sure she knows what's coming. my gf finds the most "comfortable" position for her is on her back with her knees to her chest and her pelvis elevated on a small pillow. but she still says after maybe 6 times doing it with her and warming her up with my fingers beforehand, it's still quite painful.
     
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    ohhh god, bring on the lube. anything to get her in the mood, because she really has to want it in order for it to be enjoyable. you definitely want to prime her with your fingers before getting started though.
     
  9. Cerridwen

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    Make sure that you do NOT go back and forth between the anus and vagina. Once it's in the anus there's no going back. Painfull infections WILL occur (if she's like most normal women) going back and forth.
    Make sure she washes afterwards and shits before hand.
    Obviously start small and very slow. Don't expect to be able to jam it in her and start pumping away.
    Good luck!
     
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    Id have her warm herself up with a buttplug(I mean several time prior to the 'big day"..get use to the feeling. Let her take her time getting use to it, get to know what feels good, etc. After she has built up some confidence on her own with that...then try the anal.
     
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    try fingering her and getting her in the mood and then slip a finger into her butthole and start fingering to start getting into it.

    my gf said she didnt like stuff up her bum and i proved her wrong recently by fingering first then oen thing lead to another.
     
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    def. use lots of lube. one of the pornstars on playboy radio on sirius said if you're doing alot of anal, find some silicone based lube? cuz it doesn't sting if her anus tears/or is damaged.
     
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    So just bring her to the confessional, when "oh my god" comes out, all more the merrier.
     
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    WELL- It looks like mostly males have given some feedback..so here's some advice from a female!! hehe..
    for her first time... get her to relax.. do a lot of massaging.. I find that when my man grabs my ass and is rubbing his hands all over me it makes it easier for me to relax.. also, keep up the dirty talk.. that helps too.. use a condom and lube.. makes it easier to slide in.. I know my position is chest down and my legs spread almost like a frog.. lol.. it makes it feels soo much better if I'm in a comfortable position.. also, it feels better when the guys body is laying against mine.. because the penetration feels better.. if you are away from the body it's more painful.. from my experience..

    need any more tips just let me know..
     
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    and once its in to an acceptable amount, leave it in there for a little while without moving at all to help her relax. When she says its stopped hurting, and says she's relaxed, start moving. But don't jump the gun.
     

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