my g/f and I have been together for 2+ months...everything is AWESOME. IN bed and OUT of bed. we're definitely falling for each other..blah blah blah. here's the meat: she is VERY sexual and loves to "get it" hard lol. she likes it a bit rough...hands held down, some spanking, and told me the other day she likes to be "slapped around a bit" so, for valentine's day, I want to plan something (a surprise) a little bit kinky/bondage-ish. I was looking at some wrist restraints that go over the door... like these: http://www.mylovemachine.com/prod/SS32402-deluxe-door-jam-cuffs.html so I can hold her against the door (she loves that stuff!) I'm thinking of also getting a little paddle or something for some spanking. what else? how should I go about finding out what her limits are before then without totally spoiling the surprise? we went to an adult toy store this weekend for fun and bought a porno and a toy for me to use on her....and I tried to get her reaction on some of the restraint stuff but it was tough to tell if she was really into it or not. perhaps she doesn't even know what she's into?