SRS First date tonight since splitting with my wife 8 weeks ago

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  1. Paulie Walnuts

    Paulie Walnuts Im an agent of chaos

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    Err...yeah. I havent been on a first date in 6 years and Ive been on two first dates in the last 9 years. Needless to say, Im a little frightened. Advice!?!?!
     
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    just be yourself :)
     
  3. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    Be cool. In other words, try your very hardest just to relax and have fun with it. You might know within 10 mintes that you don't want to see this girl again, but don't let it stress you out. Just try to make the best of the date and work on your communication skills with her.
     
  4. Paulie Walnuts

    Paulie Walnuts Im an agent of chaos

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    We have had about 4 IM conversations, multiple eMails and one phone call. Should be interesting. We are going here tonight: http://www.trygs.com/
     
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    I would say don't trash your wife the whole time. I'm not assuming you would, be just incase.

    Everytime I talk to someone recently divorced, that's all they talk about.

    Good luck :)
     
  6. polishillusion

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    2 months is long enough for you?
     
  7. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    Is there a time frame? He certainly shouldn't be home moping over it I say kudos to you Paulie for getting out there again :bigthumb:

    Oh, and Socrates is right....if she brings up your ex-wife than you are allowed to briefly talk about her (and not bash her). If she never brings her up than keep your mouth ZIPPED.
     
  8. saiaba

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    Just go out there be yourself have fun, don't expect anything. And don't expect to be perfect your first time back out there. If this is fail, then take the good from it and move on to the next prospect.
     
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    I always wondered about time frame. I an recently out of a LTR (over 6 years) and its awkward for me when a date asks (been on 2 recently). Both times I was very brief and definitely didn't say anything negative. Honestly I just told the truth, that it was time to move on and no hard feelings and then steer the convo forward.

    I definitely wouldn't bring it up if she doesn't ask. try to relax and if you don't feel the vibe just use it as practice...it will be kinda awkward the first couple times.

    Good luck. :wavey:
     
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    bimmer318 I'm out of applesauce

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    How did you get that date... not online right? Because that's what I've been trying for the past 3 weeks with no luck... damn I haven't had a date in a 10 months... I'd kill for one now. lol
     
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    Don't talk about your ex-wife, marriage, or divorce. Trust me, that's a pretty big turn off on the first date.. :hs:
     
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    I came in here to post this. Don't bring up your marriage.
     
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    PleaseEatSomeShit 1-900-RAT-FUCK

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    Hope it went good tonight!
     
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    Relax and try to have a good time. Don't go into it with any outrageous expectations.
     
  15. Paulie Walnuts

    Paulie Walnuts Im an agent of chaos

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    Yeah 2 months is enough. Im not sitting home dwelling on her. Thanks for the support IWUWB.

    Yes the soon to be exwife was brought up a few times but nothing in depth.

    The date was amazing. She was smart, sexy, made me laugh and seemed like a very good person. She looked good in her pics and she looked even better IRL. I did get a text from her saying, "Thanks for tonight, I had so much fun. Cant wait until next time!"

    Hopefully something comes from it and she was not just shining me on. I cant stop smiling. Best I have felt in at least 3-5 months.
     
  16. Paulie Walnuts

    Paulie Walnuts Im an agent of chaos

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    Far far far far far from fail.
     
  17. Paulie Walnuts

    Paulie Walnuts Im an agent of chaos

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    Yes through Yahoo personals. Same place I met my wife in 2002.
     
  18. Paulie Walnuts

    Paulie Walnuts Im an agent of chaos

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    Ive met 6 women through Yahoo personals in 2 weeks and been on one date with a potential two more coming next week or the week after. The last one I have been talking to non stop but she is 4 hours North of here which is a pain.

    It is hard because its a constant comparison to the ex but the girl tonight, wow, just wow.
     
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  20. iwishyouwerebeer

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    Yay!!! Congrats on the awesome date :)
     
  21. PleaseEatSomeShit

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    Congrats mang.
    I knew you had it it in ya!
     
  22. Coottie

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    Congrats on the great first date. Glad it went well for you.

    I don't know if she was shining you on or not, afterall I wasn't there. However, regardless you had a great date so try to just focus on that and leave the rest till later. In fact, I wouldn't even worry about it till much later. I often tell myself, "I don't know so I need more data." :) I know...sounds silly but it's true and it helps me.
     
  23. Paulie Walnuts

    Paulie Walnuts Im an agent of chaos

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    Very good point and thank you for that. If anything I had a nice dinner, good conversation and it will send me into a good start of the week at work. What more can you ask for! :mamoru::mamoru::mamoru::mamoru:

    It was hard not texting or calling her today. I kept flashing back to Swingers.

    Mike: So how long do I wait to call?
    Trent: A day.
    Mike: Tomorrow.
    Sue: Tomorrow, then a day.
    Trent: Yeah.
    Mike: So two days?
    Trent: Yeah, I guess you could call it that, two days.
    Sue: Definitely, two days is like industry standard.
    Trent: You know I used to wait two days to call anybody, but now it's like everyone in town waits two days. So I think three days is kind of money. What do you think?
    Sue: Yeah, but two's enough not to look anxious.
    Trent: Yeah, two's enough not to look anxious. But I think three days is kind of money. You know because you...
    Mike: Yeah, but you know what, mabey I'll wait 3 weeks. How's that? And tell her I was cleaning out my wallet and I just happened to run into her number.
    Charles: Then ask her where you met her.
    Mike: Yeah, I'll ask her where I met her. I don't remember. What does she look like? And then I'll asked if we fucked. Is that... would that be... T, would that be the money?
    Trent: You know what. Ha ha ha Mike, laugh all you want but if you call too soon you might scare off a nice baby who's ready to party.
    Mike: Well how long are you guys gonna wait to call your babies?
    Trent, Sue: Six days.


    LOL!! I figure Tuesday I will make contact. 2 days is enough not to seem overly interested. I have thought of her all day though.
     
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    I wouldn't even make mention of the ex wife period. If appropriate, mention you are recently divorced and move on to the next topic. IN my opinion talking about ex's, good or bad, on a first date (or even while the relationship is still relatively new) is a quick way to kill something with great potential. My sister's 1st husband died in 1998, and then she started dating again in 2000-2001...all she :mb:'d about was what a terrible asshole he was and blah blah blah blah blah...needless to say she drove away several good prospects.
     
  25. Paulie Walnuts

    Paulie Walnuts Im an agent of chaos

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    Well we have a second date for Sunday night!
     

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